How to Coach your Children through their Big Emotions (Ep 030) // Georgia Anderson of KnowHowMom.com

3 Steps for coaching your children through their big emotions
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Our little kids come with big emotions—too big, it sometimes seems, for their little bodies. And sometimes (often?) those feelings just come bursting out in bizarre and irrational behaviors.

As parents, this can bring out the bizarre and irrational in us as well, despite our best intentions to stay calm and level-headed.

Today on the podcast, we have a parenting expert who is going to teach us how to coach our children through their emotions, so we can keep ahold of our own.

Georgia Anderson of knowhowmom.com is a wife, mother, stepmother, mother-in-law, and grandmother to 28 people she adores. She has taught parenting classes for three decades and is a Certified Active Parenting Instructor and a Gottman Trained Educator.

In this episode, she walks us through three of the steps to “emotion coach” our children through their big emotions:

 

1) Notice emotions when they are small.

2) Put words to emotions.

3) Set limits and problem solve.

 

There are so many gems and insights in this episode, as she walks me through a specific scenario when my six-year-old son got extremely angry.  I think it will be helpful for you to hear me coached on how I can coach him.  I have applied these steps in the weeks since this interview was recorded, and it has honestly changed my relationship with my son.  Please listen!

Notes

Georgia’s website: knowhowmom.com

Georgia’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/knowhowmomtips/

Upcoming Emotion Coaching Workshop with Georgia: http://www.knowhowmom.com/class/emotion-coaching-for-parents-2/

Book Recommendation: Feelings Buried Alive Never Die by Karol K. Truman

About the Podcast Host, Rachel Nielson

Rachel taught high school English for five years before deciding to be a stay-at-home mom to her two miracle babies, Noah Atticus, who was adopted, and Sally Grace, who was conceived through IVF.

In her life, Rachel has experienced great sorrow but also great joy--and she loves diving deep into the topics that matter most. Thank you for listening to the podcast and giving her a chance to share her heart.

6 Comments

  1. Andrea on 05/17/2018 at 11:48 AM

    I listened to this episode twice, back to back. This is awesome information! Thank you!

    • Rachel Nielson on 05/19/2018 at 8:29 AM

      You’re so welcome! I have listened to it multiple times as well! It’s been a game changer for our family.

  2. Jessica Pluim on 05/18/2018 at 12:16 PM

    Oh. My. Goodness. I SO needed this episode. Yesterday was a day FULL of meltdown after meltdown. Thank you so much for this, I am going to try these with my toddlers right now!

    • Rachel Nielson on 05/19/2018 at 8:29 AM

      Let me know how it goes!! I’m curious to know how young they can be and still have this work!!

  3. Mandy on 05/21/2018 at 8:19 PM

    With a strooong-willed child who’s 3 and another who is fairly laid-back but about to turn 2 (and starting to act like it!), this was a great episode for me.

    I loved getting the science behind Georgia’s methods; that was super motivating for me to change my perspective and my reactions. And the takeaways are so concrete and applicable.

    I tried them twice today when my 3 year old started edging toward flipping out. We were able to completely head off one tantrum. In the other, the methods pulled her back from s c r e a m i n g to pausing, thinking, and answering/correcting my tentative statement. Then I was able to understand she was nervous about what was coming next and feel compassion toward her, instead of assuming she was disobeying simply to be stubborn/assert her will.

    Thanks so much!

    • Rachel Nielson on 05/22/2018 at 10:48 PM

      I am SO glad to hear it was so helpful!! I know these tactics have been amazing for working with my strongwilled kiddos!!

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