When her mother was dying of Alzheimers, April Perry felt an urgency to write a book about her–to capture in words the beautiful memories and lessons of her life.
Each Thursday, she would spend the day with her mom and dad, and she would read them the latest chapter from her book, reliving with them how much her mother had shaped her. April says those Thursdays were some of the most sacred days of her life.
Today on the podcast, we will talk about three chapters from April’s book, which capture lessons about how to connect with our kids during everyday moments.
This episode will remind you that you don’t need to do more as a mother–you simply need to “lean in” to those mundane, everyday moments with your children that are actually making a profound difference to them.
**To enter a giveaway for a copy of April’s book, simply share a memory of your mother on social media this week and tag @3in30podcast, or send it to me in an email at email@example.com.
“Your Children Want YOU!” article from Power of Moms: https://powerofmoms.com/your-children-want-you/
Thursdays with Zoe (April’s book): https://www.amazon.com/Thursdays-Zoe-Unforgettable-Stories-Alzheimers/dp/1537501275
“The Best Nine Minutes” article from Power of Moms: https://powerofmoms.com/the-nine-minutes-that-have-the-greatest-impact/?tag=powofmom-20
“Five Words That People In Your Life Need to Hear” by Christy Wright: https://www.businessboutique.com/2017/01/five-words-that-people-in-your-life-need-to-hear/
April’s previous podcast on 3 in 30, “Getting Out of Overwhelm: A Step-by-Step Process”: http://3in30podcast.com/overwhelm/
I don’t know about you, but sometimes I feel truly stuck in a rut of nagging, bossing, and criticizing my children. This is not who I want to be–but when I can’t get my children to listen to me or to behave, what other option do I have??
Gratefully, Tony Overbay, a professional counselor and father of four, is on the podcast today to teach us a better way.
Using the principles of a powerful parenting and child development model called The Nurtured-Heart Approach, Tony shares four ways that we can effectively praise our children in order to energize the positive in them and in our homes:
Listen in as Tony teaches us how to acknowledge and praise…
1) What we see our children doing (active recognition)
2) What we see our children doing, plus what that shows about their greatness (experiential recognition)
3) What we don’t see our children doing (proactive recognition)
4) What we want to see our children doing (creative recognition)
This episode has the potential to change your parenting and the environment in your home forever. Don’t miss it!
Tony’s website: TonyOverbay.com
Tony’s podcast, The Virtual Couch: http://www.tonyoverbay.com/category/podcast/
Transforming the Difficult Child: The Nurtured-Heart Approach by Howard Glasser
PDF of the 4 Recognition Types: http://www.naswwv.org/index.php/documents/177-c1-wendy-baracka-transforming-the-difficult-child-nha-recognition-techniques/file
“Parents act as mirrors for their children. Children learn who they are in the reflection of another person’s watchful gaze.”
Dr. Katie Penry, a licensed clinical psychologist and mother of two young children, is on the podcast today teaching us the brain research behind why we need to look up from our phones and engage more with our little children.
And she doesn’t just tell us WHY to do this…she also tells us HOW! Listen in as she explains each of the following takeaways:
1) Decide on some sacred spaces and places where you will not use your phone. (This matters more than arbitrary time limits for yourself.)
2) Tell your kids what you are doing when you are looking at your phone.
3) Use your phone’s non-notification settings to help you be present at important times of day.
Listen to the podcast as an introduction to Dr. Penry’s work, and then head to her website to sign up for her 7-day email course called the “Look Up Challenge”: https://afriendlyaffair.lpages.co/look-up-challenge/
Fascinating Facts from the Interview:
-Almost 80% of your child’s brain development happens from age 0-3 years, through consistent verbal and non-verbal interaction with their parents
-Look at your baby and attune to who they are and what they love–react to each other–Harvard Psychologists call this “Serve and Return”
-Daniel Stern, a renowned American psychologist, found that 70%-80% of the time that your baby is alert, he/she is looking at you.
-Babies are born able to see the exact distance from their biological mother’s eye to nipple. (!!!)
-Dr. Katie Penry’s 7-day FREE email course, the #LookUpChallenge”: https://afriendlyaffair.lpages.co/look-up-challenge/
-Sign up to receive a monthly PDF of all the podcast takeaways: 3in30podcast.com
-Dr. Katie Penry’s website: https://www.afriendlyaffair.com/
-Dr. Katie Penry’s Instagram account: https://www.instagram.com/afriendlyaffair/
-Children’s book about the life of Nelle Harper Lee, the author of To Kill a Mockingbird: https://www.amazon.com/Alabama-Spitfire-Story-Harper-Mockingbird/dp/0062456709
The first Valentines Day that my husband and I were dating, he showed up on my doorstep with flowers and a clue that started me on a scavenger hunt to romantic places all around our college town.
Seven years later, on our first Valentines Day as parents, he showed up on our doorstep with…a toilet plunger. (You’ll have to listen to the episode to get the full story!)
Yes, becoming parents can definitely affect the romance of Valentines Day a bit–but there’s no reason why this “holiday of love” has to be limited to just you and your spouse. February 14th can be a day to celebrate family love as well!
In this episode, my amazing sister Sarah McKenna, from the craft blog Bombshell Bling, shares three totally doable and super fun Valentines traditions for the entire family.
2) Heart Attacks: https://www.bombshellbling.com/heart-attack/
3) Love Letters to your Kids: https://www.bombshellbling.com/mushy-love-letters-a-february-tradition/
All three of these traditions can be adapted for little kids up to teenagers, and all of them will bring your family closer together. I hope you will give at least one of them a try, and let me know at my instagram account: @3in30podcast.
-Sarah’s craft blog: BombshellBling.com
-“32 Ways to Surprise Your Sweetie” by Rachel Nielson: https://www.bombshellbling.com/things-for-hubby-valentines-day/
“How are you today, Grampy?”
“Oh the same: old and ugly, but contented.”
This is the opening line of this week’s interview with my 88-year-old grandpa. You are going to love his personality and spunk, as he shares memories from his childhood Christmases. My Granny also hops on to talk about what she remembers. My heart just melts at the sound of their voices, and I am so grateful for all of the Christmas Eves that I spent in their home when I was a child. (And we are headed there next week! I can’t wait!)
Listen as I reflect on how to create cherished traditions that your children and maybe even grandchildren will remember, by creating “anchors” every year:
- A special food
- A meaningful gift
- A memorable activity
Stay tuned until the end of the episode to hear about my Christmas gift to you! I think it will be useful to anyone who is a consistent listener to the 3 in 30 podcast.
Merry Christmas to all of you. I truly love and appreciate you!
**Get your Christmas present here.**