How do we stay positive when we face incomprehensible trials? How do we endure well and allow our struggles to soften and strengthen us? And perhaps most importantly, how do we model this kind of resilience for our children?
Today on the podcast, Ralphie Jacobs, the respected parenting expert from Simply on Purpose, talks about her heroic father who, as a father of nine children, was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis when Ralphie was five years old. He lost the ability to walk by the time Ralphie was ten, and he has endured MS for over 30 years.
This interview is especially meaningful because Ralphie’s father joins us on the call. Ralphie wanted him to hear her tribute to him and to add his own thoughts to the discussion–and it is a truly tender and touching conversation between a beloved father and “his girl.”
I felt honored to be apart of this sacred conversation, and I know you will feel the same after you listen. You will come away braver, more determined to stay positive, and completely inspired to invest in your children when they are young–so you can have rich relationships with them that last a lifetime.
-Ralphie’s Instagram account and teaching platform, Simply on Purpose: https://www.instagram.com/simplyonpurpose/?hl=en
-Ralphie’s interview on the Extraordinary Moms Podcast: https://extraordinarymomspodcast.com/ralphie/
-Ralphie’s first interview on 3 in 30, “How to Step Yelling at Your Kids”: http://3in30podcast.com/yelling/
Our little kids come with big emotions—too big, it sometimes seems, for their little bodies. And sometimes (often?) those feelings just come bursting out in bizarre and irrational behaviors.
As parents, this can bring out the bizarre and irrational in us as well, despite our best intentions to stay calm and level-headed.
Today on the podcast, we have a parenting expert who is going to teach us how to coach our children through their emotions, so we can keep ahold of our own.
Georgia Anderson of knowhowmom.com is a wife, mother, stepmother, mother-in-law, and grandmother to 28 people she adores. She has taught parenting classes for three decades and is a Certified Active Parenting Instructor and a Gottman Trained Educator.
In this episode, she walks us through three of the steps to “emotion coach” our children through their big emotions:
1) Notice emotions when they are small.
2) Put words to emotions.
3) Set limits and problem solve.
There are so many gems and insights in this episode, as she walks me through a specific scenario when my six-year-old son got extremely angry. I think it will be helpful for you to hear me coached on how I can coach him. I have applied these steps in the weeks since this interview was recorded, and it has honestly changed my relationship with my son. Please listen!
Georgia’s website: knowhowmom.com
Georgia’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/knowhowmomtips/
Upcoming Emotion Coaching Workshop with Georgia: http://www.knowhowmom.com/class/emotion-coaching-for-parents-2/
Book Recommendation: Feelings Buried Alive Never Die by Karol K. Truman
Marilyn Faulkner raised five rockstar children, helped her husband start multiple companies, got a Masters degree when she was 45, and published three books (with her next book due for publication in July). She spreads wisdom and laughter everywhere she goes, and she shares some of both on this week’s episode. (I dare you to listen to the entire 30 minutes without laughing aloud.)
She is the mother of Alison Faulkner from TheAlisonShow.com and Andrea Williams from TubbyTodd.com. She also has three incredibly smart and successful sons who may or may not be able to keep up with their sisters in a dance contest. I’m waiting to see that.
I met Marilyn at a branding workshop last November and immediately loved her. So when a podcast listener asked me to get a grandma on the podcast who could give us some “looking back” advice, I knew just who to ask. I wanted someone who would give us more than the trite “enjoy every minute” advice that we so often hear, and I knew Marilyn would deliver some true wisdom.
This is one of my favorite episodes to date, so listen in as she teaches us how to raise confident children by…
1) Limiting our criticisms. “You can’t build a wall by taking off bricks.”
2) Talking to our kids like they are already the intelligent adults we hope they will become.
3) Living full lives of our own, and modeling happiness for our children.
-Marilyn Faulkner’s books:
-Resources referenced in the episode:
Seven Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey
Podcast episode about specific ways to praise your children with Tony Overbay: http://3in30podcast.com/praise/
Miss Manners’ Guide to Rearing Perfect Children by Judith Martin
Alison’s Build an Awesome Brand Workshop: https://alisonsbrandschool.com/workshop/
If you feel like you face battle after battle with your child, this episode is for you! Lisa Andersen, a mother of four who is passionate about helping moms thrive, teaches us 3 power struggles we can opt out of.
I’m not going to tell you ahead of time what the three battles are…so you’ll have to listen! 😉
Chime in and tell us your opinions and ideas in the comments on this post or on my Instagram account, @ https://www.instagram.com/3in30podcast/
-Lisa Andersen’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thrivingmotherhood/
-Thriving Motherhood Conference: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/thriving-mothers-conference-express-session-tickets-44616612489
-Ep. 017 with Jody Moore: http://3in30podcast.com/ep-017-3-keys-happier-marriage-jody-moore-bold-new-mom/
-Ep. 004 with Ralphie Jacobs: http://3in30podcast.com/yelling/
-Ellen Satyr, Expert on Positive and Joyful Eating and Feeding: https://www.ellynsatterinstitute.org/
-Division of Responsibility with Eating: https://www.ellynsatterinstitute.org/how-to-feed/the-division-of-responsibility-in-feeding/
-Amy McCready, Positive Parenting Solutions (When-Then tactic): https://www.positiveparentingsolutions.com/
I don’t know about you, but sometimes I feel truly stuck in a rut of nagging, bossing, and criticizing my children. This is not who I want to be–but when I can’t get my children to listen to me or to behave, what other option do I have??
Gratefully, Tony Overbay, a professional counselor and father of four, is on the podcast today to teach us a better way.
Using the principles of a powerful parenting and child development model called The Nurtured-Heart Approach, Tony shares four ways that we can effectively praise our children in order to energize the positive in them and in our homes:
Listen in as Tony teaches us how to acknowledge and praise…
1) What we see our children doing (active recognition)
2) What we see our children doing, plus what that shows about their greatness (experiential recognition)
3) What we don’t see our children doing (proactive recognition)
4) What we want to see our children doing (creative recognition)
This episode has the potential to change your parenting and the environment in your home forever. Don’t miss it!
Tony’s website: TonyOverbay.com
Tony’s podcast, The Virtual Couch: http://www.tonyoverbay.com/category/podcast/
Transforming the Difficult Child: The Nurtured-Heart Approach by Howard Glasser
PDF of the 4 Recognition Types: http://www.naswwv.org/index.php/documents/177-c1-wendy-baracka-transforming-the-difficult-child-nha-recognition-techniques/file