Ep. 012 How to Stop Being Mean to Yourself: 3 of the Best Tools I Learned in Counseling

Three strategies to stop negative self-talk

Five years ago, I realized that I needed to go to counseling.  I had been coping with stress and heartache through both undereating and overeating for almost ten years, and my negative thoughts about myself had become debilitating and all-consuming.

I sought treatment from an outpatient eating disorder clinic, and I fully expected my counselor to teach me how to control my eating; instead, my counselor went to the root of the problem and taught me how to control my thinking.

I learned that destructive behaviors (such as eating disorders) are part of a three-part cycle: we have a negative thought about ourselves, we then feel a negative emotion about ourselves, and we then cope with that feeling through a destructive behavior.  In order to stop this cycle, we must have strategies to stop the negative self-talk that starts it all in the first place!

Whether or not you’ve ever struggled with an eating disorder, I think this episode will benefit you.  I share three of the best tools that I learned in counseling: these strategies halt negative self-talk and replace it with encouraging, empowering thinking.

I truly believe that almost no skill is more important for women and mothers–so I hope you will listen, and let me know what you think in the comments.

Additional Resources

Unhealthy Stress or Habits? Break the Cycle (podcast with Power of Moms)

Listening to and Loving your Body through Intuitive Eating (podcast with Power of Moms)

It Is What It Is” (article with a list of coping strategies)

The Surprising Way I Confronted my Eating Disorder” (full narrative therapy)

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Ep. 011 Setting Goals without Sacrificing Sanity // Monica Packer of About Progress

3 Takeaways for setting goals that focus on progress not perfection

“Perfectionism, we wrongly assign only to overachievers. I think most perfectionists are actually underachievers.”

When I first heard Monica Packer of the podcast About Progress explain this phenomenon–that a perfectionist can actually become an underachiever–I was stunned.  I recognized that she was describing me.  I had gone from a hardcore overachiever (who had developed eating disorders as a result) to an apathetic underachiever who avoided making any sort of goals in my life.

In this week’s episode, Monica describes her own similar journey and how she has now found a middle ground: striving for “progress, not perfection.”  She gives us three takeaways to consider as we head into the New Year about how to set goals that will push us to improve while also helping us maintain our mental health.

Packer Family

Show Notes

Monica’s website and podcast: About Progress

Listen on iTunes here.

This is her Intro episode that resonated so deeply with me.

To get the PDF printable of each month’s take-aways, visit my website and sign up: 3in30podcast.com.

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Ep. 010 Simple Holiday Traditions to Connect Generations

How to Create Traditions to Connect Generations

“How are you today, Grampy?”

“Oh the same: old and ugly, but contented.”

This is the opening line of this week’s interview with my 88-year-old grandpa.  You are going to love his personality and spunk, as he shares memories from his childhood Christmases.  My Granny also hops on to talk about what she remembers.  My heart just melts at the sound of their voices, and I am so grateful for all of the Christmas Eves that I spent in their home when I was a child.  (And we are headed there next week!  I can’t wait!)

Listen as I reflect on how to create cherished traditions that your children and maybe even grandchildren will remember, by creating “anchors” every year:

  1. A special food
  2. A meaningful gift
  3. A memorable activity

Stay tuned until the end of the episode to hear about my Christmas gift to you!  I think it will be useful to anyone who is a consistent listener to the 3 in 30 podcast.

Merry Christmas to all of you.  I truly love and appreciate you!

Show Notes

Granny’s Orange Rolls

Tommy Right Game

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**Get your Christmas present here.**

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Ep. 009 Protecting our Kids from a Holiday “Soul Fever” // Carrie Thomas Scott, MA LCPC

Protecting our Kids from a Holiday Soul Fever

Though you may never have defined it as  “soul fever” before, all parents have witnessed this malady taking over their children from time to time…when kids have had too much excitement, too little sleep, too much sugar, and too little downtime–and their behavior shows it!

On today’s episode, Carrie Thomas Scott–a licensed professioCarrie-Thomas-Scott_013nal counselor and a mother herself–uses the four pillars of Simplicity Parenting to teach us how to protect our kids from catching a “soul fever” this holiday season.

Listen in for concrete strategies on how to help your children stay balanced and soul-healthy this holiday using these four pillars:

1. Environment

2. Schedule

3. Rhythms

4. Filtering Out the Adult World

Show Notes

Simplicity Parenting by Kim John Payne

SimplicityParenting.com

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Ep. 008 Controlling Kids’ Clutter // Tana Parke

3 Strategies for Controlling Kids' Clutter

It’s the witching hour–when you are trying to get dinner made–and your four-year-old son is whining that there’s nothing to do.  You walk with him to the playroom, only to find that he has dumped out every bin of toys, yet can’t seem to find anything suitable to hold his attention.

Unable to face the mess of Legos, cars, Magformers, and stuffed animals that are now strewn everywhere, you simply close the door to the playroom and pretend it doesn’t exist.  You turn on the TV to keep your little man occupied, and you wonder, What new toy should we get him for Christmas that he will actually play with?

If this scene sounds familiar, this episode is for you.  I invited Tana Parke, a mother of five children and a semi-professional organizer, to share three strategies for keeping our kids’ clutter at bay.  Our discussion includes exciting topics, like:

  • Why you should hide some toys from your children for a while
  • Who might be happy to receive some of the little trinkets that your kids have collected (it’s not who you think!)
  • How to teach your kids to think critically about whether or not they actually want a new toy or trinket
  • Why The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up doesn’t work for children (and how you can modify it!)
  • How to allow your children to have some “treasures” while also keeping them from being hoarders

…and much more!

3 in 30 Podcast // Parke Family

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