Building Relationships

043: What to Do When You Realize You Can’t Control Your Children // Marilyn Faulkner

What to Do When You Realize You Can't Control Your Children __ Marilyn Faulkner

How far into your motherhood journey were you before you realized that you can’t control your children?

The hilarious, wise Marilyn Faulkner is back on the podcast today to teach us how to move from “control-parenting” to “influence-parenting.”  She is a fan-favorite on the show–and for good reason.  You’re not going to want to miss her gems of wisdom (and hysterical comments) in this episode!

Show Notes

Marilyn’s first episode, “How to Raise Confident Children”: http://3in30podcast.com/confidence/

The Soul of Discipline by Kim John Payne: https://amzn.to/2B2AOop

Marilyn’s website: www.marilyngreenfaulkner.com

Marilyn’s books!

Marilyn’s daughters:

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042: How to Love Someone When It’s Complicated or Hard: Lessons from Open Adoption

How to Love Someone When It's Complicated or Hard Lessons from Open Adoption

This is the first time I’ve ever cried while recording a podcast episode.  It’s also the first time I’ve ever recorded while whispering in a bathroom during a family reunion.  So basically, prepare yourself–this is going to be vulnerable and possibly bizarre for 3 in 30!  Ultimately, I hope it’s helpful as you navigate your own  relationships and consider how to show more love in situations that can be complicated.

The beginning of this episode is an excerpt from my interview with Tony Overbay for *his* podcast, The Virtual Couch.  Tony is such a warm and caring podcast host, I felt comfortable sharing one of the most sacred experiences of my life with him–and now I share it with you.  I can truly say that this experience with prayer changed the course of my life.

In the second half of the episode, I add three takeaways and further explain my thoughts on how to love someone when it’s hard.

This episode is truly a piece of my heart and soul.  I hope you enjoy it.

Show Notes

-Full episode on Tony Overbay’s podcast, The Virtual Couch: http://www.tonyoverbay.com/2018/05/07/episode-54-in-vitro-fertilization-and-open-adoption-w-rachel-nielson-host-of-3-in-30-takeaways-for-moms/

-Mother on Instagram who I love to follow: https://www.instagram.com/kellyejensen/

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041: How to Really See your Children and Help them See You // Part 2 with Dr. Katie Penry, LCP

How to Really See Your Children and Help Them See You Part 2 with Dr. Katie Penry, LCP

She’s back!! In April, Dr. Katie Penry taught us “how to stop looking at our phones so much–and why it matters.” Now she is back on the show to teach us the next step in this process.

Listen in as this licensed clinical psychologist, who is also a mother of two children, teaches us very doable steps to build the kind of relationships with our kids where we truly see and respect them for who they are–and they do the same for us in return.

Dr. Penry is a treasure-trove of practical knowledge for families.  You don’t want to miss this episode!

Show Notes

-Part 1 with Dr. Katie Penry, “How to Stop Looking at Your Phone So Much–And Why It Matters”: http://3in30podcast.com/phones/

-Look Up Challenge: https://afriendlyaffair.lpages.co/look-up-challenge/

-Dr. Penry’s eCourse: Your Child’s Fundamental Needs: afriendlyaffair.com/needs

-Meditations from a Toolshed, C.S. Lewis: http://www.pacificaoc.org/wp-content/uploads/Meditation-in-a-Toolshed.pdf

 

I want to meet you!

-Rediscover YOU! Workshop in Utah (September 28-29): https://www.eventbrite.com/e/rediscover-you-workshop-tickets-47833978718

-The Pearl Conference In Las Vegas, NV (November 17): https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-pearl-conference-a-conference-for-mothers-tickets-48097368524

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040: How to Adventure as a Family // Chamaine Wollenzein of ‘Wandering Families’

How to Adventure as a Family Chamaine Wollenzein of 'Wandering Families'

Are you an adventuring family or a stay-at-home-and-get-stuff-done family?  I sometimes fall into the latter category (I love my to-do lists!), but whenever I muster up the energy to take my children on an adventure, I never regret it.  We seem to grow closer to each other and make more lasting memories when we discover the world together.

On today’s episode, Chamaine Wallenzein, the found of Wandering Families and a mother of five young children, gives us practical tips and tricks for how and why to adventure with our families.

And if you’re not a hiker or camper, don’t worry–this episode is still for you!  Chamaine and I discuss how an adventure is any type of shared experience that is out of the ordinary–and you can totally tailor that according to your family culture!

Listen in to this wise and spunky mama, and be inspired to build in more opportunities for connection and memories with your family!

 

Show Notes

Chamaine’s website, Wandering Families: http://www.wanderingfamilies.com/

How to Raise a Wild Child: The Art and Science of Falling in Love with Nature by Scott Sampson:  https://amzn.to/2NDwcq2

Timbernook (outdoor sensory play program): http://www.timbernook.com/2017/index.html

Dr. Katie Penry’s episode “How to Stop Looking at Your Phone So Much–And Why It Matters”: http://3in30podcast.com/phones/

Let’s Meet at the Rediscover YOU Workshop in Draper, UT (September 28-29): http://3in30podcast.com/lets-meet/

 

Great Quotes from the Episode

-“The natural world seems to invite and facilitate parent-child connection and sensitive interactions. Unplugging and taking a baby away from electronic distractions creates an opportunity for what is called ‘affective sharing’ – oohing and aahing together over the sun shining through the leaves of a big tree…feeling a soft spring rain or a light winter snowfall on your face.”  Martha Farrell Erickson

-“If a child is to keep alive his inborn sense of wonder…he [or she] needs the companionship of at least one adult who can share, rediscovering the joy, excitement, and mystery of the world we live in.”  Rachel Carson

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039: Leaving a Legacy of Love for Our Children: A Musical Tribute to My Mama

A daughter's recollections of her mother's last few years of life, and the songs that brought them together

July 14th marked 15 years since my mother passed away from breast cancer.  I’ve been thinking about this milestone for months, and it occurred to me that I could use music to honor her.

Most people don’t know that I am a singer, and within this episode, you will hear me sing five different songs that remind me of my mother.  I will tell the story behind each song, and you will see how they all weave together to create a picture of the legacy that my mother left for me.

This episode is truly a piece of my heart.  My hope is that it will bring you hope and perspective in your own motherhood journey.

Adelaide and her adoring parents

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