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How to Coach your Children through their Big Emotions (Ep 030) // Georgia Anderson of KnowHowMom.com

3 Steps for coaching your children through their big emotions

Our little kids come with big emotions—too big, it sometimes seems, for their little bodies. And sometimes (often?) those feelings just come bursting out in bizarre and irrational behaviors.

As parents, this can bring out the bizarre and irrational in us as well, despite our best intentions to stay calm and level-headed.

Today on the podcast, we have a parenting expert who is going to teach us how to coach our children through their emotions, so we can keep ahold of our own.

Georgia Anderson of knowhowmom.com is a wife, mother, stepmother, mother-in-law, and grandmother to 28 people she adores. She has taught parenting classes for three decades and is a Certified Active Parenting Instructor and a Gottman Trained Educator.

In this episode, she walks us through three of the steps to “emotion coach” our children through their big emotions:

 

1) Notice emotions when they are small.

2) Put words to emotions.

3) Set limits and problem solve.

 

There are so many gems and insights in this episode, as she walks me through a specific scenario when my six-year-old son got extremely angry.  I think it will be helpful for you to hear me coached on how I can coach him.  I have applied these steps in the weeks since this interview was recorded, and it has honestly changed my relationship with my son.  Please listen!

Notes

Georgia’s website: knowhowmom.com

Georgia’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/knowhowmomtips/

Upcoming Emotion Coaching Workshop with Georgia: http://www.knowhowmom.com/class/emotion-coaching-for-parents-2/

Book Recommendation: Feelings Buried Alive Never Die by Karol K. Truman

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Making the Most of Everyday Moments to Connect with Our Children (Ep 029) // April Perry of Power of Moms

Making the Most of Everyday Moments to Connect with our Children April Perry of Power of Moms

When her mother was dying of Alzheimers, April Perry felt an urgency to write a book about her–to capture in words the beautiful memories and lessons of her life.

Each Thursday, she would spend the day with her mom and dad, and she would read them the latest chapter from her book, reliving with them how much her mother had shaped her.  April says those Thursdays were some of the most sacred days of her life.

Today on the podcast, we will talk about three chapters from April’s book, which capture lessons about how to connect with our kids during everyday moments.

This episode will remind you that you don’t need to do more as a mother–you simply need to “lean in” to those mundane, everyday moments with your children that are actually making a profound difference to them.

**To enter a giveaway for a copy of April’s book, simply share a memory of your mother on social media this week and tag @3in30podcast, or send it to me in an email at 3in30podcast@gmail.com.

Show Notes

“Your Children Want YOU!” article from Power of Moms: https://powerofmoms.com/your-children-want-you/

Thursdays with Zoe (April’s book): https://www.amazon.com/Thursdays-Zoe-Unforgettable-Stories-Alzheimers/dp/1537501275

“The Best Nine Minutes” article from Power of Moms: https://powerofmoms.com/the-nine-minutes-that-have-the-greatest-impact/?tag=powofmom-20

“Five Words That People In Your Life Need to Hear” by Christy Wright: https://www.businessboutique.com/2017/01/five-words-that-people-in-your-life-need-to-hear/

April’s previous podcast on 3 in 30, “Getting Out of Overwhelm: A Step-by-Step Process”: http://3in30podcast.com/overwhelm/

 

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How to Raise Confident Children (Ep 028) // Marilyn Faulkner

A mother of five, grandmother of nine, shares her best advice on raising confident children

Marilyn Faulkner raised five rockstar children, helped her husband start multiple companies, got a Masters degree when she was 45, and published three books (with her next book due for publication in July). She spreads wisdom and laughter everywhere she goes, and she shares some of both on this week’s episode.  (I dare you to listen to the entire 30 minutes without laughing aloud.)

She is the mother of Alison Faulkner from TheAlisonShow.com and Andrea Williams from TubbyTodd.com.  She also has three incredibly smart and successful sons who may or may not be able to keep up with their sisters in a dance contest.  I’m waiting to see that.

