192: The Hidden Reason for Misbehavior (in kids AND parents!) // Wendy Bertagnole

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What if I told you that in this episode, you are going to learn one secret that has the potential to completely change many of the misbehaviors in your home? Would you believe me?


This conversation with Wendy Bertagnole will educate you on a reason for misbehavior in your home. Wendy is a special education teacher who is also a mother of three, and she is here to teach us about sensory preferences. Do you know what those are? It’s basically how much stimulation a person can tolerate within each of the physical senses–how much stimulation they avoid or actively seek out. In this episode, you will hear Wendy explain how identifying and supporting the unique sensory preferences of each person in our family can dramatically improve the environment, relationships, and behaviors in our homes.


You are not going to want to miss this incredibly impactful conversation with a brilliant educator. 





– 3 Takeaways about a Reason for Misbehavior –

  1. We all have sensory preferences! This means that we either avoid or seek out stimulation in each of the seven areas that Wendy described: seeing, hearing, tasting, smelling, touching, and then proprioception, and vestibular.


  1. Knowing our sensory preferences helps us understand our behavior. We aren’t bad parents when we get overwhelmed and lose it…we just aren’t supporting our sensory preferences! We can make tweaks to help us be more calm and centered in the various circumstances that come up in busy home life.


  1. Supporting our children’s sensory preferences can help to mitigate a lot of difficult behaviors. This will help us parent with a lot more empathy, connection, and effectiveness.



>>>Are these tips about a hidden reason for misbehavior helpful? What would you add to her takeaways? Tell us in the comments below.







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-Resources Mentioned in the Episode –

  • Click here to get Wendy’s workbook for identifying your and your family’s sensory preferences!



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  1. Lelia Irwin on 08/02/2021 at 8:15 AM

    Thank you and Wendy so much for episode 192. My spirited 4 yo son started occupational therapy in July from the recommendation of our pediatrician. We were having a lot of social and behavioral struggles after the birth of our second son in January, and things had gotten so bad that we decided to pull the 4 yo out of pre-k. He was bouncing off the walls, fought us over every meal and bedtime, had gotten aggressive towards the baby, and started having accidents. At school he would hide and didn’t want to play, throwing tantrums and with many transitions. OT has given us a huge insight into his ‘quirks’ and we are learning to channel his energy appropriately. His sweet and curious side has come back out, plus he is sleeping and eating better. This episode has given me the language to explain our situation to our family and friends. It helped me challenge my own negative language and mom guilt. This episode was an answer to my prayers. Thank you for the advice and encouragement as always!

    • Rachel Nielson on 08/02/2021 at 9:19 AM

      Oh thank you so much for sharing your experience!!! You are a wonderful mother to that spirited little guy, and he is so lucky to have you!!!


  2. Gini on 08/27/2021 at 10:26 AM

    I loved this and was so excited to look at the workbook with my family–but there is no link to it? Can you please provide!

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