Our little kids come with big emotions—too big, it sometimes seems, for their little bodies. And sometimes (often?) those feelings just come bursting out in bizarre and irrational behaviors.
As parents, this can bring out the bizarre and irrational in us as well, despite our best intentions to stay calm and level-headed.
Georgia Anderson of knowhowmom.com is a wife, mother, stepmother, mother-in-law, and grandmother. She has taught parenting classes for three decades and is a Certified Active Parenting Instructor and a Gottman Trained Educator.
Georgia has become my dear friend and mentor, and I’m so happy to be re-airing our interview today. As part of my break this month (or my “pause”–see last week’s episode), I want to recommit to staying calm and coaching my two amazing kids through their big emotions. This is the type of parent that I truly want to be!
In this episode, Georigia walks us through three of the steps to “emotion coach” our children through their big emotions:
1) Notice and validate emotions when they are small.
2) Put words to emotions–phrased tentatively, so a child can feel ownership to correct you. Ex: “It seems like you are frustrated that your sister isn’t sharing with you. Is that right?”
3) Set limits and problem solve. (All feelings are acceptable, but not all behaviors are acceptable.)
There are so many gems and insights in this episode, as Georgia walks me through a specific scenario when my six-year-old son got extremely angry. I think it will be helpful for you to hear me coached on how I can coach him. I have applied these steps in the year since this interview was originally recorded, and it has honestly changed my relationship with my son. Please listen!
Georgia has recently announced “Know How Coach,” an online course focused on creating more joy and connection in your parenting journey. It’s a combination of recorded workshop sessions and live online group facilitation. (So you can be individually coached by her, like I was in this interview!) Visit her website for more information or to register.
Both myself and my assistant, Molly, have personally attended her classes and can attest to the powerful tools, storytelling, wisdom, and direction Georgia has to offer.
Georgia’s website: knowhowmom.com
Georgia’s Instagram: @knowhowmomtips
Parenting is not all Georgia is passionate about– check out her upcoming “Us Elevated” Workshop on May 3-4 in SLC, Utah to strengthen your marriage through this Gottman 7 Principles workshop.
Book Recommendation: Feelings Buried Alive Never Die by Karol K. Truman
There are so many things to consider when it comes to anticipating raising a child: will I ever sleep again? Will they be a picky eater? Will they be well behaved? Those are a few of the questions that went through my mind when I became a new mom. But when it comes to taking kids to the doctor, I didn’t think there was much to it. I thought it was something parents just did. I didn’t know my eyes would well with tears right alongside my toddler when the nurse administered him a shot, or what to say the next time when he asks if he has to get a shot again or even when he gets anxious just walking into the doctor’s office remembering his experience from last time.
Today’s guest, Shannon Tripp, is a mother of four and passionate about educating parents in all things first aid and safety for children. Shannon has been a pediatric nurse for more than 10 years, and today she shares a few simple tips to set our children up for success to have a positive experience at the doctor’s office. She urges parents to:
-pay attention to our own feelings and the words we use describing the doctor
-validate our kids’ feelings when they are scared
-and tell them what to expect at a doctor’s visit and what they have to look forward to after
I love how Shannon says that she sees the doctor’s office as “a place that gives parents opportunities to teach their children skills.” I know this episode will help both you and your children be more at ease when anticipating a visit to the doctor.
Parenting with Love and Logic by Foster Cline and Jim Fay
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In this stage of my life, I start most days to the sound of my children calling for me or running into my room. Before that, I started the day with the sound of my alarm clock signaling I needed to hurry as fast as I possibly could to get ready for work. This often sets the pace to go from one thing to the next in a frazzled state when I am constantly craving slow.
Crystal Paine, entrepreneur, mom, and founder of Money Saving Mom, is often asked how she does what she does, and it all comes down to starting her day with intention.
Crystal has years of experience encouraging women to be intentional when it comes to finance, family, and business. In this episode, she encourages us to develop the habit of serving our tomorrow self by first asking the question: What can you do the night before to set yourself up for success the next day?
Whether you have an intentional morning routine or hopes for developing one, we can’t wait to hear how you like this episode.
Make Over Your Mornings: 14-day online course to help you start your day with success: https://gr161.isrefer.com/go/MYM/rachelnielson/
Crystal’s website: https://moneysavingmom.com/
Crystal’s Instagram: @themoneysavingmom
Crystal and Rachel’s Power of Moms’ podcast: https://powerofmoms.com/ordinary-moms-can-make-extraordinary-difference-crystal-paine-rachel-nielson-episode-186/
Gretchen Rubin’s book, The Four Tendencies: https://amzn.to/2FUF8XD
Laura Vanderkamp’s book, What the Most Successful People Do Before Breakfast: https://amzn.to/2TbQc6x
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Are you guilty of the distracted “Uh huh” when your children are telling you a story? When they pause for your reaction, do you realize that you have no idea what they just said?
If so, you’re not alone. And this week’s guest, Kim Jacobs, is here to help! She has a Master’s degree is Interpersonal and Family Communication, and she’s a mom of four young boys.
In this episode, we discuss…
-how to use non-verbal communication to make sure your children feel heard
-how “mirroring” can help our children know that we are empathizing with them
-how paraphrasing can help us to reconnect with a child after we’ve been interrupted
-how to lovingly hurry your child along when they are telling a 25-minute long story 😉
-how to use “perception checking” to give our kids the benefit of the doubt and a chance to explain themselves
…and much more!
And don’t forget to sign up for the monthly sheet of takeaways, which will now be sent on the first Friday of each new month: 3in30podcast.com/takeaways
Power of Moms article about twins who developed a stutter: https://powerofmoms.com/putting-on-the-brakes/
Marilyn Faulkner’s episode “How to Raise Confident Children: http://3in30podcast.com/confidence/
How do we stay positive when we face incomprehensible trials? How do we endure well and allow our struggles to soften and strengthen us? And perhaps most importantly, how do we model this kind of resilience for our children?
Today on the podcast, Ralphie Jacobs, the respected parenting expert from Simply on Purpose, talks about her heroic father who, as a father of nine children, was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis when Ralphie was five years old. He lost the ability to walk by the time Ralphie was ten, and he has endured MS for over 30 years.
This interview is especially meaningful because Ralphie’s father joins us on the call. Ralphie wanted him to hear her tribute to him and to add his own thoughts to the discussion–and it is a truly tender and touching conversation between a beloved father and “his girl.”
I felt honored to be apart of this sacred conversation, and I know you will feel the same after you listen. You will come away braver, more determined to stay positive, and completely inspired to invest in your children when they are young–so you can have rich relationships with them that last a lifetime.
-Ralphie’s Instagram account and teaching platform, Simply on Purpose: https://www.instagram.com/simplyonpurpose/?hl=en
-Ralphie’s interview on the Extraordinary Moms Podcast: https://extraordinarymomspodcast.com/ralphie/
-Ralphie’s first interview on 3 in 30, “How to Step Yelling at Your Kids”: http://3in30podcast.com/yelling/