In this episode, you will hear Rachel…
- Sing Destiny’s Child (I wish I were kidding)
- Model how to ask someone how they are doing without pity in your voice
- Praise the hero who cleaned her bathroom when she had kidney stones
AND SO MUCH MORE.
You don’t want to miss this episode, which is an extension of last week’s podcast on “How to Be a Good Friend, Instead of Being Friendly.”
If you love people, and you want to love people better, this is something you will want to listen to.
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Previous Episodes Referred to In This Episode:
How to Be a Friend, Instead of Just Being Friendly: http://3in30podcast.com/friendship/
How to Support Someone Who is Grieving: http://3in30podcast.com/grief/
Three Messages of Hope for the Darkest Times: http://3in30podcast.com/hope/
As mothers, this can be a hard stage of life to find and maintain meaningful friendships.
Many of us feel busy and overwhelmed–barely managing the needs of our own families.
Opportunities to connect with other women might feel scarce, depending on the ages and needs of our children.
Sometimes it’s just easier to give a friendly wave or a quick hello in the hallway at church than to invest in a real friendship with someone.
In this week’s episode, Brooke Romney, a mother of four and a professional writer, shares totally doable ways that we can be good friends to other women, even if we are busy, shy, or maxed out on life.
Brooke discusses each of the following takeaways, offering concrete ideas within each:
1) Take advantage of small opportunities to build connection by simply being present wherever we are.
2) Follow the advice that we give our children about being a good friend.
3) Don’t wait for life conditions to be perfect before extending friendship to others.
Don’t miss this conversation where we learn how to go beyond just being friendly, to start being real friends.
-Brooke’s website: http://brookeromney.com/
-Brooke’s article in the Deseret News: “It’s Time to Stop Being Friendly and Start Being a Friend”
-Rachel’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/3in30podcast/
-Brooke’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brookeromneywrites/
All of our kids get stuck in behaviors that are difficult for us and others to deal with–perhaps it’s whining, interrupting, fighting with siblings, or defiance.
According to Chrissy Austin, a speech language pathologist with 17 years of experience teaching children social skills and communication, these neurological “loops” can be rewired. She does it every day in her private practice, and, in this week’s episode, she teaches us how to do it! We can follow this simple three-step process with our kids, in our homes:
1) Identify the specific troublesome behavior, and then ask yourself, “What SKILL does my child need to learn in order to change this behavior?”
2) Sit down with the child and make a GOAL to learn the new skill. Have him or her make it visual by writing it down and/or drawing a picture. Consider adding a hand cue.
3) Offer positive reinforcement through verbal praise whenever the child is working on their goal, and consider adding additional reinforcement through earning privileges, if needed.
Chrissy offers so many fantastic tips and interesting bits of research throughout the interview. You won’t want to miss it, especially if you sometimes struggle with knowing how to help your children change.
-Michelle Garcia Winter: https://www.socialthinking.com/
-“Kids Beyond Limits” by Anat Baniel
-“Finally Focused” by James Greenblatt
“I got this crazy idea in my head 3.5 years ago to start a marriage blog, but I had so many doubts, like ‘Why would I do that? I’m not that great of a wife…’ But the idea just coming back and back… And eventually I kind of thought, ‘I can just try things and tell people how it went. I can experiment. I can conduct marriage experiments.”
This is the premise behind “Marriage Laboratory,” a marriage blog run by Celeste Davis and her husband Rich (who happens to be a real-life scientist studying immunology). This past year, she conducted experiments on the five love languages by simply focusing on one per month.
Today on the podcast, Celeste will share some of her experiments and outcomes in the following areas:
Words of Affirmation: Send your husband a loving note, text, or email every day for a month
Quality Time: Dedicate ten minutes every single night to just sitting and talking with your spouse, with no phones anywhere in sight!
Physical Touch: Have sex every other day for a month (don’t worry–she doesn’t get too steamy on this one, but her story is pretty fascinating)
Don’t miss this conversation with a wife and mother who is dedicating her life to loving her family better, in simple but profound ways.
-Celeste’s marriage blog, Marriage Laboratory: http://www.marriagelaboratory.com/
1) Words of Affirmation
-“42 Love Letter Prompts”: http://www.marriagelaboratory.com/blog/42-love-letter-prompts/
-“40 Loving Texts to Send RIGHT NOW to Make Your Partner’s Day”: http://www.marriagelaboratory.com/blog/40-loving-texts/
2) Quality Time
-“10-Minute Daily Connect Challenge”: http://www.marriagelaboratory.com/blog/10-minute-daily-connect-busy-couples/
-“The Ultimate Guide to Speaking the Love Language of Quality Time”: http://www.marriagelaboratory.com/blog/quality-time-love-language-guide/
-Article Rachel read about “bids for attention”: https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2014/06/happily-ever-after/372573/
3) Physical Touch
-“6 Resources for Spicing Up Your Marriage in the Bedroom”: http://www.marriagelaboratory.com/blog/spice-up-your-marriage/
-“What Would Happen If You Had Sex Every Other Day for a Month?”: http://www.marriagelaboratory.com/blog/sex-every-other-day/
-“46 Just Because Gift Ideas to Make Your Spouse’s Day”: http://www.marriagelaboratory.com/blog/just-because-gift-ideas/
-“DIY Anniversary Gifts (that we’ve actually made)”: http://www.marriagelaboratory.com/blog/diy-anniversary-gifts/
5) Acts of Service
-“The Best Way to Get Your Marriage Out of a Rut”: http://www.marriagelaboratory.com/blog/marriage-out-of-a-rut/
“Love is always going to serve you best. You are your best, most creative, most confident, most genius self when you’re operating in love.”
Jody Moore is a life coach and podcaster whose business has exploded in the past couple of years due to the wise principles that she teaches about how we can adjust our own thoughts in order to achieve more happiness in our relationships with others.
Jody teaches that happiness is a skill—something that we need to learn how to do and then work on it and practice over and over. On today’s podcast, she talks about three of her hallmark principles:
1) Your relationship is the story you tell yourself. Make it a good one.
2) You are 100% responsible for your own emotions–and no one else’s.
3) Every person on earth is worthy of love, just as they are.
Please listen in as we discuss these principles in the context of marriage, and don’t forget to claim your free printable of Jody’s “Three Keys to a Happier Marriage” by visiting 3in30podcast.com. (Thanks to Natalie Hansen from the podcast Babes Unpaused for designing it!)
Link to the PDF Version (for download and printing or saving): https://drive.google.com/file/d/1mJnv9KsKx32KV8xpGNBlAztSm2PjgeWz/view?usp=sharing
-Rachel’s “3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms” Instagram account: https://www.instagram.com/3in30podcast/
-Jody Moore’s Website: boldnewmom.com
-“Ask Jody Anything” Free Coaching Call: https://boldnewmom.lpages.co/public-call-invite/
-Instagrammer I follow who sees motherhood through a beautiful lens: https://www.instagram.com/kellyejensen/
-Natalie Hansen’s Podcast: Babes Unpaused: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/babes-unpaused-podcast/id1334298125?mt=2