Posts Tagged ‘communication’

050: How to Actually Listen to your Children // Kim Jacobs

Podcast of 3 listening skills that build connection with your children

Are you guilty of the distracted “Uh huh” when your children are telling you a story? When they pause for your reaction, do you realize that you have no idea what they just said?

If so, you’re not alone. And this week’s guest, Kim Jacobs, is here to help! She has a Master’s degree is Interpersonal and Family Communication, and she’s a mom of four young boys.

In this episode, we discuss…

-how to use non-verbal communication to make sure your children feel heard

-how “mirroring” can help our children know that we are empathizing with them

-how paraphrasing can help us to reconnect with a child after we’ve been interrupted

-how to lovingly hurry your child along when they are telling a 25-minute long story ūüėČ

-how to use “perception checking” to give our kids the benefit of the doubt and a chance to explain themselves

…and much more!

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Show Notes

Power of Moms article about twins who developed a stutter: https://powerofmoms.com/putting-on-the-brakes/

Marilyn Faulkner’s episode “How to Raise Confident Children: http://3in30podcast.com/confidence/

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043: What to Do When You Realize You Can’t Control Your Children // Marilyn Faulkner

What to Do When You Realize You Can't Control Your Children __ Marilyn Faulkner

How far into your motherhood journey were you before you realized that you can’t control your children?

The hilarious, wise Marilyn Faulkner is back on the podcast today to teach us how to move from “control-parenting” to “influence-parenting.”¬† She is a fan-favorite on the show–and for good reason.¬† You’re not going to want to miss her gems of wisdom (and hysterical comments) in this episode!

Show Notes

Marilyn’s first episode, “How to Raise Confident Children”: http://3in30podcast.com/confidence/

The Soul of Discipline by Kim John Payne: https://amzn.to/2B2AOop

Marilyn’s website: www.marilyngreenfaulkner.com

Marilyn’s books!

Marilyn’s daughters:

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042: How to Love Someone When It’s Complicated or Hard: Lessons from Open Adoption

How to Love Someone When It's Complicated or Hard Lessons from Open Adoption

This is the first time I’ve ever cried while recording a podcast episode.¬† It’s also the first time I’ve ever recorded while whispering in a bathroom during a family reunion.¬† So basically, prepare yourself–this is going to be vulnerable and possibly bizarre for 3 in 30!¬† Ultimately, I hope it’s helpful as you navigate your own¬† relationships and consider how to show more love in situations that can be complicated.

The beginning of this episode is an excerpt from my interview with Tony Overbay for *his* podcast, The Virtual Couch.¬† Tony is such a warm and caring podcast host, I felt comfortable sharing one of the most sacred experiences of my life with him–and now I share it with you.¬† I can truly say that this experience with prayer changed the course of my life.

In the second half of the episode, I add three takeaways and further explain my thoughts on how to love someone when it’s hard.

This episode is truly a piece of my heart and soul.  I hope you enjoy it.

Show Notes

-Full episode on Tony Overbay’s podcast, The Virtual Couch: http://www.tonyoverbay.com/2018/05/07/episode-54-in-vitro-fertilization-and-open-adoption-w-rachel-nielson-host-of-3-in-30-takeaways-for-moms/

-Mother on Instagram who I love to follow: https://www.instagram.com/kellyejensen/

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030: How to Coach your Children through their Big Emotions // Georgia Anderson of KnowHowMom.com

3 Steps for coaching your children through their big emotions

Our little kids come with big emotions‚ÄĒtoo big, it sometimes seems, for their little bodies. And sometimes (often?) those feelings just come bursting out in bizarre and irrational behaviors.

As parents, this can bring out the bizarre and irrational in us as well, despite our best intentions to stay calm and level-headed.

Today on the podcast, we have a parenting expert who is going to teach us how to coach our children through their emotions, so we can keep ahold of our own.

Georgia Anderson of knowhowmom.com is a wife, mother, stepmother, mother-in-law, and grandmother to 28 people she adores. She has taught parenting classes for three decades and is a Certified Active Parenting Instructor and a Gottman Trained Educator.

In this episode, she walks us through three of the steps to “emotion coach” our children through their big emotions:

 

1) Notice emotions when they are small.

2) Put words to emotions.

3) Set limits and problem solve.

 

There are so many gems and insights in this episode, as she walks me through a specific scenario when my six-year-old son got extremely angry.  I think it will be helpful for you to hear me coached on how I can coach him.  I have applied these steps in the weeks since this interview was recorded, and it has honestly changed my relationship with my son.  Please listen!

Notes

Georgia’s website: knowhowmom.com

Georgia’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/knowhowmomtips/

Upcoming Emotion Coaching Workshop with Georgia: http://www.knowhowmom.com/class/emotion-coaching-for-parents-2/

Book Recommendation: Feelings Buried Alive Never Die by Karol K. Truman

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023: How to Stop Looking at your Phone So Much–And Why It Matters // Dr. Katie Penry, Licensed Clinical Psychologist

How to Stop Looking at your Phone So Much--and Why It Matters Dr. Katie Penry, LCP

“Parents act as mirrors for their children. Children learn who they are in the reflection of another person’s watchful gaze.”

Dr. Katie Penry, a licensed clinical psychologist and mother of two young children, is on the podcast today teaching us the brain research behind why we need to look up from our phones and engage more with our little children.

And she doesn’t just tell us WHY to do this…she also tells us HOW!¬† Listen in as she explains each of the following takeaways:

 

1) Decide on some sacred spaces and places where you will not use your phone. (This matters more than arbitrary time limits for yourself.)

2) Tell your kids what you are doing when you are looking at your phone.

3) Use your phone’s non-notification settings to help you be present at important times of day.

 

Listen to the podcast as an introduction to Dr. Penry’s work, and then head to her website to sign up for her email course called the “Look Up Challenge”: afriendlyaffair.com/lookupchallenge

 

Fascinating Facts from the Interview:

-Almost 80% of your child’s brain development happens from age 0-3 years, through consistent verbal and non-verbal interaction with their parents

-Look at your baby and attune to who they are and what they love–react to each other–Harvard Psychologists call this “Serve and Return”

-Daniel Stern, a renowned American psychologist, found that 70%-80% of the time that your baby is alert, he/she is looking at you.

-Babies are born able to see the exact distance from their biological mother’s eye to nipple. (!!!)

 

Show Notes:

-Dr. Katie Penry’s FREE email course, the #LookUpChallenge”:¬†https://afriendlyaffair.lpages.co/look-up-challenge/

-Sign up to receive a monthly PDF of all the podcast takeaways: 3in30podcast.com

-Dr. Katie Penry’s website: https://www.afriendlyaffair.com/

-Dr. Katie Penry’s Instagram account: https://www.instagram.com/afriendlyaffair/

-Children’s book about the life of Nelle Harper Lee, the author of To Kill a Mockingbird: https://www.amazon.com/Alabama-Spitfire-Story-Harper-Mockingbird/dp/0062456709

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