Posts Tagged ‘love’

050: How to Actually Listen to your Children // Kim Jacobs

Podcast of 3 listening skills that build connection with your children

Are you guilty of the distracted “Uh huh” when your children are telling you a story? When they pause for your reaction, do you realize that you have no idea what they just said?

If so, you’re not alone. And this week’s guest, Kim Jacobs, is here to help! She has a Master’s degree is Interpersonal and Family Communication, and she’s a mom of four young boys.

In this episode, we discuss…

-how to use non-verbal communication to make sure your children feel heard

-how “mirroring” can help our children know that we are empathizing with them

-how paraphrasing can help us to reconnect with a child after we’ve been interrupted

-how to lovingly hurry your child along when they are telling a 25-minute long story 😉

-how to use “perception checking” to give our kids the benefit of the doubt and a chance to explain themselves

…and much more!

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Show Notes

Power of Moms article about twins who developed a stutter: https://powerofmoms.com/putting-on-the-brakes/

Marilyn Faulkner’s episode “How to Raise Confident Children: http://3in30podcast.com/confidence/

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042: How to Love Someone When It’s Complicated or Hard: Lessons from Open Adoption

How to Love Someone When It's Complicated or Hard Lessons from Open Adoption

This is the first time I’ve ever cried while recording a podcast episode.  It’s also the first time I’ve ever recorded while whispering in a bathroom during a family reunion.  So basically, prepare yourself–this is going to be vulnerable and possibly bizarre for 3 in 30!  Ultimately, I hope it’s helpful as you navigate your own  relationships and consider how to show more love in situations that can be complicated.

The beginning of this episode is an excerpt from my interview with Tony Overbay for *his* podcast, The Virtual Couch.  Tony is such a warm and caring podcast host, I felt comfortable sharing one of the most sacred experiences of my life with him–and now I share it with you.  I can truly say that this experience with prayer changed the course of my life.

In the second half of the episode, I add three takeaways and further explain my thoughts on how to love someone when it’s hard.

This episode is truly a piece of my heart and soul.  I hope you enjoy it.

Show Notes

-Full episode on Tony Overbay’s podcast, The Virtual Couch: http://www.tonyoverbay.com/2018/05/07/episode-54-in-vitro-fertilization-and-open-adoption-w-rachel-nielson-host-of-3-in-30-takeaways-for-moms/

-Mother on Instagram who I love to follow: https://www.instagram.com/kellyejensen/

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039: Leaving a Legacy of Love for Our Children: A Musical Tribute to My Mama

A daughter's recollections of her mother's last few years of life, and the songs that brought them together

July 14th marked 15 years since my mother passed away from breast cancer.  I’ve been thinking about this milestone for months, and it occurred to me that I could use music to honor her.

Most people don’t know that I am a singer, and within this episode, you will hear me sing five different songs that remind me of my mother.  I will tell the story behind each song, and you will see how they all weave together to create a picture of the legacy that my mother left for me.

This episode is truly a piece of my heart.  My hope is that it will bring you hope and perspective in your own motherhood journey.

Adelaide and her adoring parents

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035: Modeling for our Children How to Endure with Hope // Ralphie Jacobs of Simply on Purpose and her father, Bob Peters

Modeling for our Children How to Endure Life's Trials with Hope Ralphie Jacobs and Bob Peters

How do we stay positive when we face incomprehensible trials?  How do we endure well and allow our struggles to soften and strengthen us?  And perhaps most importantly, how do we model this kind of resilience for our children?

Today on the podcast, Ralphie Jacobs, the respected parenting expert from Simply on Purpose, talks about her heroic father who, as a father of nine children, was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis when Ralphie was five years old.  He lost the ability to walk by the time Ralphie was ten, and he has endured MS for over 30 years.

This interview is especially meaningful because Ralphie’s father joins us on the call.  Ralphie wanted him to hear her tribute to him and to add his own thoughts to the discussion–and it is a truly tender and touching conversation between a beloved father and “his girl.”

I felt honored to be apart of this sacred conversation, and I know you will feel the same after you listen.  You will come away braver, more determined to stay positive, and completely inspired to invest in your children when they are young–so you can have rich relationships with them that last a lifetime.

Show Notes

-Ralphie’s Instagram account and teaching platform, Simply on Purpose: https://www.instagram.com/simplyonpurpose/?hl=en

-Ralphie’s interview on the Extraordinary Moms Podcast: https://extraordinarymomspodcast.com/ralphie/

-Ralphie’s first interview on 3 in 30, “How to Step Yelling at Your Kids”: http://3in30podcast.com/yelling/

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034: How to Meditate in the Midst of Mayhem // Dr. Leah Weiss

How to Meditate in the Midst of Motherhood Mayhem Dr. Leah Weiss, Stanford University

Do you laugh aloud at the thought of having a few minutes to meditate during busy days with your children?  What if I told you that you could be meditating THE ENTIRE DAY, even in the midst of chaotic, everyday moments with your little minions?

Dr. Leah Weiss–an author, a mindfulness expert who studied with the Dali Lama, a professor at the Stanford Graduate School of Business, and a mother of three little children–teaches that this is possible.  It just requires that we redefine (or rather, correctly define) the word “meditation.”

The word “meditation” is a translation from the Tibetan word “gom.”  Dr. Weiss points out that a more literal definition of this word is simply “familiarization” or “getting to know your mind and heart.”  When explained this way, busy moms can let go of visions of silent meditation rooms and burning incense (though those things are great too!) and instead embrace every moment with their children as an opportunity to “familiarize” themselves with their own hearts and minds.  In fact, motherhood itself can become meditation.

Join me for this fascinating conversation with a renowned mindfulness expert who teaches us the Tibetan process of “dampa sum,” meaning “good in the beginning, good in the middle, and good in the end.”

Show Notes

LeahWeissPhd.com

“How We Work: Live Your Purpose, Reclaim Your Sanity, and Embrace the Daily Grind” by Dr. Leah Weiss https://amzn.to/2sz6Wby

“Motherhood Matters: Are You Willing to Suffer?” by Laura Fanucci: https://www.deseretnews.com/article/865638913/Motherhood-Matters-Are-you-willing-to-suffer.html

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