I think we all know that parenting can be hard– but from what I’ve heard, step-parenting is even harder. Think about some of the struggles you face with your children– maybe it’s dealing with sassy attitudes or figuring out the rules and technology expectations in your home. Then imagine trying to navigate all of that with children who also have another parent or set of parents and another home they live in part of the time. I can only imagine how complicated that must get and how many big emotions are involved.
Today’s guest, Amanda Louder–a life coach, podcaster, mother of three, and stepmother of two–gives three takeaways that have helped her navigate and embrace her blended family:
1) Treat your step children as equals to your own children: give them the same amount of love, responsibility, and discipline
2) Understand that he was their dad first
3) Try to find a new family culture
Amanda has such a positive outlook as she strives to “live from love” in the relationships she has with all of her children.
Podcast: Live from Love
“To the Mom Who Doesn’t Feel Like a Mother, Yet”– blog post by Katie Davis Majors
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“The truth is, I don’t like motherhood–and I desperately want to.”
In August of 2016, I wrote these words in an email to a woman I’d never met before but had admired from afar, asking for her advice. At the heart of my message was this question: “How can I learn to love motherhood more?”
My kids were 5 and 2 at the time, and long days at home with them were brutal for me, despite my best efforts to be a patient and fun mom. I felt lost and unfulfilled–but too embarrassed to admit just how desperate I felt to anyone in my real life. It was safer to reach out to someone distant, and that’s why I emailed one of my mom-heroes from Instagram, Kelly Jensen.
I never would’ve believed that just over two years later, I would be talking to Kelly on my very own podcast, reading her that heartfelt plea for help I sent I sent via email and sharing her response with moms all over the world.
It was thrilling for me to interview Kelly for this week’s episode. She’s a mother of five who is known for her contagious love of family life, with her seasonal “Live Lists” and love letters to her children (#wordsformybabies). In this episode, she cheers every mother on with the reminder to value who we are as individuals–and know that it’s enough.
-Kelly’s Instagram: @kellyejensen
-I am so excited to announce “Declutter your Motherhood Extended,” which starts with a kickoff workshop on Saturday, April 13 at Eleve Event Center in Pleasant Grove, UT, and continues for 30 days with mentoring and support. Go to 3in30podcast.com/workshops for more information and tickets!
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It’s time to pick up the kids from school, but the baby is napping.
You need to go to grocery shopping but can’t bear the thought of wrestling everyone into the car and through the store.
You want to plan a vacation to spend quality time with your older kids, but it wouldn’t be ideal for the babies.
Do any of these scenarios sound familiar? Beyond babies’ sleep schedules and toddlers tantrums, motherhood manages to get trickier as our children grow into different stages— especially in families with big age gaps between siblings. In this episode, Vanessa Quigley, co-founder of Chatbooks, gives us a glimpse into what it is like mothering seven children and juggling the needs of kids in different stages of life.
Vanessa advises moms to, as Elsa would say, “Let it go!” (as we can’t be everything to everyone); divide and conquer; and seek help through trades or hiring someone. I know you will love Vanessa’s sense of humor, warm encouragement, and down-to-earth wisdom in this interview.
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If you often go to bed feeling like you will never get caught up on all of your responsibilities, wondering how you could’ve worked so hard all day and still have a massive to-do list, this episode is for you.
April Perry, the co-founder of the websites Power of Moms and Learn Do Become, shares a step-by-step process for accomplishing big projects, even when you have very little free time. April has spent thousands of hours developing an organization system that help important people–from business leaders to mothers–control the chaos in their *minds* so they can focus on their true priorities,.
In this episode, April explains this process in detail:
1) Make an ACCURATE list of all of the projects you have brewing in your mind. (Include for your family, for you, and beyond.)
2) Narrow that list to no more than 7-8 projects to tackle this month. Put that shorter list in a visible place to reference often.
3) Using that list, identify tiny “next actions” that will move each project forward.
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As a mother of three young children and the owner of a successful business, Lauren Golden knows busyness and stress well; but she refuses to live in a constant state of overwhelm. Instead, she takes control of her life by taking control of her TIME.
In this week’s episode, Lauren teaches us three of her best strategies for creating more time as we juggle motherhood and all of the other worthy aspects of our life:
1) Saying “no” sometimes (and “no” doesn’t mean “never”)
2) Using the acronym D.R.O.P it as a way to reduce what’s on our list
3) Prioritizing her to-do list using “The Daily Five”
We hope this episode helps you during this busy holiday season!
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Patrice Washington: “I’m Not Above Backing Out” https://www.patricewashington.com/relationships/im-not-above-backing-out/