One year ago, I saw my son’s birthmom for the last time. She had come to spend the weekend with us for Noah’s 6th birthday, and it is a weekend I will never forget. We explored the mountains near our new home, roasted marshmallows over a summer bonfire, and poured love on the amazing little boy who had brought us all so much joy.
Before she left, we took photos on our front porch at sunset, and I marveled at the miracle of open adoption. I snapped a photo of her kissing Noah’s cheek, never imagining that it would be the last photo I would take of them together.
Three months later, November 2017, Katie took her own life after a long battle with mental illness. I recorded this episode a few days after I received the news of her death. As I grappled with how I could possibly face this loss, I decided to share “Three Messages of Hope for the Darkest Times.” Within this episode, I talk about my journey with infertility, which ultimately lead me the miracle of Noah and his beautiful birthmom, Katie.
I re-air the episode today in honor of Noah’s birthday, which I always shared with Katie.
Infertility and Adoption Grants: bundledblessingsfertility.com
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-Rediscover YOU! Workshop in Utah (September 28-29): https://www.eventbrite.com/e/rediscover-you-workshop-tickets-47833978718
-The Pearl Conference In Las Vegas, NV (November 17): https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-pearl-conference-a-conference-for-mothers-tickets-48097368524
How do we stay positive when we face incomprehensible trials? How do we endure well and allow our struggles to soften and strengthen us? And perhaps most importantly, how do we model this kind of resilience for our children?
Today on the podcast, Ralphie Jacobs, the respected parenting expert from Simply on Purpose, talks about her heroic father who, as a father of nine children, was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis when Ralphie was five years old. He lost the ability to walk by the time Ralphie was ten, and he has endured MS for over 30 years.
This interview is especially meaningful because Ralphie’s father joins us on the call. Ralphie wanted him to hear her tribute to him and to add his own thoughts to the discussion–and it is a truly tender and touching conversation between a beloved father and “his girl.”
I felt honored to be apart of this sacred conversation, and I know you will feel the same after you listen. You will come away braver, more determined to stay positive, and completely inspired to invest in your children when they are young–so you can have rich relationships with them that last a lifetime.
-Ralphie’s Instagram account and teaching platform, Simply on Purpose: https://www.instagram.com/simplyonpurpose/?hl=en
-Ralphie’s interview on the Extraordinary Moms Podcast: https://extraordinarymomspodcast.com/ralphie/
-Ralphie’s first interview on 3 in 30, “How to Step Yelling at Your Kids”: http://3in30podcast.com/yelling/
The past few weeks at our house have been so busy that I’ve slipped into some negative self-talk and coping behaviors. Whenever this happens, I feel so frustrated with myself, thinking, “Rachel, you know better than this! You’ve learned great strategies in counseling over the past six years to help you stay in the positive!”
That’s when I remind myself that recovery isn’t linear. We can have little setbacks along the way, without being all the way back at the beginning. Yes, I’ve come a long way since the beginning of my therapy journey, but I’m still learning and practicing–and that’s okay.
This Encore episode is as much as reminder for ME as it is for you. I’ve recorded a new intro to tell you what’s going on in my life right now, and then I re-air what I consider to be one of the most important episodes I’ve ever published.
Whether or not you’ve listened to this episode before, I hope you will listen!
“The Surprising Way I Confronted my Eating Disorder” (narrative therapy): https://powerofmoms.com/eating-disorder/
“Listening to and Loving your Body through Intuitive Eating” (podcast on Power of Moms): https://powerofmoms.com/intuitive-eating/
Do you laugh aloud at the thought of having a few minutes to meditate during busy days with your children? What if I told you that you could be meditating THE ENTIRE DAY, even in the midst of chaotic, everyday moments with your little minions?
Dr. Leah Weiss–an author, a mindfulness expert who studied with the Dali Lama, a professor at the Stanford Graduate School of Business, and a mother of three little children–teaches that this is possible. It just requires that we redefine (or rather, correctly define) the word “meditation.”
The word “meditation” is a translation from the Tibetan word “gom.” Dr. Weiss points out that a more literal definition of this word is simply “familiarization” or “getting to know your mind and heart.” When explained this way, busy moms can let go of visions of silent meditation rooms and burning incense (though those things are great too!) and instead embrace every moment with their children as an opportunity to “familiarize” themselves with their own hearts and minds. In fact, motherhood itself can become meditation.
Join me for this fascinating conversation with a renowned mindfulness expert who teaches us the Tibetan process of “dampa sum,” meaning “good in the beginning, good in the middle, and good in the end.”
“How We Work: Live Your Purpose, Reclaim Your Sanity, and Embrace the Daily Grind” by Dr. Leah Weiss https://amzn.to/2sz6Wby
“Motherhood Matters: Are You Willing to Suffer?” by Laura Fanucci: https://www.deseretnews.com/article/865638913/Motherhood-Matters-Are-you-willing-to-suffer.html
If you’re like me, finding time and motivation to exercise has become difficult since becoming a mom.
If you’re not like me (ha!), you exercise almost daily, but it’s probably hard to find motivation to do some other things in your life.
Whatever camp you’re in, I think this episode will help you. Monica Tanner, a mother of four, a small business owner, and a podcaster at On the Brighter Side, shares three steps for finding motivation to exercise—and her tips can be applied in many other situations as well.
Listen in as she teaches me how to…
1) Start with a positive and believable thought about yourself.
2) Find your own compelling reason to exercise.
3) Make it enjoyable, so the habit will stick.
This is a great discussion with so many nuggets of wisdom. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did!
Monica’s Website: http://onthebrightersideoflife.com/
Rachel’s Website: 3in30podcast.com
Get a PDF of each month’s takeaways: 3in30podcast.com/takeaways