Since I was a little girl, I have left a “wake” behind me everywhere I go–cupboards left open, shoes kicked off in the middle of the hallway, and spills on the kitchen counter that should’ve been wiped up immediately but I didn’t even notice them.
Luckily, I have a very wise friend who is teaching me better habits. Candi Kidd (who was our guest in Episode 001!) teaches moms who are naturally messy like me how to keep their lives more tidy and orderly. And her tips can really help any mom, even if you are naturally a neat-freak (P.S. you amaze me), because we all live with children…and children bring chaos and confusion along with them everywhere they go.
Join Candi and me as we dive into these three takeaways:
1) Be a detective to find and then solve the messy spots in your home.
2) Lower the “activation energy” it takes to get started with cleaning.
3) Focus on completing one J.O.B. per day.
Candi’s new Instagram account, operation_organization: https://www.instagram.com/operation_organization/
Candi’s first episode, “Getting Unmotivated Kids to Help”: http://3in30podcast.com/unmotivated-kids-to-help/
Jordan Page who came up with the acronym J.O.B. (just one bite): FunCheaporFree.com
Shel Silverstein poem about Melinda Mae who ate the whale: http://shelsilverstein.yolasite.com/melinda-mae.php
“Perfectionism, we wrongly assign only to overachievers. I think most perfectionists are actually underachievers.”
When I first heard Monica Packer of the podcast About Progress explain this phenomenon–that a perfectionist can actually become an underachiever–I was stunned. I recognized that she was describing me. I had gone from a hardcore overachiever (who had developed eating disorders as a result) to an apathetic underachiever who avoided making any sort of goals in my life.
In this week’s episode, Monica describes her own similar journey and how she has now found a middle ground: striving for “progress, not perfection.” She gives us three takeaways to consider as we head into the New Year about how to set goals that will push us to improve while also helping us maintain our mental health.
1) Don’t think too much.
2) Make room for failure.
3) Make your goals visible.
Listen in as she and I dive into these principles and offer specific examples from our own lives as “recovering perfectionists.”
Monica’s website and podcast: About Progress.com
Her Intro episode that resonated so deeply with me: http://www.aboutprogress.com/2016/11/most-likely-to-be-talk-show-host.html
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“At any given point, you can say, ‘This is not how the story is going to end.'”
Cate Johnson was a mother of two young children with a big, beautiful home in the country. From the outside, it looked like she was “living the dream,” but inside, she felt like she was drowning.
She craved peace and connection with her children–but instead she felt only chaos and overwhelm. She spent hours cleaning her big home while her kids watched television. She felt heartbroken that she was not the mother that she had always wanted to be.
In this powerful episode, Cate shares three small but significant changes that transformed their home environment:
1) Using the five senses to create a haven of peace.
2) Designating a “kid of the day” to eliminate fighting.
3) Structuring their family time around rhythms to create stability.
Cate is now a fulfilled, empowered mother, and she has a message of hope for all of us: We can have more peaceful homes, no matter where we live.
Simplicity Parenting by Kim John Payne