Building Relationships

Ep. 027 3 Battles You Can Let Your Child Win // Lisa Andersen of Thriving Motherhood

What three battles would you let your child win?

If you feel like you face battle after battle with your child, this episode is for you!  Lisa Andersen, a mother of four who is passionate about helping moms thrive, teaches us 3 power struggles we can opt out of.

I’m not going to tell you ahead of time what the three battles are…so you’ll have to listen! 😉

Chime in and tell us your opinions and ideas in the comments on this post or on my Instagram account, @ https://www.instagram.com/3in30podcast/

 

Show Notes

-Lisa Andersen’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thrivingmotherhood/

-Thriving Motherhood Conference: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/thriving-mothers-conference-express-session-tickets-44616612489

-Ep. 017 with Jody Moore: http://3in30podcast.com/ep-017-3-keys-happier-marriage-jody-moore-bold-new-mom/

-Ep. 004 with Ralphie Jacobs: http://3in30podcast.com/yelling/

-Ellen Satyr, Expert on Positive and Joyful Eating and Feeding: https://www.ellynsatterinstitute.org/

-Division of Responsibility with Eating: https://www.ellynsatterinstitute.org/how-to-feed/the-division-of-responsibility-in-feeding/

-Amy McCready, Positive Parenting Solutions (When-Then tactic): https://www.positiveparentingsolutions.com/

 

 

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Ep. 026 How to Praise Your Child When It Feels Like There is Nothing to Praise // Tony Overbay, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist

How to Praise Your Child When It Feels LIke There is Nothing to Praise __ Tony Overbay, LMFT

I don’t know about you, but sometimes I feel truly stuck in a rut of nagging, bossing, and criticizing my children.  This is not who I want to be–but when I can’t get my children to listen to me or to behave, what other option do I have??

Gratefully, Tony Overbay, a professional counselor and father of four, is on the podcast today to teach us a better way.

Using the principles of a powerful parenting and child development model called The Nurtured-Heart Approach, Tony shares four ways that we can effectively praise our children in order to energize the positive in them and in our homes:

Listen in as Tony teaches us how to acknowledge and praise…

 

1) What we see our children doing (active recognition)

2) What we see our children doing, plus what that shows about their greatness (experiential recognition)

3) What we don’t see our children doing (proactive recognition)

4) What we want to see our children doing (creative recognition)

 

This episode has the potential to change your parenting and the environment in your home forever.  Don’t miss it!

 

Show Notes:

Tony’s website: TonyOverbay.com

Tony’s podcast, The Virtual Couch: http://www.tonyoverbay.com/category/podcast/

Transforming the Difficult Child: The Nurtured-Heart Approach by Howard Glasser

Children’s Success Foundation

PDF of the 4 Recognition Types: http://www.naswwv.org/index.php/documents/177-c1-wendy-baracka-transforming-the-difficult-child-nha-recognition-techniques/file

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Ep. 023 How to Stop Looking at your Phone So Much–And Why It Matters // Dr. Katie Penry, Licensed Clinical Psychologist

How to Stop Looking at your Phone So Much--and Why It Matters Dr. Katie Penry, LCP

“Parents act as mirrors for their children. Children learn who they are in the reflection of another person’s watchful gaze.”

Dr. Katie Penry, a licensed clinical psychologist and mother of two young children, is on the podcast today teaching us the brain research behind why we need to look up from our phones and engage more with our little children.

And she doesn’t just tell us WHY to do this…she also tells us HOW!  Listen in as she explains each of the following takeaways:

 

1) Decide on some sacred spaces and places where you will not use your phone. (This matters more than arbitrary time limits for yourself.)

2) Tell your kids what you are doing when you are looking at your phone.

3) Use your phone’s non-notification settings to help you be present at important times of day.

 

Listen to the podcast as an introduction to Dr. Penry’s work, and then head to her website to sign up for her 7-day email course called the “Look Up Challenge”: https://afriendlyaffair.lpages.co/look-up-challenge/

 

Fascinating Facts from the Interview:

-Almost 80% of your child’s brain development happens from age 0-3 years, through consistent verbal and non-verbal interaction with their parents

-Look at your baby and attune to who they are and what they love–react to each other–Harvard Psychologists call this “Serve and Return”

-Daniel Stern, a renowned American psychologist, found that 70%-80% of the time that your baby is alert, he/she is looking at you.

-Babies are born able to see the exact distance from their biological mother’s eye to nipple. (!!!)

 

Show Notes:

-Dr. Katie Penry’s 7-day FREE email course, the #LookUpChallenge”: https://afriendlyaffair.lpages.co/look-up-challenge/

-Sign up to receive a monthly PDF of all the podcast takeaways: 3in30podcast.com

-Dr. Katie Penry’s website: https://www.afriendlyaffair.com/

-Dr. Katie Penry’s Instagram account: https://www.instagram.com/afriendlyaffair/

-Children’s book about the life of Nelle Harper Lee, the author of To Kill a Mockingbird: https://www.amazon.com/Alabama-Spitfire-Story-Harper-Mockingbird/dp/0062456709

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Ep. 021 3 Easy but Impactful Ways to Deepen Relationships with Others

3 Lessons Learned from a high school student, a tradition of burning mix CDs, and a kidney stent. PODCAST.

In this episode, you will hear Rachel sing Destiny’s Child; model how to ask someone how they are doing without pity in your voice; praise the hero who cleaned her bathroom when she had kidney stones…

AND SO MUCH MORE.

You don’t want to miss this episode, which is an continuation of last week’s podcast on “How to Be a Good Friend, Instead of Being Friendly.”

If you love people, and you want to love people better, listen in as Rachel dives deep into the importance of:

 

1) Using people’s names.

2) Following up with friends who you know are going through hard times.

3) Letting people serve you.

 

Show Notes:

Sign up for the monthly printables: 3in30podcast.com

Order a little “follow up” gift: TheBrightBoxes.com

 

Previous Episodes Referred to In This Episode:

How to Be a Friend, Instead of Just Being Friendly: http://3in30podcast.com/friendship/

How to Support Someone Who is Grieving: http://3in30podcast.com/grief/

Three Messages of Hope for the Darkest Times: http://3in30podcast.com/hope/

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Ep. 020 How to Be a Friend Instead of Just Being Friendly // Brooke Romney

Concrete ideas for being a good friend...even if you're really busy

As mothers, this can be a hard stage of life to find and maintain meaningful friendships.

Many of us feel busy and overwhelmed–barely managing the needs of our own families.

Opportunities to connect with other women might feel scarce, depending on the ages and needs of our children.

Sometimes it’s just easier to give a friendly wave or a quick hello in the hallway at church than to invest in a real friendship with someone.

In this week’s episode, Brooke Romney, a mother of four and a professional writer, shares totally doable ways that we can be good friends to other women, even if we are busy, shy, or maxed out on life.

Brooke discusses each of the following takeaways, offering concrete ideas within each:

 

1) Take advantage of small opportunities to build connection by simply being present wherever we are. 

2) Follow the advice that we give our children about being a good friend.

3) Don’t wait for life conditions to be perfect before extending friendship to others.

 

Don’t miss this conversation where we learn how to go beyond just being friendly, to start being real friends.

 

Show Notes

-Brooke’s website: http://brookeromney.com/

-Brooke’s article in the Deseret News: “It’s Time to Stop Being Friendly and Start Being a Friend

-Rachel’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/3in30podcast/

-Brooke’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brookeromneywrites/

 

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