365: Intentional Fatherhood // Tal Eyre

My relationship with my dad is really special. I know firsthand how intentional fatherhood can impact a child’s life.

With Father’s Day coming up this week in the United States, I’ve been thinking a lot about my Dad, so I decided to invite a dad that I admire to interview on the podcast. 

Now, this podcast is for moms, so why feature an episode about dads? Well, all of us here in this community – whether you’re in the podcast community or you’ve joined my Self-Assured Motherhood program – are working hard to become intentional moms. And I often have moms ask me, “What can we do to get our husbands on board?” 

Unfortunately, there aren’t as many resources about intentional fatherhood out there, so I’m thrilled to introduce my guest to you moms so you have an excellent resource to share with the dads in your life. 

My guest is Tal Eyre. He has a Master of Applied Positive Psychology from U Penn and is a Swiss-based leader in global business development. Tal was a Division 1 basketball player in college, and he has made contributions to athletics, humanitarian work, family life, academics, and international business in the years since. 

His highest priority is and has always been his family, and his new book, Dad Mode, reveals some of his key lessons. 

I’m excited to share with you three of the takeaways from his book in honor of Father’s Day, so let’s get into it! 

Intentional Fatherhood: 3 Ways to Be a More Connected Dad

 

1. Work to be an Authoritative Dad.

Tal and I both tend towards a more permissive style of parenting, while some other parents tend more naturally towards a more authoritarian style. Tal reminds us of the importance of striving to land in the middle of those two and be an authoritative parent. This style is a combination of being supportive and demanding at the same time. It’s tricky to achieve, but it’s the only style of parenting that’s been proven over and over again to be the most effective. Striving for this balance is worth the effort. 

 

2. Seek for Self-Connection.

Brene Brown said it best, “Our connection with others can only be as deep as our connection with ourselves.” Tal applies this to parenting as he reminds us that we can only connect with our children as deeply as we are connected with ourselves. He encourages parents to do shadow work, which is when we seek to understand our own faults and how they are impacting the people we love most. We can do this by asking the people we love what we have to work on. We can also do the opposite – light work – by seeking to know our strengths. The better we know ourselves and the more we look honestly at ourselves, the more we can strengthen our relationships with our children. 

 

3. Strive to be an “Observing Dad.”

Tal encourages us to actively observe our children, and then mirror back to them what we see as their unique personality traits. While we may not always be correct, Tal says he’s found that the genuine effort to express what he sees in his child has helped her make sense of who she is. I love Tal’s practice of giving his daughter “awards” for the specific traits that consistently show themselves, and it’s so precious that these awards now cover the inside of her bedroom door. There is power in being a loving witness of our children’s lives and calling out their uniqueness and goodness, so they can start to see it in themselves. 

 

Don’t you want to run out and buy Tal’s book on intentional fatherhood for the dads in your life now? With Father’s Day coming up, this would be a great gift! 

 

My friend, please know how lucky your kids are to have such an intentional mom. I hope you can share this episode with the good men in your children’s lives. As always, I’m rooting for you. You’re doing a great job!

 

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Intentional Fatherhood: How to be a Connected Dad. Tal Eyre. 3 in 30 Podcast Takeaways for Moms with Rachel Nielson. Infographic.
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>>>What did you think of these takeaways from Tal on intentional fatherhood? What would you add? Comment below! 

 

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About Our Guest:

Tal Eyre has a Master of Applied Positive Psychology from U Penn and is a Swiss-based leader in global business development. Tal was a Division 1 basketball player in college, and he has made contributions in athletics, humanitarian work, family life, academics, and international business in the years since. His highest priority is and has always been his family, and his new book, Dad Mode, reveals some of his key learnings along the way.

 

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