How do we stay positive when we face incomprehensible trials? How do we endure well and allow our struggles to soften and strengthen us? And perhaps most importantly, how do we model this kind of resilience for our children?
Today on the podcast, Ralphie Jacobs, the respected parenting expert from Simply on Purpose, talks about her heroic father who, as a father of nine children, was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis when Ralphie was five years old. He lost the ability to walk by the time Ralphie was ten, and he has endured MS for over 30 years.
This interview is especially meaningful because Ralphie’s father joins us on the call. Ralphie wanted him to hear her tribute to him and to add his own thoughts to the discussion–and it is a truly tender and touching conversation between a beloved father and “his girl.”
I felt honored to be apart of this sacred conversation, and I know you will feel the same after you listen. You will come away braver, more determined to stay positive, and completely inspired to invest in your children when they are young–so you can have rich relationships with them that last a lifetime.
-Ralphie’s Instagram account and teaching platform, Simply on Purpose: https://www.instagram.com/simplyonpurpose/?hl=en
-Ralphie’s interview on the Extraordinary Moms Podcast: https://extraordinarymomspodcast.com/ralphie/
-Ralphie’s first interview on 3 in 30, “How to Step Yelling at Your Kids”: http://3in30podcast.com/yelling/
Do you laugh aloud at the thought of having a few minutes to meditate during busy days with your children? What if I told you that you could be meditating THE ENTIRE DAY, even in the midst of chaotic, everyday moments with your little minions?
Dr. Leah Weiss–an author, a mindfulness expert who studied with the Dali Lama, a professor at the Stanford Graduate School of Business, and a mother of three little children–teaches that this is possible. It just requires that we redefine (or rather, correctly define) the word “meditation.”
The word “meditation” is a translation from the Tibetan word “gom.” Dr. Weiss points out that a more literal definition of this word is simply “familiarization” or “getting to know your mind and heart.” When explained this way, busy moms can let go of visions of silent meditation rooms and burning incense (though those things are great too!) and instead embrace every moment with their children as an opportunity to “familiarize” themselves with their own hearts and minds. In fact, motherhood itself can become meditation.
Join me for this fascinating conversation with a renowned mindfulness expert who teaches us the Tibetan process of “dampa sum,” meaning “good in the beginning, good in the middle, and good in the end.”
“How We Work: Live Your Purpose, Reclaim Your Sanity, and Embrace the Daily Grind” by Dr. Leah Weiss https://amzn.to/2sz6Wby
“Motherhood Matters: Are You Willing to Suffer?” by Laura Fanucci: https://www.deseretnews.com/article/865638913/Motherhood-Matters-Are-you-willing-to-suffer.html
Ready or not, here it comes.
Yes, summer is here, my friends. Are you a mom who is giddy with excitement at the prospect of long summer days with your children? Or, like me, are you shivering in fear a little bit, thinking about all of that unstructured time that often leads to a lot of fighting, a lot of mess, and very little alone time for Mom?
Jamie Cook, a mother of four who is passionate about bringing magic and adventure to everyday moments with our kids, is on the podcast today to give us three tips to make this summer our best ever.
Her ideas are realistic and adaptable to every stage of life and style of mothering. She gives so many specific examples and stories, under each takeaway, so you are going to want a pen and paper ready!
**And don’t forget to give Rachel her birthday present. 😉 Leave a Review for 3 in 30 podcast this week!
Jamie’s Instagram Account: https://www.instagram.com/wander_and_scout/?hl=en
“How to Create a More Peaceful Home” podcast with information about family rhythms: http://3in30podcast.com/peaceful-home/
April Perry’s article about “Quiet Time”: https://powerofmoms.com/mommys-naptime-101-2/
Clock that turns green: https://amzn.to/2LtZkjq
Lisa Anderson who does theme weeks with her kids: https://www.instagram.com/thrivingmotherhood/
Sign up to get a monthly printable of ALL of the takeaways: 3in30podcast.com/takeaways
Taryn Palmer’s POINTS System for her kids (see my Instagram for a full explanation):
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Let’s play two truths and a lie about this week’s podcast guests:
- They are twin sisters.
