April marks the half birthday of 3 in 30, so I wanted to kick off the month with a special episode featuring YOU, the mothers of this community.
Do you remember, back in October, when we celebrated the first birthday of the podcast and I asked all of you to think of your own 3 takeaways about motherhood? That was such an inspiring month for me, as I saw your social media posts, read your emails, and listened to your voicemails of your own #my3in30 takeaways.
At that time, I compiled a bunch of your voicemails to air as a birthday episode (here!), but there were too many to fit into one 30-minute segment, so I always planned to use the rest in a half birthday episode. And that’s what you’re going to hear today! You will hear from 12 mothers who have incredibly varied life experiences and wisdom to share.
To all of you listening, YOU are what make 3 in 30 magical. I am so incredibly grateful for your support and dedication to motherhood.
A special THANK YOU to the women who contributed to this episode!
Jill (@jcoterie), Ashley (@joyful_homes), Emily, Kristie (@ourkerrazyadventure), Erin, Alisha, Melissa (@melissa.plainandsimple), Amanda, Jaraka, Jessica, and Molly.
**Each month, we create a printable of all the takeaways from the episodes that aired that month. It is a true labor of love, and we have heard feedback from many women who utilize and look forward to receiving these takeaways sheets each month. If you want all the takeaways directly to your inbox each month, sign up at 3in30podcast.com/takeaways.
“Fill your life with things that make you feel whole, instead of holey.”
In this week’s episode, Julie Bastedo (who has taught high school English for 18 years and has two children of her own) walks mothers through some strategies to help us embrace who we truly are, instead of always pining after whom we think we “should” be.
With humor and wisdom (and while quoting classic literature and poetry, of course), Julie dives into each of the following takeaways:
1) Sit down and make a list of the unique gifts that YOU bring to your children.
2) Only follow social media accounts that enhance what you are already good at. (Julie calls this “ancillary material.” And don’t worry, she defines that.)
3) Recognize that you will be a source of joy and a source of disappointment for others throughout your life…and that’s okay.
Don’t miss this lively and uplifting discussion between two old friends who want to empower and encourage each other–and all the women who are listening.
Rachel’s podcast with Power of Moms about her trip to South Africa: “How Ordinary Moms Can Make an Extraordinary Difference.”
“When I Heard the Learn’d Astronomer” by Walt Whitman
“One’s-Self I Sing by Walt Whitman: “Of Life immense in passion, pulse, and power/ Cheerful, for freest action form’d under the laws divine…”
The Book of Joy: Lasting Happiness in a Changing World by Dalai Lama and Desmond Tutu
“People are often unreasonable, irrational, and self-centered. Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives. Be kind anyway.
If you are successful, you will win some unfaithful friends and some genuine enemies. Succeed anyway.
If you are honest and sincere, people may deceive you. Be honest and sincere anyway.
What you spend years creating, others could destroy overnight. Create anyway.
If you find serenity and happiness, some may be jealous. Be happy anyway.
The good you do today will often be forgotten. Do good anyway.
Give the best you have, and it may never be enough. Give your best anyway.
In the final analysis, it’s between you and God.
It was never between you and them anyway.”
Jody Moore, Better Than Happy: “Other people’s opinion of me is none of my business.”
On Monday, I released an episode about intuitive eating with one of my best friends, Taryn Palmer, who is a registered dietician and nutritionist. I knew that episode was really just going to be an introduction to that big and important topic, and I wanted to dig a little deeper and share more of my story.
So for today’s bonus episode, I am going to share three essays I wrote while I was in therapy for an eating disorder. I think through these three different pieces of writing, you’ll be able to see the progression that my recovery took, how much intuitive eating truly helped to free me, and where I’m at today:
2. The Surprising Way I Confronted my Eating Disorder (narrative therapy)
There are so many incredible therapists, registered dietitians, and resources to help you become more familiar with intuitive eating. Here are are some to get you started:
Intuitive Eating by Evelyn Tribole and Elyse Resch
THIS POST on my Instagram where I shared about this week’s episode is filled with great resources in the comments!
There are so many things to consider when it comes to anticipating raising a child: will I ever sleep again? Will they be a picky eater? Will they be well behaved? Those are a few of the questions that went through my mind when I became a new mom. But when it comes to taking kids to the doctor, I didn’t think there was much to it. I thought it was something parents just did. I didn’t know my eyes would well with tears right alongside my toddler when the nurse administered him a shot, or what to say the next time when he asks if he has to get a shot again or even when he gets anxious just walking into the doctor’s office remembering his experience from last time.
Today’s guest, Shannon Tripp, is a mother of four and passionate about educating parents in all things first aid and safety for children. Shannon has been a pediatric nurse for more than 10 years, and today she shares a few simple tips to set our children up for success to have a positive experience at the doctor’s office. She urges parents to:
-pay attention to our own feelings and the words we use describing the doctor
-validate our kids’ feelings when they are scared
-and tell them what to expect at a doctor’s visit and what they have to look forward to after
I love how Shannon says that she sees the doctor’s office as “a place that gives parents opportunities to teach their children skills.” I know this episode will help both you and your children be more at ease when anticipating a visit to the doctor.
Parenting with Love and Logic by Foster Cline and Jim Fay
My Utah workshop is SOLD OUT and I am blown away. If you are interested in attending, visit the event page and GET ON THE WAITLIST so you will be the first to know when additional tickets are released. You can find more information about what I teach at my workshops HERE.
And for those who are unable to travel to Utah, I would like to know who is interested in an online version of the workshop. Visit 3in30podcast.com/workshops to sign up for updates.
They say love is patient; love is kind. But the truth is, sometimes it’s not EASY for love to be either of those things, especially when you are facing a devastating betrayal.
“Betrayal” can be discovering a spouse’s affair or addiction, learning that he/she has not been honest in their business dealings and has put the family’s well-being in jeopardy, and many other situations. You are faced with shattering grief, and often don’t know where to turn for support because the trial is so personal and involves someone else. It can feel so isolating.
Mika Perry—a mother, blogger, and professional organizer—has been there. In 2012 she discovered that her husband, Russ, was having an affair. Over the years since, she and Russ have worked toward healing and now openly share their story to help those suffering in silence.
Today on the show, Mika shares her experience of what life after betrayal looked like for her and how it ultimately led to a life of truth, abundance, faith, and purpose.
This is an incredibly personal and tender topic, and whether or not you choose to stay married after a betrayal, this episode will bring you hope. Please pass the episode along to someone who might need to know they are not alone.
Mika’s Instagram: @mikaperry
Mika’s website: mikaperry.com
-The blog post where Mika first opened up about the affair:
Mika and Russ’ podcast “Good to be Home.” Episode 2 is where Mika and Russ share their story
Russ Perry’s book, The Sober Entrepreneur: starts with affair and goes through the process of getting sober and building a business.
If you are struggling with betrayal trauma, here are some resources:
Caitlin Olson, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, specializes in addiction recovery and betrayal trauma. You can find her on Instagram: @caitlinolsenmft
Sariah Hoffman, certified yoga therapist, of @backpocketyoga on Instagram
Ashlynn and Coby on Instagram: @ashlynnandcoby and their podcast “The Betrayed, The Addicted, The Expert” features 3 different perspectives on topics dealing with relationships, recovery, betrayal and addiction.
Rachel and Jenae specialize in betrayal trauma (BT)- find them on Instagram: @couchtalktime
Center for Hope and Healing in Lehi, UT
Betrayal Trauma Recovery btr.org
What Can I Do About Me? by Rhyll Ann Croshaw
Treating Trauma from Sexual Betrayal by Kevin Skinner