Ep. 016 How to Be the Mom You Are (Instead of the Mom You Think You Should Be) // Julie Bastedo

3 strategies to accept and love your unique strengths (and weaknesses) as a mother
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“Fill your life with things that make you feel whole, instead of holey.”

In this week’s episode, Julie Bastedo (who has taught high school English for 18 years and has two children of her own) walks mothers through some strategies to help us embrace who we truly are, instead of always pining after whom we think we “should” be.

With humor and wisdom (and while quoting classic literature and poety, of course), Julie dives into each of the following takeaways:

 

1) Sit down and make a list of the unique gifts that YOU bring to your children.

2) Only follow social media accounts that enhance what you are already good at. (Julie calls this “ancillary material.” And don’t worry, she defines that.)

3) Recognize that you will be a source of joy and a source of disappointment for others throughout your life…and that’s okay.

 

Don’t miss this lively and uplifting discussion between two old friends who want to empower and encourage each other–and all the women who are listening.

Show Notes

-Rachel’s podcast with Power of Moms about her trip to South Africa: https://powerofmoms.com/ordinary-moms-can-make-extraordinary-difference-crystal-paine-rachel-nielson-episode-186/

-“When I Heard the Learn’d Astronomer” by Walt Whitman

“One’s-Self I Sing by Walt Whitman: “Of Life immense in passion, pulse, and power/ Cheerful, for freest action form’d under the laws divine…”

-The Book of Joy: Lasting Happiness in a Changing World by Dalai Lama and Desmond Tutu

-Quote by Mother Teresa:

 

“People are often unreasonable, irrational, and self-centered. Forgive them anyway.

If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives. Be kind anyway.

If you are successful, you will win some unfaithful friends and some genuine enemies. Succeed anyway.

If you are honest and sincere, people may deceive you. Be honest and sincere anyway.

What you spend years creating, others could destroy overnight. Create anyway.

If you find serenity and happiness, some may be jealous. Be happy anyway.

The good you do today will often be forgotten.  Do good anyway.

Give the best you have, and it may never be enough. Give your best anyway.

In the final analysis, it’s between you and God.

It was never between you and them anyway.”

 

-Jody Moore, Bold New Mom: “Other people’s opinion of me is none of my business.”

About the Podcast Host, Rachel Nielson

Rachel taught high school English for five years before deciding to be a stay-at-home mom to her two miracle babies, Noah Atticus, who was adopted, and Sally Grace, who was conceived through IVF.

In her life, Rachel has experienced great sorrow but also great joy--and she loves diving deep into the topics that matter most. Thank you for listening to the podcast and giving her a chance to share her heart.

9 Comments

  1. Liz Sacco on 02/05/2018 at 9:02 AM

    Honest and heartfelt advice, so beautifully articulated.

    • Rachel Nielson on 02/05/2018 at 9:44 AM

      Julie is incredible! She articulates everything beautifully. Thank you so much for listening!

      • Julie Bastedo on 02/16/2018 at 3:43 AM

        Rach – that’s my mom. ❤️🤣

        • Rachel Nielson on 02/17/2018 at 3:16 PM

          I figured she was related to you–I recognized that last name. 😉 She raised a truly remarkable daughter!

  2. Sarah Badat Richardson on 02/17/2018 at 10:28 AM

    I absolutely loved this episode. Gave me goosebumps! And that quote!!!

    • Rachel Nielson on 02/17/2018 at 3:15 PM

      Right?? This is one of my VERY favorites. Julie is so wise!

  3. Kelsey on 03/09/2018 at 9:40 AM

    This was the first podcast I’ve heard of you’re and I LOVED it! In the middle of listening I already started teaching out to friends! I can’t wait to hear more!!

    • Rachel Nielson on 03/10/2018 at 2:58 PM

      THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!! xoxox I hope you listen to and enjoy more episodes too!

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