Five years ago, I realized that I needed to go to counseling. I had been coping with stress and heartache through both undereating and overeating for almost ten years, and my negative thoughts about myself had become debilitating and all-consuming.
I sought treatment from an outpatient eating disorder clinic, and I fully expected my counselor to teach me how to control my eating; instead, my counselor went to the root of the problem and taught me how to control my thinking.
I learned that destructive behaviors (such as eating disorders) are part of a three-part cycle: we have a negative thought about ourselves, we then feel a negative emotion about ourselves, and we then cope with that feeling through a destructive behavior. In order to stop this cycle, we must have strategies to stop the negative self-talk that starts it all in the first place!
Whether or not you’ve ever struggled with an eating disorder, I think this episode will benefit you. I share three of the best tools that I learned in counseling: these strategies halt negative self-talk and replace it with encouraging, empowering thinking.
I truly believe that almost no skill is more important for women and mothers–so I hope you will listen, and let me know what you think in the comments.
Unhealthy Stress or Habits? Break the Cycle (podcast with Power of Moms)
Listening to and Loving your Body through Intuitive Eating (podcast with Power of Moms)
“It Is What It Is” (article with a list of coping strategies)
“The Surprising Way I Confronted my Eating Disorder” (full narrative therapy)