339: The Hidden Reason for Misbehavior (in kids AND parents!) // Wendy Bertagnole


What if I told you that learning about and identifying our children’s sensory preferences has the potential to completely change many of the misbehaviors in your home?

This week’s guest, Wendy Bertagnole, is a special education teacher who is also a mother of three, and she’s here to teach us about sensory preferences. Sensory preferences are how much stimulation a person can tolerate within each of the physical senses– how much stimulation they avoid or actively seek out. In this episode, you’ll hear Wendy explain how identifying and supporting the unique sensory preferences of each person in our family can dramatically improve the environment, relationships, and behaviors in our homes.




3 Takeaways about Reasons for Misbehavior 

  1. We all have sensory preferences! This means that we either avoid or seek out stimulation in each of the seven areas that Wendy described: seeing, hearing, tasting, smelling, touching, and then proprioception, and vestibular.
  2. Knowing our sensory preferences helps us understand our behavior. We aren’t bad parents when we get overwhelmed and lose it… we just aren’t supporting our sensory preferences! We can make tweaks to help us be more calm and centered in the various circumstances that come up in busy home life.
  3. Supporting our children’s sensory preferences can help to mitigate a lot of difficult behaviors. This will help us parent with a lot more empathy, connection, and effectiveness.


>>>Are these tips about hidden reasons for misbehavior helpful? What would you add to her takeaways? Tell us in the comments below.



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Mentioned in the Episode:

  • Click here to get Wendy’s workbook for identifying your and your family’s sensory preferences!


  • BetterHelp: This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Go to betterhelp.com/3in30 to get 10% off your first month of online therapy!
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