Getting Through Hard Times

Modeling for our Children How to Endure Life’s Trials with Hope // Ralphie Jacobs of Simply on Purpose and her father, Bob Peters

Modeling for our Children How to Endure Life's Trials with Hope Ralphie Jacobs and Bob Peters

How do we stay positive when we face incomprehensible trials?  How do we endure well and allow our struggles to soften and strengthen us?  And perhaps most importantly, how do we model this kind of resilience for our children?

Today on the podcast, Ralphie Jacobs, the respected parenting expert from Simply on Purpose, talks about her heroic father who, as a father of nine children, was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis when Ralphie was five years old.  He lost the ability to walk by the time Ralphie was ten, and he has endured MS for over 30 years.

This interview is especially meaningful because Ralphie’s father joins us on the call.  Ralphie wanted him to hear her tribute to him and to add his own thoughts to the discussion–and it is a truly tender and touching conversation between a beloved father and “his girl.”

I felt honored to be apart of this sacred conversation, and I know you will feel the same after you listen.  You will come away braver, more determined to stay positive, and completely inspired to invest in your children when they are young–so you can have rich relationships with them that last a lifetime.

Show Notes

-Ralphie’s Instagram account and teaching platform, Simply on Purpose: https://www.instagram.com/simplyonpurpose/?hl=en

-Ralphie’s interview on the Extraordinary Moms Podcast: https://extraordinarymomspodcast.com/ralphie/

-Ralphie’s first interview on 3 in 30, “How to Step Yelling at Your Kids”: http://3in30podcast.com/yelling/

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How to Stop Being Mean to Yourself (Encore!)

3 Tools I Learned in Counseling to Manage Negative Self-Talk and Unhealthy Behaviorsd

The past few weeks at our house have been so busy that I’ve slipped into some negative self-talk and coping behaviors. Whenever this happens, I feel so frustrated with myself, thinking, “Rachel, you know better than this!  You’ve learned great strategies in counseling over the past six years to help you stay in the positive!”

That’s when I remind myself that recovery isn’t linear.  We can have little setbacks along the way, without being all the way back at the beginning.  Yes, I’ve come a long way since the beginning of my therapy journey, but I’m still learning and practicing–and that’s okay.

This Encore episode is as much as reminder for ME as it is for you.  I’ve recorded a new intro to tell you what’s going on in my life right now, and then I re-air what I consider to be one of the most important episodes I’ve ever published.

Whether or not you’ve listened to this episode before, I hope you will listen!

 

Show Notes

The Surprising Way I Confronted my Eating Disorder” (narrative therapy): https://powerofmoms.com/eating-disorder/

Unhealthy Stress or Habits? Break the Cycle!” (podcast on Power of Moms): https://powerofmoms.com/unhealthy-stress/

“Listening to and Loving your Body through Intuitive Eating” (podcast on Power of Moms): https://powerofmoms.com/intuitive-eating/

 

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How to Meditate All Day Long, Even As Busy Mothers (Ep 034) // Dr. Leah Weiss

Dr. Leah Weiss, Professor at the Stanford Graduate School of Business, redefines "mindfulness" and "meditation" for busy mothers, making it doable for all of us!

Do you laugh aloud at the thought of having a few minutes to meditate during busy days with your children?  What if I told you that you could be meditating THE ENTIRE DAY, even in the midst of chaotic, everyday moments with your little minions?

Dr. Leah Weiss–an author, a mindfulness expert who studied with the Dali Lama, a professor at the Stanford Graduate School of Business, and a mother of three little children–teaches that this is possible.  It just requires that we redefine (or rather, correctly define) the word “meditation.”

The word “meditation” is a translation from the Tibetan word “gom.”  Dr. Weiss points out that a more literal definition of this word is simply “familiarization” or “getting to know your mind and heart.”  When explained this way, busy moms can let go of visions of silent meditation rooms and burning incense (though those things are great too!) and instead embrace every moment with their children as an opportunity to “familiarize” themselves with their own hearts and minds.  In fact, motherhood itself can become meditation.

