Finding Joy

034: How to Meditate in the Midst of Mayhem // Dr. Leah Weiss

How to Meditate in the Midst of Motherhood Mayhem Dr. Leah Weiss, Stanford University

Do you laugh aloud at the thought of having a few minutes to meditate during busy days with your children?  What if I told you that you could be meditating THE ENTIRE DAY, even in the midst of chaotic, everyday moments with your little minions?

Dr. Leah Weiss–an author, a mindfulness expert who studied with the Dali Lama, a professor at the Stanford Graduate School of Business, and a mother of three little children–teaches that this is possible.  It just requires that we redefine (or rather, correctly define) the word “meditation.”

The word “meditation” is a translation from the Tibetan word “gom.”  Dr. Weiss points out that a more literal definition of this word is simply “familiarization” or “getting to know your mind and heart.”  When explained this way, busy moms can let go of visions of silent meditation rooms and burning incense (though those things are great too!) and instead embrace every moment with their children as an opportunity to “familiarize” themselves with their own hearts and minds.  In fact, motherhood itself can become meditation.

Join me for this fascinating conversation with a renowned mindfulness expert who teaches us the Tibetan process of “dampa sum,” meaning “good in the beginning, good in the middle, and good in the end.”

Show Notes

LeahWeissPhd.com

“How We Work: Live Your Purpose, Reclaim Your Sanity, and Embrace the Daily Grind” by Dr. Leah Weiss https://amzn.to/2sz6Wby

“Motherhood Matters: Are You Willing to Suffer?” by Laura Fanucci: https://www.deseretnews.com/article/865638913/Motherhood-Matters-Are-you-willing-to-suffer.html

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032: Three Tips to Make This Summer the Best Ever // Jamie Cook of Wander and Scout

3 Tips for the Best Summer Ever Jamie Cook of Wander and Scout

Ready or not, here it comes.

Yes, summer is here, my friends.  Are you a mom who is giddy with excitement at the prospect of long summer days with your children?  Or, like me, are you shivering in fear a little bit, thinking about all of that unstructured time that often leads to a lot of fighting, a lot of mess, and very little alone time for Mom?

Jamie Cook, a mother of four who is passionate about bringing magic and adventure to everyday moments with our kids, is on the podcast today to give us three tips to make this summer our best ever.

Her ideas are realistic and adaptable to every stage of life and style of mothering.  She gives so many specific examples and stories, under each takeaway, so you are going to want a pen and paper ready!

**And don’t forget to give Rachel her birthday present. 😉  Leave a Review for 3 in 30 podcast this week!

Show Notes

Jamie’s Instagram Account: https://www.instagram.com/wander_and_scout/?hl=en

“How to Create a More Peaceful Home” podcast with information about family rhythms: http://3in30podcast.com/peaceful-home/

April Perry’s article about “Quiet Time”: https://powerofmoms.com/mommys-naptime-101-2/

Clock that turns green: https://amzn.to/2LtZkjq

Lisa Anderson who does theme weeks with her kids: https://www.instagram.com/thrivingmotherhood/

Sign up to get a monthly printable of ALL of the takeaways: 3in30podcast.com/takeaways

Taryn Palmer’s POINTS System for her kids (see my Instagram for a full explanation):

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1BvXj0dmlIvhJBWfPnQ59B11QXeZs2OWE/view?usp=sharing

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1ftlw-ATkXNQnjaEUQza8mK2tHQnQ2FFQ/view?usp=sharing

Simpler Version with PROS:

 https://drive.google.com/file/d/1DoNBiQ6CP6kCiq8gQr_S2yEIhyDBJ3Zj/view?usp=sharing

PDF Version: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1W4UrNTWMEJ_o0vxseQ-nEmIplAmDCncG/view?usp=sharing

 

 

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024: Fighting Against Mom-Guilt

Fighting Against Mom-Guilt // 3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms Podcast

A few years ago, I had a phone conversation with a friend that changed my perspective forever.  She told me why she never feels mom-guilt.  And I loved her wisdom and think of it often.

Listen to this week’s episode to hear her advice, as well as three strategies that I use frequently when I feel the mom-guilt sneaking in:

 

1) List all of the blessings that your kids have in their lives, from you and others.

2) Reject “filtered-thinking.” Zoom out so you can see the big-picture of yourself and your kids’ lives.

3) Examine whether your guilt is beckoning you higher, or dragging you down lower.

