“The truth is, I don’t like motherhood–and I desperately want to.”
In August of 2016, I wrote these words in an email to a woman I’d never met before but had admired from afar, asking for her advice. At the heart of my message was this question: “How can I learn to love motherhood more?”
My kids were 5 and 2 at the time, and long days at home with them were brutal for me, despite my best efforts to be a patient and fun mom. I felt lost and unfulfilled–but too embarrassed to admit just how desperate I felt to anyone in my real life. It was safer to reach out to someone distant, and that’s why I emailed one of my mom-heroes from Instagram, Kelly Jensen.
I never would’ve believed that just over two years later, I would be talking to Kelly on my very own podcast, reading her that heartfelt plea for help I sent I sent via email and sharing her response with moms all over the world.
It was thrilling for me to interview Kelly for this week’s episode. She’s a mother of five who is known for her contagious love of family life, with her seasonal “Live Lists” and love letters to her children (#wordsformybabies). In this episode, she cheers every mother on with the reminder to value who we are as individuals–and know that it’s enough.
-Kelly’s Instagram: @kellyejensen
-I am so excited to announce “Declutter your Motherhood Extended,” which starts with a kickoff workshop on Saturday, April 13 at Eleve Event Center in Pleasant Grove, UT, and continues for 30 days with mentoring and support. Go to 3in30podcast.com/workshops for more information and tickets!
**Use the code 3IN30 this week only to get $30 off your ticket.
They say love is patient; love is kind. But the truth is, sometimes it’s not EASY for love to be either of those things, especially when you are facing a devastating betrayal.
“Betrayal” can be discovering a spouse’s affair or addiction, learning that he/she has not been honest in their business dealings and has put the family’s well-being in jeopardy, and many other situations. You are faced with shattering grief, and often don’t know where to turn for support because the trial is so personal and involves someone else. It can feel so isolating.
Mika Perry—a mother, blogger, and professional organizer—has been there. In 2012 she discovered that her husband, Russ, was having an affair. Over the years since, she and Russ have worked toward healing and now openly share their story to help those suffering in silence.
Today on the show, Mika shares her experience of what life after betrayal looked like for her and how it ultimately led to a life of truth, abundance, faith, and purpose.
This is an incredibly personal and tender topic, and whether or not you choose to stay married after a betrayal, this episode will bring you hope. Please pass the episode along to someone who might need to know they are not alone.
Mika’s Instagram: @mikaperry
Mika’s website: mikaperry.com
-The blog post where Mika first opened up about the affair:
Mika and Russ’ podcast “Good to be Home.” Episode 2 is where Mika and Russ share their story
Russ Perry’s book, The Sober Entrepreneur: starts with affair and goes through the process of getting sober and building a business.
If you are struggling with betrayal trauma, here are some resources:
Caitlin Olson, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, specializes in addiction recovery and betrayal trauma. You can find her on Instagram: @caitlinolsenmft
Sariah Hoffman, certified yoga therapist, of @backpocketyoga on Instagram
Ashlynn and Coby on Instagram: @ashlynnandcoby and their podcast “The Betrayed, The Addicted, The Expert” features 3 different perspectives on topics dealing with relationships, recovery, betrayal and addiction.
Rachel and Jenae specialize in betrayal trauma (BT)- find them on Instagram: @couchtalktime
Center for Hope and Healing in Lehi, UT
Betrayal Trauma Recovery btr.org
What Can I Do About Me? by Rhyll Ann Croshaw
Treating Trauma from Sexual Betrayal by Kevin Skinner
The first Valentines Day that my husband and I were dating, he showed up on my doorstep with flowers and a clue that started me on a scavenger hunt to romantic places all around our college town.
Seven years later, on our first Valentines Day as parents, he showed up on our doorstep with…a toilet plunger. (You’ll have to listen to the episode to get the full story!)
Yes, becoming parents can definitely affect the romance of Valentines Day a bit–but there’s no reason why this “holiday of love” has to be limited to just you and your spouse. February 14th can be a day to celebrate family love as well!