Join me for this fascinating conversation with a renowned mindfulness expert who teaches us the Tibetan process of “dampa sum,” meaning “good in the beginning, good in the middle, and good in the end.”

Show Notes

LeahWeissPhd.com

“How We Work: Live Your Purpose, Reclaim Your Sanity, and Embrace the Daily Grind” by Dr. Leah Weiss https://amzn.to/2sz6Wby

“Motherhood Matters: Are You Willing to Suffer?” by Laura Fanucci: https://www.deseretnews.com/article/865638913/Motherhood-Matters-Are-you-willing-to-suffer.html

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Making the Most of Everyday Moments to Connect with Our Children (Ep 029) // April Perry of Power of Moms

Making the Most of Everyday Moments to Connect with our Children April Perry of Power of Moms

When her mother was dying of Alzheimers, April Perry felt an urgency to write a book about her–to capture in words the beautiful memories and lessons of her life.

Each Thursday, she would spend the day with her mom and dad, and she would read them the latest chapter from her book, reliving with them how much her mother had shaped her.  April says those Thursdays were some of the most sacred days of her life.

Today on the podcast, we will talk about three chapters from April’s book, which capture lessons about how to connect with our kids during everyday moments.

This episode will remind you that you don’t need to do more as a mother–you simply need to “lean in” to those mundane, everyday moments with your children that are actually making a profound difference to them.

**To enter a giveaway for a copy of April’s book, simply share a memory of your mother on social media this week and tag @3in30podcast, or send it to me in an email at 3in30podcast@gmail.com.

Show Notes

“Your Children Want YOU!” article from Power of Moms: https://powerofmoms.com/your-children-want-you/

Thursdays with Zoe (April’s book): https://www.amazon.com/Thursdays-Zoe-Unforgettable-Stories-Alzheimers/dp/1537501275

“The Best Nine Minutes” article from Power of Moms: https://powerofmoms.com/the-nine-minutes-that-have-the-greatest-impact/?tag=powofmom-20

“Five Words That People In Your Life Need to Hear” by Christy Wright: https://www.businessboutique.com/2017/01/five-words-that-people-in-your-life-need-to-hear/

April’s previous podcast on 3 in 30, “Getting Out of Overwhelm: A Step-by-Step Process”: http://3in30podcast.com/overwhelm/

 

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How to Praise Your Child When It Feels Like There is Nothing to Praise (Ep 026) // Tony Overbay, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist

How to Praise Your Child When It Feels LIke There is Nothing to Praise __ Tony Overbay, LMFT

I don’t know about you, but sometimes I feel truly stuck in a rut of nagging, bossing, and criticizing my children.  This is not who I want to be–but when I can’t get my children to listen to me or to behave, what other option do I have??

Gratefully, Tony Overbay, a professional counselor and father of four, is on the podcast today to teach us a better way.

Using the principles of a powerful parenting and child development model called The Nurtured-Heart Approach, Tony shares four ways that we can effectively praise our children in order to energize the positive in them and in our homes:

Listen in as Tony teaches us how to acknowledge and praise…

 

1) What we see our children doing (active recognition)

2) What we see our children doing, plus what that shows about their greatness (experiential recognition)

3) What we don’t see our children doing (proactive recognition)

4) What we want to see our children doing (creative recognition)

 

This episode has the potential to change your parenting and the environment in your home forever.  Don’t miss it!

 

Show Notes:

Tony’s website: TonyOverbay.com

Tony’s podcast, The Virtual Couch: http://www.tonyoverbay.com/category/podcast/

Transforming the Difficult Child: The Nurtured-Heart Approach by Howard Glasser

Children’s Success Foundation

PDF of the 4 Recognition Types: http://www.naswwv.org/index.php/documents/177-c1-wendy-baracka-transforming-the-difficult-child-nha-recognition-techniques/file

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