 

I love to hear from you!  Let me know what resonated from this episode or others at @3in30podcast on Instagram or 3in30podcast@gmail.com.

Show Notes:

-Organization I worked with in South Africa: https://helponenow.org/south-africa/

-More about the people I worked with in South Africa: http://fyionrachandry.blogspot.com/2016/11/i-want-to-introduce-you-to-people-who.html

-Episode about the three best tools I learned in counseling, including how to recognize and combat “filtered-thinking”: http://3in30podcast.com/ep-012-stop-mehan-3-best-tools-learned-counseling/

-Another great episode to help combat mom-guilt, “How to Be the Mom You Are, Instead of the Mom You Think You Should Be”: http://3in30podcast.com/ep-016-how-to-be-the-mom-you-are-instead-of-the-mom-you-think-you-should-be-julie-bastedo/

-Last week’s episode “How to Stop Looking at Your Phone So Much–And Why It Matters”: http://3in30podcast.com/lookup/

 

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020: How to Be a Friend Instead of Just Being Friendly // Brooke Romney

Concrete ideas for being a good friend...even if you're really busy

As mothers, this can be a hard stage of life to find and maintain meaningful friendships.

Many of us feel busy and overwhelmed–barely managing the needs of our own families.

Opportunities to connect with other women might feel scarce, depending on the ages and needs of our children.

Sometimes it’s just easier to give a friendly wave or a quick hello in the hallway at church than to invest in a real friendship with someone.

In this week’s episode, Brooke Romney, a mother of four and a professional writer, shares totally doable ways that we can be good friends to other women, even if we are busy, shy, or maxed out on life.

Brooke discusses each of the following takeaways, offering concrete ideas within each:

 

1) Take advantage of small opportunities to build connection by simply being present wherever we are. 

2) Follow the advice that we give our children about being a good friend.

3) Don’t wait for life conditions to be perfect before extending friendship to others.

 

Don’t miss this conversation where we learn how to go beyond just being friendly, to start being real friends.

 

Show Notes

-Brooke’s website: http://brookeromney.com/

-Brooke’s article in the Deseret News: “It’s Time to Stop Being Friendly and Start Being a Friend

-Rachel’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/3in30podcast/

-Brooke’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brookeromneywrites/

 

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016: How to Be the Mom You Are–Instead of the Mom You Think You Should Be // Julie Bastedo

3 strategies to accept and love your unique strengths (and weaknesses) as a mother

“Fill your life with things that make you feel whole, instead of holey.”

In this week’s episode, Julie Bastedo (who has taught high school English for 18 years and has two children of her own) walks mothers through some strategies to help us embrace who we truly are, instead of always pining after whom we think we “should” be.

With humor and wisdom (and while quoting classic literature and poety, of course), Julie dives into each of the following takeaways:

 

1) Sit down and make a list of the unique gifts that YOU bring to your children.

2) Only follow social media accounts that enhance what you are already good at. (Julie calls this “ancillary material.” And don’t worry, she defines that.)

3) Recognize that you will be a source of joy and a source of disappointment for others throughout your life…and that’s okay.

 

Don’t miss this lively and uplifting discussion between two old friends who want to empower and encourage each other–and all the women who are listening.

Show Notes

-Rachel’s podcast with Power of Moms about her trip to South Africa: https://powerofmoms.com/ordinary-moms-can-make-extraordinary-difference-crystal-paine-rachel-nielson-episode-186/

-“When I Heard the Learn’d Astronomer” by Walt Whitman

“One’s-Self I Sing by Walt Whitman: “Of Life immense in passion, pulse, and power/ Cheerful, for freest action form’d under the laws divine…”

-The Book of Joy: Lasting Happiness in a Changing World by Dalai Lama and Desmond Tutu

-Quote by Mother Teresa:

 

“People are often unreasonable, irrational, and self-centered. Forgive them anyway.

If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives. Be kind anyway.

If you are successful, you will win some unfaithful friends and some genuine enemies. Succeed anyway.

If you are honest and sincere, people may deceive you. Be honest and sincere anyway.

What you spend years creating, others could destroy overnight. Create anyway.

If you find serenity and happiness, some may be jealous. Be happy anyway.

The good you do today will often be forgotten.  Do good anyway.

Give the best you have, and it may never be enough. Give your best anyway.

In the final analysis, it’s between you and God.

It was never between you and them anyway.”

 

-Jody Moore, Bold New Mom: “Other people’s opinion of me is none of my business.”

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