A month or so ago, I woke up early, before the rest of the house, and lay in the darkness with my heart pounding uncomfortably. It was a physical reminder of something that I don’t like to think about very often: I have chronic health problems that aren’t just magically going to disappear if I ignore them. It is up to ME to change my life and my habits to regain my health. No one else is going to do that for me.
In this episode, I share a bit more of my story, as well as the three steps I am taking in order to give myself a month-long pause:
1) Choose a finite length of time for your break.
2) Look at your calendar and ruthlessly eliminate or postpone any stressful commitments during that time. Don’t be afraid to tell the people in your life WHY you need a break and how they can support you.
3) Decide how you will use your time off to “get ahead” of your life and make changes that will help you reenter your life in a much better place.
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On Monday, I released an episode about intuitive eating with one of my best friends, Taryn Palmer, who is a registered dietician and nutritionist. I knew that episode was really just going to be an introduction to that big and important topic, and I wanted to dig a little deeper and share more of my story.
So for today’s bonus episode, I am going to share three essays I wrote while I was in therapy for an eating disorder. I think through these three different pieces of writing, you’ll be able to see the progression that my recovery took, how much intuitive eating truly helped to free me, and where I’m at today:
2. The Surprising Way I Confronted my Eating Disorder (narrative therapy)
There are so many incredible therapists, registered dietitians, and resources to help you become more familiar with intuitive eating. Here are are some to get you started:
Intuitive Eating by Evelyn Tribole and Elyse Resch
THIS POST on my Instagram where I shared about this week’s episode is filled with great resources in the comments!
This is the first time I’ve ever cried while recording a podcast episode. It’s also the first time I’ve ever recorded while whispering in a bathroom during a family reunion. So basically, prepare yourself–this is going to be vulnerable and possibly bizarre for 3 in 30! Ultimately, I hope it’s helpful as you navigate your own relationships and consider how to show more love in situations that can be complicated.
The beginning of this episode is an excerpt from my interview with Tony Overbay for *his* podcast, The Virtual Couch. Tony is such a warm and caring podcast host, I felt comfortable sharing one of the most sacred experiences of my life with him–and now I share it with you. I can truly say that this experience with prayer changed the course of my life.
In the second half of the episode, I add three takeaways and further explain my thoughts on how to love someone when it’s hard.
This episode is truly a piece of my heart and soul. I hope you enjoy it.
-Full episode on Tony Overbay’s podcast, The Virtual Couch: http://www.tonyoverbay.com/2018/05/07/episode-54-in-vitro-fertilization-and-open-adoption-w-rachel-nielson-host-of-3-in-30-takeaways-for-moms/
-Mother on Instagram who I love to follow: https://www.instagram.com/kellyejensen/
One year ago, I saw my son’s birthmom for the last time. She had come to spend the weekend with us for Noah’s 6th birthday, and it is a weekend I will never forget. We explored the mountains near our new home, roasted marshmallows over a summer bonfire, and poured love on the amazing little boy who had brought us all so much joy.
Before she left, we took photos on our front porch at sunset, and I marveled at the miracle of open adoption. I snapped a photo of her kissing Noah’s cheek, never imagining that it would be the last photo I would take of them together.
Three months later, November 2017, Katie took her own life after a long battle with mental illness. I recorded this episode a few days after I received the news of her death. As I grappled with how I could possibly face this loss, I decided to share “Three Messages of Hope for the Darkest Times.” Within this episode, I talk about my journey with infertility, which ultimately lead me the miracle of Noah and his beautiful birthmom, Katie.
I re-air the episode today in honor of Noah’s birthday, which I always shared with Katie.
Infertility and Adoption Grants: bundledblessingsfertility.com
I want to meet you!
-Rediscover YOU! Workshop in Utah (September 28-29): https://www.eventbrite.com/e/rediscover-you-workshop-tickets-47833978718
-The Pearl Conference In Las Vegas, NV (November 17): https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-pearl-conference-a-conference-for-mothers-tickets-48097368524
July 14th marked 15 years since my mother passed away from breast cancer. I’ve been thinking about this milestone for months, and it occurred to me that I could use music to honor her.
Most people don’t know that I am a singer, and within this episode, you will hear me sing five different songs that remind me of my mother. I will tell the story behind each song, and you will see how they all weave together to create a picture of the legacy that my mother left for me.
This episode is truly a piece of my heart. My hope is that it will bring you hope and perspective in your own motherhood journey.