153: How to Actually Hear Your Spouse // Yvette and Glen Henry

I’m so excited to feature Yvette and Glen Henry today. When my husband Ryan and I first got married, I had no idea how difficult it would be to just talk to each other sometimes. When we were dating, I could pour my heart out to him with ease, but almost 15 years of marriage later, at the end of long days with work and kids, a lot of times we are just tired. 

Sometimes during the day, I am literally counting down the minutes to when I can talk to him about a decision I have to make or I struggle I am facing, but by the time our kids are in bed and we have the chance to connect, it just feels too hard to verbalize everything that’s on my mind and heart or to give him all of the background on a decision I have to make for my business, and so I just don’t try. Sometimes there’s just so much resistance to even getting a dialogue started.

That’s why I am so excited to have Glen and Yvette Henry on the today from the “How Married are You?!” podcast. In their bi-weekly episodes, they talk so openly with each other about their hearts and their struggles, their conflicts with each other and the ways that they are growing and changing, as they raise their young family WHILE building their amazing company, Beleaf in Fatherhood.

Listen in as we talk about how to reprioritize actually hearing your spouse, even in the busiest stages of life.


  1. Don’t Postpone the Truth, because on the other side of fear is freedom. Sometimes the person we are afraid to tell the truth to is ourselves.
  2. Same Language, Different Dialects. Even though you want the same thing, remember you come from different regions as you communicate and try to get to that same goal.
  3. It’s not about total agreement, it’s about alignment. When we come from a place of grace and trust for our partner, even if we don’t always agree with them, we will be aligned.

-Show Notes-

Yvette & Glen’s website: Beleafinfatherhood.com

Yvette’s Instagram: @mrsmelanin

Podcast: @howmarriedareyou

Glen’s Instagram: @beleafmel

Beleaf in Fatherhood YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC91hwYeQmsqOPsKGwzrt6uw

7 Principles for Making Marriages Work by John Gottman


A special thank you to this month’s sponsor, InfantSEE, a non-profit program of Optometry Cares, the AOA Foundation, that provides comprehensive infant eye exams for babies ages 6-12 months, absolutely free.

This episode is also sponsored by our family’s favorite kids’ podcast, Goodnight Stories for Rebel Girls. This podcast is an expansion of the best selling book which tells hundreds of bedtime stories about the lives of extraordinary women from the past and the present.

-Related Episodes-

Episode 067: How to Accept when your Partner Doesn’t Speak Your Love Language 

Episode 017: Three Keys to a Happier Marriage with Jody Moore

Episode 115: Why Won’t My Partner Parent the Way I Want Them Too? With Celeste Davis

Episode 050: How to Actually Listen to Your Children with Kim Jacobs

What did you like most about what Yvette and Glen Henry had to share? Let me know in a comment below!

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