The past few weeks at our house have been so busy that I’ve slipped into some negative self-talk and coping behaviors. Whenever this happens, I feel so frustrated with myself, thinking, “Rachel, you know better than this! You’ve learned great strategies in counseling over the past six years to help you stay in the positive!”
That’s when I remind myself that recovery isn’t linear. We can have little setbacks along the way, without being all the way back at the beginning. Yes, I’ve come a long way since the beginning of my therapy journey, but I’m still learning and practicing–and that’s okay.
This Encore episode is as much as reminder for ME as it is for you. I’ve recorded a new intro to tell you what’s going on in my life right now, and then I re-air what I consider to be one of the most important episodes I’ve ever published.
Whether or not you’ve listened to this episode before, I hope you will listen!
“The Surprising Way I Confronted my Eating Disorder” (narrative therapy): https://powerofmoms.com/eating-disorder/
“Listening to and Loving your Body through Intuitive Eating” (podcast on Power of Moms): https://powerofmoms.com/intuitive-eating/
If you’re like me, finding time and motivation to exercise has become difficult since becoming a mom.
If you’re not like me (ha!), you exercise almost daily, but it’s probably hard to find motivation to do some other things in your life.
Whatever camp you’re in, I think this episode will help you. Monica Tanner, a mother of four, a small business owner, and a podcaster at On the Brighter Side, shares three steps for finding motivation to exercise—and her tips can be applied in many other situations as well.
Listen in as she teaches me how to…
1) Start with a positive and believable thought about yourself.
2) Find your own compelling reason to exercise.
3) Make it enjoyable, so the habit will stick.
This is a great discussion with so many nuggets of wisdom. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did!
Monica’s Website: http://onthebrightersideoflife.com/
Rachel’s Website: 3in30podcast.com
Get a PDF of each month’s takeaways: 3in30podcast.com/takeaways
Five years ago, I realized that I needed to go to counseling. I had been coping with stress and heartache through both undereating and overeating for almost ten years, and my negative thoughts about myself had become debilitating and all-consuming.
I sought treatment from an outpatient eating disorder clinic, and I fully expected my counselor to teach me how to control my eating; instead, my counselor went to the root of the problem and taught me how to control my thinking.
I learned that destructive behaviors (such as eating disorders) are part of a three-part cycle: we have a negative thought about ourselves, we then feel a negative emotion about ourselves, and we then cope with that feeling through a destructive behavior. In order to stop this cycle, we must have strategies to stop the negative self-talk that starts it all in the first place!
Whether or not you’ve ever struggled with an eating disorder, I think this episode will benefit you. I share three of the best tools that I learned in counseling:
1) Reject “filtered thinking” and embrace “big-picture thinking.”
2) Talk to yourself the way you would talk to your best friend, sister, or daughter.
3) Use “coping statements” to help you re-center and stay calm in moments when you might spiral into despair.
I truly believe that almost no topic is more important for women and mothers–so I hope you will listen, and let me know what you think in the comments.
Listening to and Loving your Body through Intuitive Eating (podcast with Power of Moms): https://powerofmoms.com/intuitive-eating/
“The Surprising Way I Confronted my Eating Disorder” (full narrative therapy): https://powerofmoms.com/eating-disorder/
This week my little sister Laura Webb, a mother of two young children and a Chemistry and Math teacher–“not a writer!” she is quick to point out–will share her ideas for easy ways that we can fit record-keeping into our busy lives as moms.
Listen in as Laura details ideas for how to…
- Use technology to help us capture memories
- Find routine times or triggers to remind us to journal
- Remember that something is better than nothing when it comes to documenting our lives
What are your best ideas for keeping records of your motherhood experience? Please share them in the comments or on Instagram @3in30podcast. We want to learn from you!
How to Journal as a Busy Mom (Rachel’s article for Power of Moms)
Feature Image: Alexis Johnson Photography (Eagle River, Alaska)
Webb Family Photo: Brynmarae Photography (Denver, Colorado)