Getting Through Hard Times

029: Making the Most of Everyday Moments to Connect with Our Children // April Perry of Power of Moms

Making the Most of Everyday Moments to Connect with our Children April Perry of Power of Moms

When her mother was dying of Alzheimers, April Perry felt an urgency to write a book about her–to capture in words the beautiful memories and lessons of her life.

Each Thursday, she would spend the day with her mom and dad, and she would read them the latest chapter from her book, reliving with them how much her mother had shaped her.  April says those Thursdays were some of the most sacred days of her life.

Today on the podcast, we will talk about three chapters from April’s book, which capture lessons about how to connect with our kids during everyday moments.

This episode will remind you that you don’t need to do more as a mother–you simply need to “lean in” to those mundane, everyday moments with your children that are actually making a profound difference to them.

**To enter a giveaway for a copy of April’s book, simply share a memory of your mother on social media this week and tag @3in30podcast, or send it to me in an email at 3in30podcast@gmail.com.

Show Notes

“Your Children Want YOU!” article from Power of Moms: https://powerofmoms.com/your-children-want-you/

Thursdays with Zoe (April’s book): https://www.amazon.com/Thursdays-Zoe-Unforgettable-Stories-Alzheimers/dp/1537501275

“The Best Nine Minutes” article from Power of Moms: https://powerofmoms.com/the-nine-minutes-that-have-the-greatest-impact/?tag=powofmom-20

“Five Words That People In Your Life Need to Hear” by Christy Wright: https://www.businessboutique.com/2017/01/five-words-that-people-in-your-life-need-to-hear/

April’s previous podcast on 3 in 30, “Getting Out of Overwhelm: A Step-by-Step Process”: http://3in30podcast.com/overwhelm/

 

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026: How to Praise Your Child When It Feels Like There is Nothing to Praise // Tony Overbay, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist

How to Praise Your Child When It Feels LIke There is Nothing to Praise __ Tony Overbay, LMFT

I don’t know about you, but sometimes I feel truly stuck in a rut of nagging, bossing, and criticizing my children.  This is not who I want to be–but when I can’t get my children to listen to me or to behave, what other option do I have??

Gratefully, Tony Overbay, a professional counselor and father of four, is on the podcast today to teach us a better way.

Using the principles of a powerful parenting and child development model called The Nurtured-Heart Approach, Tony shares four ways that we can effectively praise our children in order to energize the positive in them and in our homes:

Listen in as Tony teaches us how to acknowledge and praise…

 

1) What we see our children doing (active recognition)

2) What we see our children doing, plus what that shows about their greatness (experiential recognition)

3) What we don’t see our children doing (proactive recognition)

4) What we want to see our children doing (creative recognition)

 

This episode has the potential to change your parenting and the environment in your home forever.  Don’t miss it!

 

Show Notes:

Tony’s website: TonyOverbay.com

Tony’s podcast, The Virtual Couch: http://www.tonyoverbay.com/category/podcast/

Transforming the Difficult Child: The Nurtured-Heart Approach by Howard Glasser

Children’s Success Foundation

PDF of the 4 Recognition Types: http://www.naswwv.org/index.php/documents/177-c1-wendy-baracka-transforming-the-difficult-child-nha-recognition-techniques/file

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024: Fighting Against Mom-Guilt

Fighting Against Mom-Guilt // 3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms Podcast

A few years ago, I had a phone conversation with a friend that changed my perspective forever.  She told me why she never feels mom-guilt.  And I loved her wisdom and think of it often.

Listen to this week’s episode to hear her advice, as well as three strategies that I use frequently when I feel the mom-guilt sneaking in:

 

1) List all of the blessings that your kids have in their lives, from you and others.

2) Reject “filtered-thinking.” Zoom out so you can see the big-picture of yourself and your kids’ lives.

3) Examine whether your guilt is beckoning you higher, or dragging you down lower.

