199: How Do You Get Rid of Single-Mom Guilt? // LaTasha Ferguson

Listen to Top Motherhood Podcast, 3 in 30 Podcast, featuring LatTsha Ferguson about Overcoming Single-Mom Guilt. Image of LaTasha and her daughters outside. Happy woman with her daughters.

Today’s guest is LaTasha Ferguson, had two daughters in her teens and was a single mother for many years and then later married a wonderful man and has had two more daughters. So she has four girls, ranging in age from 22 to 7. LaTasha is a passionate educator who has taught high school English, special education, and now works in administration as a director of instruction. In September of 2020, she launched a podcast—Overcome to Become--where she helps women do the heart work they need to do in order to overcome, own their story, and live authentically. I know you are going to love this inspiring woman!

 

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- 3 Takeaways to Overcome Single-Mom Guilt -

 

    1. Take time to work on yourself so you are parenting from a place of love and wholeness and not bitterness. Remember, negative feelings that you have about yourself or your situation will bleed out and impact your most important relationships, so it is worth it to do the work to heal these parts of you!
    2. Don’t allow guilt to keep you from Implementing healthy boundaries for your children. It can be easy to spoil your kids or become too permissive if you feel badly about the situation your family is in or if you just don’t have a lot of mental bandwidth to be consistent. But our children need us to be sturdy!
    3. Allow others to help you and remember that it truly takes a village. Set that pride aside and be honest with the people around you about how you are struggling and accept their offers of help. Remember, you are nurturing your children through the people that you bring into their life, even if you can’t be with them all the time.

 

>>>Are these tips about overcoming single-mom guilt helpful? What would you add to her takeaways? Tell us in the comments below.

 

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2 Comments

  1. Karen Hershenson on 09/15/2021 at 9:28 AM

    Rachel, I’ve been listening to your podcast for many months now and this episode was my favorite so far. Though I’m not a single mother, I often feel very alone in my parenting journey. My husband has a high pressure job and I was still on maternity leave with my second baby when we all went into lockdown in March 2020. My older child was about to turn 2, and soon enough, I was back to work, working from home, while also being a full-time parent during very long work days. He’d get total privacy to work from our bedroom, while I worked from our living room/kitchen/dining area (it’s all one space – we’re in New York City), which was distracting to say the least. It was fairly traumatic for me. I was already feeling resentful toward my husband prior to having my second baby (a surprise baby) and after losing my job (in the world of travel tech) by November, it took me months to find my happy place again. I feel so much of what Latasha spoke about – the anger causing me to snap at my children, the reluctance to seek childcare help, feeling so overwhelmed because I had no time to myself – and this podcast was a great reminder for me to leverage those takeaways.

    • Rachel Nielson on 09/16/2021 at 8:32 AM

      Oh thank you so much for this beautiful feedback, Karen!! I really appreciate you listening, even though you aren’t a single mother. Yes, I found all of her takeaways so relatable too. Hang in there! It sounds like you’ve been in a very difficult season these past few years!

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