Do you and your spouse speak the same love languages? My husband, Ryan, and I do *not.*
I am a words girl. I love them, I need them. My husband is a man of few words. He craves quality time.
There have been times in my marriage when I have resented that he doesn’t show me love in the “right” way, but in the past few years, I’ve found contentment and respect for how he shows love.
Listen to today’s episode for three strategies to love your spouse (and feel loved by your spouse), just as they are.
“The 5 Love Languages” by Gary Chapman
Online quiz to discover your love language: https://www.5lovelanguages.com/profile/
“What Happened to my Sex Drive, and How Do I Get It Back?” with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife
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Are you guilty of the distracted “Uh huh” when your children are telling you a story? When they pause for your reaction, do you realize that you have no idea what they just said?
If so, you’re not alone. And this week’s guest, Kim Jacobs, is here to help! She has a Master’s degree is Interpersonal and Family Communication, and she’s a mom of four young boys.
In this episode, we discuss…
-how to use non-verbal communication to make sure your children feel heard
-how “mirroring” can help our children know that we are empathizing with them
-how paraphrasing can help us to reconnect with a child after we’ve been interrupted
-how to lovingly hurry your child along when they are telling a 25-minute long story 😉
-how to use “perception checking” to give our kids the benefit of the doubt and a chance to explain themselves
…and much more!
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Power of Moms article about twins who developed a stutter: https://powerofmoms.com/putting-on-the-brakes/
Marilyn Faulkner’s episode “How to Raise Confident Children: http://3in30podcast.com/confidence/
How far into your motherhood journey were you before you realized that you can’t control your children?
The hilarious, wise Marilyn Faulkner is back on the podcast today to teach us how to move from “control-parenting” to “influence-parenting.” She is a fan-favorite on the show–and for good reason. You’re not going to want to miss her gems of wisdom (and hysterical comments) in this episode!
Marilyn’s first episode, “How to Raise Confident Children”: http://3in30podcast.com/confidence/
The Soul of Discipline by Kim John Payne: https://amzn.to/2B2AOop
Marilyn’s website: www.
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- Alison Faulkner of The Alison Show: http://thealisonshow.com/?cn-reloaded=1
- Andrea Faulkner Williams of Tubby Todd Bath Co: https://tubbytodd.com/
This is the first time I’ve ever cried while recording a podcast episode. It’s also the first time I’ve ever recorded while whispering in a bathroom during a family reunion. So basically, prepare yourself–this is going to be vulnerable and possibly bizarre for 3 in 30! Ultimately, I hope it’s helpful as you navigate your own relationships and consider how to show more love in situations that can be complicated.
The beginning of this episode is an excerpt from my interview with Tony Overbay for *his* podcast, The Virtual Couch. Tony is such a warm and caring podcast host, I felt comfortable sharing one of the most sacred experiences of my life with him–and now I share it with you. I can truly say that this experience with prayer changed the course of my life.
In the second half of the episode, I add three takeaways and further explain my thoughts on how to love someone when it’s hard.
This episode is truly a piece of my heart and soul. I hope you enjoy it.
-Full episode on Tony Overbay’s podcast, The Virtual Couch: http://www.tonyoverbay.com/2018/05/07/episode-54-in-vitro-fertilization-and-open-adoption-w-rachel-nielson-host-of-3-in-30-takeaways-for-moms/
-Mother on Instagram who I love to follow: https://www.instagram.com/kellyejensen/
Our little kids come with big emotions—too big, it sometimes seems, for their little bodies. And sometimes (often?) those feelings just come bursting out in bizarre and irrational behaviors.
As parents, this can bring out the bizarre and irrational in us as well, despite our best intentions to stay calm and level-headed.
Today on the podcast, we have a parenting expert who is going to teach us how to coach our children through their emotions, so we can keep ahold of our own.
Georgia Anderson of knowhowmom.com is a wife, mother, stepmother, mother-in-law, and grandmother to 28 people she adores. She has taught parenting classes for three decades and is a Certified Active Parenting Instructor and a Gottman Trained Educator.
In this episode, she walks us through three of the steps to “emotion coach” our children through their big emotions:
1) Notice emotions when they are small.
2) Put words to emotions.
3) Set limits and problem solve.
There are so many gems and insights in this episode, as she walks me through a specific scenario when my six-year-old son got extremely angry. I think it will be helpful for you to hear me coached on how I can coach him. I have applied these steps in the weeks since this interview was recorded, and it has honestly changed my relationship with my son. Please listen!
Georgia’s website: knowhowmom.com
Georgia’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/knowhowmomtips/
Upcoming Emotion Coaching Workshop with Georgia: http://www.knowhowmom.com/class/emotion-coaching-for-parents-2/
Book Recommendation: Feelings Buried Alive Never Die by Karol K. Truman