I met Marilyn at a branding workshop last November and immediately loved her.  So when a podcast listener asked me to get a grandma on the podcast who could give us some “looking back” advice, I knew just who to ask.  I wanted someone who would give us more than the trite “enjoy every minute” advice that we so often hear, and I knew Marilyn would deliver some true wisdom.

This is one of my favorite episodes to date, so listen in as she teaches us how to raise confident children by…

 

1) Limiting our criticisms. “You can’t build a wall by taking off bricks.”

2) Talking to our kids like they are already the intelligent adults we hope they will become.

3) Living full lives of our own, and modeling happiness for our children.

 

Show Notes

-Marilyn Faulkner’s books:

Back to the Best Books: How the Classics Can Change Your Life

The User-Friendly Book of Mormon: Timeless Truths for Today’s Challenges

The User-Friendly Old Testament: A Modern Approach to Ancient Scripture

-Resources referenced in the episode:

Seven Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey

Podcast episode about specific ways to praise your children with Tony Overbay: http://3in30podcast.com/praise/

Miss Manners’ Guide to Rearing Perfect Children by Judith Martin

Alison’s Build an Awesome Brand Workshop: https://alisonsbrandschool.com/workshop/

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3 Battles You Can Let Your Child Win (Ep 027) // Lisa Andersen of Thriving Motherhood

What three battles would you let your child win?

If you feel like you face battle after battle with your child, this episode is for you!  Lisa Andersen, a mother of four who is passionate about helping moms thrive, teaches us 3 power struggles we can opt out of.

I’m not going to tell you ahead of time what the three battles are…so you’ll have to listen! 😉

Chime in and tell us your opinions and ideas in the comments on this post or on my Instagram account, @ https://www.instagram.com/3in30podcast/

 

Show Notes

-Lisa Andersen’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thrivingmotherhood/

-Thriving Motherhood Conference: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/thriving-mothers-conference-express-session-tickets-44616612489

-Ep. 017 with Jody Moore: http://3in30podcast.com/ep-017-3-keys-happier-marriage-jody-moore-bold-new-mom/

-Ep. 004 with Ralphie Jacobs: http://3in30podcast.com/yelling/

-Ellen Satyr, Expert on Positive and Joyful Eating and Feeding: https://www.ellynsatterinstitute.org/

-Division of Responsibility with Eating: https://www.ellynsatterinstitute.org/how-to-feed/the-division-of-responsibility-in-feeding/

-Amy McCready, Positive Parenting Solutions (When-Then tactic): https://www.positiveparentingsolutions.com/

 

 

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How to Praise Your Child When It Feels Like There is Nothing to Praise (Ep 026) // Tony Overbay, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist

How to Praise Your Child When It Feels LIke There is Nothing to Praise __ Tony Overbay, LMFT

I don’t know about you, but sometimes I feel truly stuck in a rut of nagging, bossing, and criticizing my children.  This is not who I want to be–but when I can’t get my children to listen to me or to behave, what other option do I have??

Gratefully, Tony Overbay, a professional counselor and father of four, is on the podcast today to teach us a better way.

Using the principles of a powerful parenting and child development model called The Nurtured-Heart Approach, Tony shares four ways that we can effectively praise our children in order to energize the positive in them and in our homes:

Listen in as Tony teaches us how to acknowledge and praise…

 

1) What we see our children doing (active recognition)

2) What we see our children doing, plus what that shows about their greatness (experiential recognition)

3) What we don’t see our children doing (proactive recognition)

4) What we want to see our children doing (creative recognition)

 

This episode has the potential to change your parenting and the environment in your home forever.  Don’t miss it!

 

Show Notes:

Tony’s website: TonyOverbay.com

Tony’s podcast, The Virtual Couch: http://www.tonyoverbay.com/category/podcast/

Transforming the Difficult Child: The Nurtured-Heart Approach by Howard Glasser

Children’s Success Foundation

PDF of the 4 Recognition Types: http://www.naswwv.org/index.php/documents/177-c1-wendy-baracka-transforming-the-difficult-child-nha-recognition-techniques/file

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