All of our kids get stuck in behaviors that are difficult for us and others to deal with–perhaps it’s whining, interrupting, fighting with siblings, or defiance.
According to Chrissy Austin, a speech language pathologist with 17 years of experience teaching children social skills and communication, these neurological “loops” can be rewired. She does it every day in her private practice, and, in this week’s episode, she teaches us how to do it! We can follow this simple three-step process with our kids, in our homes:
1) Identify the specific troublesome behavior, and then ask yourself, “What SKILL does my child need to learn in order to change this behavior?”
2) Sit down with the child and make a GOAL to learn the new skill. Have him or her make it visual by writing it down and/or drawing a picture. Consider adding a hand cue.
3) Offer positive reinforcement through verbal praise whenever the child is working on their goal, and consider adding additional reinforcement through earning privileges, if needed.
Chrissy offers so many fantastic tips and interesting bits of research throughout the interview. You won’t want to miss it, especially if you sometimes struggle with knowing how to help your children change.
-Michelle Garcia Winter: https://www.socialthinking.com/
-“Kids Beyond Limits” by Anat Baniel
-“Finally Focused” by James Greenblatt
“Children are great imitators–give them something great to imitate.” Joy D. Jones
Jennifer Brimhall, a mother of five and the founder of the website Raise the Good, believes that we can surround our children with good role models whom they will want to emulate. These aren’t superheroes with capes or celebrities with millions of dollars; these are unexpected heroes, and we will find them all around us.
In this episode, Jen goes into specifics about how we can introduce our children to…
1. Heroes in books and media
2. Role models in the world around them
3. Mentors in education.
Listen in to glean incredible wisdom from an incredible mother!
An outline and list of resources mentioned in the podcast is included below:
1. Heroes in books and media
- Books: Value Tales, Little House on the Prairie, Chronicles of Narnia
- TV Shows: Wild Kratts, Planet Earth documentaries, Mr. Rodgers on Youtube (ha!)
- Movies: Third Man on the Mountain
2. Role Models in the world around them
- Check out the Hero Spotlights on Jen’s website!
- Keep watch for news articles about “heroes” and share them with your kids
- Point out everyday heroes around town, at the grocery store, and in daily interactions
- Ask your children to list three things they are grateful for and who is responsible for that blessing
- “Coming of Age Celebrations” with treasured family and friends
3. Mentors in education
- Look into conferences, clubs, and personal mentorships (it never hurts to ask!) for your children to learn about their passions from experts in the field
- Rely on websites to teach your children