In this episode, my amazing sister Sarah McKenna, from the craft blog Bombshell Bling, shares three totally doable and super fun Valentines traditions for the entire family.
2) Heart Attacks: https://www.bombshellbling.com/heart-attack/
3) Love Letters to your Kids: https://www.bombshellbling.com/mushy-love-letters-a-february-tradition/
I’d love to hear if you give one of these a try. Come say hi on my Instagram, 3in30podcast and let me know if you have other Valentines Traditions you do with your family!
Sarah’s website: https://www.bombshellbling.com
Sarah’s instagram: @bombshellbling
“32 Ways to Surprise Your Sweetie” by Rachel Nielson: https://www.bombshellbling.com/things-for-hubby-valentines-day/
*We are so thrilled to have Chatbooks as a sponsor this month for
3 in 30!*
Download the app or visit chatbooks.com to claim your FREE book (up to $10 in value) by using code “3in30” at checkout!
It’s time to pick up the kids from school, but the baby is napping.
You need to go to grocery shopping but can’t bear the thought of wrestling everyone into the car and through the store.
You want to plan a vacation to spend quality time with your older kids, but it wouldn’t be ideal for the babies.
Do any of these scenarios sound familiar? Beyond babies’ sleep schedules and toddlers tantrums, motherhood manages to get trickier as our children grow into different stages— especially in families with big age gaps between siblings. In this episode, Vanessa Quigley, co-founder of Chatbooks, gives us a glimpse into what it is like mothering seven children and juggling the needs of kids in different stages of life.
Vanessa advises moms to, as Elsa would say, “Let it go!” (as we can’t be everything to everyone); divide and conquer; and seek help through trades or hiring someone. I know you will love Vanessa’s sense of humor, warm encouragement, and down-to-earth wisdom in this interview.
**We are so honored to announce Chatbooks as a sponsor for 3 in 30.**
-Download the app to get start making your photo book or check out their website: https://chatbooks.com/
-Don’t forget to use code “3in30” for a FREE book, up to $10 in value!
-Hilarious Chatbooks commercial with Lisa Valentine Clark: https://bit.ly/2dXTHut
-There are a few tickets left to my workshop in Twin Falls, Idaho on Saturday, February 9th. I’d love to meet you! 3in30podcast.com/workshops
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It’s SLEEP WEEK here at 3 in 30! This week I will be bringing you TWO episodes from two different sleep experts, each focusing on a different aspect of how to get your little ones to sleep well. (Because I don’t know about you, but when I’m exhausted because my littles won’t sleep, everyone in the family suffers!)
Today on the show we have a guest who is a fan favorite, Dr. Katie Penry, a specialist in maternal and infant mental health. She and I discuss newborn sleep and how it can impact the mental health of a mom. Dr. Penry is such an encourager and even protector of mothers–and this episode will give you permission to make decisions about your family’s sleep that will benefit both your baby AND you.
Come back on Thursday for a follow-up episode from a sleep consultant who will teach us how to avoid bedtime battles with our toddlers and preschoolers (and even elementary schoolers!).
This is going to be a fun and different week at 3 in 30. Don’t miss it!
25 Infant Sleep Tips: afriendlyaffair.com/25sleeptips
Newborn 101 Course: https://afriendlyaffair.teachable.com/p/introduction-to-parenting/
“Happiest Baby on the Block” DVD: https://amzn.to/2S4VvE7
Happiest Baby on the Block by Dr. Harvey Karp: https://amzn.to/2USjKXR
Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child by Dr. Marc Weissbluth: https://amzn.to/2LnF6s6
Bringing Up Bebe by Pamela Druckerman: https://amzn.to/2UR7hE1
Episode 23 “How to Stop Looking at Your Phone So Much–and Why It Matters”: http://3in30podcast.com/phones/
Episode 41″How to Really See Your Child and Help Them See You”: http://3in30podcast.com/look-with/
Dr. Katie Penry’s website: afriendlyaffair.com
Dr. Katie Penry’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/afriendlyaffair/?hl=en
**There are a few tickets left to my workshops in Idaho happening in January and February. I’d love to meet you! 3in30podcast.com/workshops
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