224: Self-Silencing: What is it, and how can we stop doing it? // Amber A. Price

Have you ever stayed quiet when you were in a group, even though you really wanted to speak up and add your thoughts to the discussion, because you were pretty sure no one would agree with you? Have you ever toned yourself down in a group of girlfriends because you were worried about being “too much” or “too weird” or not quite like everyone else? Have you ever silenced a part of you that is whispering that you want to start a business, or go back to school, or go after a big goal because…what would people think? 

I’m guessing the answer to at least one of those questions is YES because we have all made ourselves smaller at one time or another, in order to fit in or not make waves. Turns out there is a term for this in the psychology world, and it’s self-silencing.

I am thrilled to be interviewing my cousin, Amber Price, and today we are going to dive into what self-silencing is and how we can stop doing it.

In addition to being the world’s coolest cousin, Amber has her master’s degree in Marriage, Family and Human Development and is currently working on her PhD in the same field. Her research focuses on authenticity and connection, and her mission is to help women love themselves for who they are so that they can find deeper connection with their partners, family, and friends. 

I’m so excited for the 3 in 30 community to get to learn from her today about how we can be more ourselves in our day-to-day lives as women. So with my further ado, here is my conversation with my cousin Amber!



1) Define Yourself instead of relying on other people’s opinions to define you. The first step to stop doing this is to simply notice when you’re worrying about what others will think and start to mentally challenge that.


2) Own Your Choices. Stop doing things because you think you should, and take an honest look at your deeper motivations: do you want to do this? Why or why not?


3) Speak Up. Use your voice to share your opinions with a group; don’t hold back from expressing your concerns; and start being more of yourself when you’re with trusted friends. Start small, and the more you share of yourself, the easier it will get.


>>>Are these tips about self-silencing helpful? What would you add to the takeaways? Tell us in the comments below.






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