- One of them worked on Capitol Hill as the press secretary for two US Senators.
- One of them worked in the White House in the office of presidential speech writing.
You guessed it…there’s no lie. All three of those impressive facts are TRUTH. The moms on today’s episode have very unique life experiences, and they share their knowledge about politics, government, and American history with other moms through their website TheAmericanMoms.com.
On today’s episode, they teach us how to make the upcoming patriotic holidays, particularly Memorial Day and the 4th of July, more meaningful than just a neighborhood pool party.
Don’t miss hearing their insights about making patriotism part of your family culture, and all of their specific ideas and links are below!
The American Moms Website: theamericanmoms.com
The American Moms Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theamericanmoms/
App to find historical sites near you, “History Here”: https://www.history.com/history-here
Favorite book series to teach children about historical people: Ordinary People Change the World
A Dozen Books to Get Your Kids Excited about America: http://theamericanmoms.com/12-of-the-best-books-to-teach-patriotism-to-your-children/
Patriotic resource list from the website “Raise the Good:” http://www.raisethegood.com/blog/10-patriotic-movies-for-families
The books I purchased to teach my kids about patriotic holidays:
- The Poppy Lady by Barbara Walsh: https://amzn.to/2GBeorS
- America’s White Table by Margot Theis Raven: https://amzn.to/2KEAETW
- The Wall by Eve Bunting: https://amzn.to/2Lm7rhI
- Don’t Forget, God Bless Our Troops by Jill Biden: https://amzn.to/2LlDIFN
- Night Catch by Brenda Ehrmantraut: https://amzn.to/2GBgvvO
- Memorial Day (Rookie Read-About Holidays) by
- I Am George Washington (Ordinary People Change the World) by Brad Meltzer: https://amzn.to/2s2FWkz
(These are affiliate links, so if you purchase one of these books, it supports the podcast. Thank you!)
Other Resources from “The American Moms”:
10 Meaningful Ways to Celebrate Memorial Day: http://theamericanmoms.com/meaningful-ways-celebrate-memorial-day-kids/
Teaching My Children What the American Flag Means to Me: http://theamericanmoms.com/lessons-i-hope-my-children-remember-when-they-see-the-american-flag/
12 Meaningful Ways to Celebrate Independence Day: http://theamericanmoms.com/meaningful-ways-to-celebrate-independence-day-with-your-kids/
Quote from the Episode:
“One might also say that history is not about the past. If you think about it, no one ever lived in the past. Washington, Jefferson, John Adams and their contemporaries, didn’t walk around saying ‘Isn’t this fascinating living in the past? Aren’t we wearing our funny clothes?’ They lived in the present. The difference is, it was their present, not ours. They were caught up living in the moment exactly as we are, and with no more certainty of how things would turn out than we have.”
Our little kids come with big emotions—too big, it sometimes seems, for their little bodies. And sometimes (often?) those feelings just come bursting out in bizarre and irrational behaviors.
As parents, this can bring out the bizarre and irrational in us as well, despite our best intentions to stay calm and level-headed.
Today on the podcast, we have a parenting expert who is going to teach us how to coach our children through their emotions, so we can keep ahold of our own.
Georgia Anderson of knowhowmom.com is a wife, mother, stepmother, mother-in-law, and grandmother to 28 people she adores. She has taught parenting classes for three decades and is a Certified Active Parenting Instructor and a Gottman Trained Educator.
In this episode, she walks us through three of the steps to “emotion coach” our children through their big emotions:
1) Notice emotions when they are small.
2) Put words to emotions.
3) Set limits and problem solve.
There are so many gems and insights in this episode, as she walks me through a specific scenario when my six-year-old son got extremely angry. I think it will be helpful for you to hear me coached on how I can coach him. I have applied these steps in the weeks since this interview was recorded, and it has honestly changed my relationship with my son. Please listen!
Georgia’s website: knowhowmom.com
Georgia’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/knowhowmomtips/
Upcoming Emotion Coaching Workshop with Georgia: http://www.knowhowmom.com/class/emotion-coaching-for-parents-2/
Book Recommendation: Feelings Buried Alive Never Die by Karol K. Truman