 

I love to hear from you!  Let me know what resonated from this episode or others at @3in30podcast on Instagram or 3in30podcast@gmail.com.

Show Notes:

-Organization I worked with in South Africa: https://helponenow.org/south-africa/

-More about the people I worked with in South Africa: http://fyionrachandry.blogspot.com/2016/11/i-want-to-introduce-you-to-people-who.html

-Episode about the three best tools I learned in counseling, including how to recognize and combat “filtered-thinking”: http://3in30podcast.com/ep-012-stop-mehan-3-best-tools-learned-counseling/

-Another great episode to help combat mom-guilt, “How to Be the Mom You Are, Instead of the Mom You Think You Should Be”: http://3in30podcast.com/ep-016-how-to-be-the-mom-you-are-instead-of-the-mom-you-think-you-should-be-julie-bastedo/

-Last week’s episode “How to Stop Looking at Your Phone So Much–And Why It Matters”: http://3in30podcast.com/lookup/

 

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019: Helping our Kids Rewire Difficult Behaviors // Chrissy Austin, Speech Language Pathologist

Chrissy Austin, a SLP, teaches us a three-step process for helping our children rewire patterns of negative behavior

All of our kids get stuck in behaviors that are difficult for us and others to deal with–perhaps it’s whining, interrupting, fighting with siblings, or defiance.

According to Chrissy Austin, a speech language pathologist with 17 years of experience teaching children social skills and communication, these neurological “loops” can be rewired.  She does it every day in her private practice, and, in this week’s episode, she teaches us how to do it!  We can follow this simple three-step process with our kids, in our homes:

 

1) Identify the specific troublesome behavior, and then ask yourself, “What SKILL does my child need to learn in order to change this behavior?”

2) Sit down with the child and make a GOAL to learn the new skill.  Have him or her make it visual by writing it down and/or drawing a picture.  Consider adding a hand cue.

3) Offer positive reinforcement through verbal praise whenever the child is working on their goal, and consider adding additional reinforcement through earning privileges, if needed.

 

Chrissy offers so many fantastic tips and interesting bits of research throughout the interview.  You won’t want to miss it, especially if you sometimes struggle with knowing how to help your children change.

Show Notes

-Michelle Garcia Winter: https://www.socialthinking.com/

-“Kids Beyond Limits” by Anat Baniel

-“Finally Focused” by James Greenblatt

 

 

 

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How to Support those who are Grieving (Ep 013) // Rachel Gainer of Rachel Rebuilt

A podcast with specific ideas of what to say and do for those who are grieving

Many of us know friends and family members who have lost precious loved ones.  During those heartbreaking times, it’s so hard to know what to say and do to show our love and support.

On today’s podcast, we hear from a mother who has been there and has so much wisdom to share.  Several years ago, Rachel Gainer lost her two-month-old daughter, Daphne, and was engulfed in sorrow.  She talks about her journey to “rebuilding” her sense of self after Daphne’s death, and she shares invaluable insight into what it’s like to grieve and what we can do to serve those around us who are hurting.

Listen in as she teaches us how to…

 

1) Reach out to the grieving family, no matter how long it has been.

2) Offer a specific service or gift based on your talents and interests.

3) Speak with sensitivity.

 

This is an episode that everyone should listen to–because, at some point, we will all inevitably need to support someone whom we love who is grieving.  You won’t want to miss Rachel’s ideas for specific, heartfelt gifts we can send and meaningful words we can say.  You’ll also want to hear all about her angel baby, Daphne.

Rachel Gainer on 3 in 30 podcast

Daphne_2

Show Notes

Rachel Gainer’s website: RachelRebuilt.com

Rachel Gainer’s Instagram: @rachel_rebuilt

Ink Puddles by Karin (custom artwork for families):  https://www.etsy.com/shop/InkPuddlesbyKarin?ref=l2-shopheader-name

**This portrait was done for a family who lost their baby:

Family Portrait after Loss--Ink Puddles by Karin

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