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126: 3 Fail-Proof Ways to Reduce Sibling Rivalry // Dr. Laura Markham

Dr. Laura Markham, with Rachel Nielson, host of top Motherhood Podcast, 3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms, discusses ways to Reduce Sibling Rivalry in your home, listen now.

As parents, we sometimes feel like we have no control over the relationships our children form with each other, and that can feel so discouraging.

I know I myself have said things like, “My children are both so strong-willed. Their personalities just clash, and there’s nothing I can do to help them get along!”

But there is actually a lot that we can do to make it much more likely that our kids will develop close friendships. And the best news of all is that it has nothing to do with what they are doing and everything to with what we are doing.

Today on the podcast, I am thrilled to be interviewing one of THE most renowned experts on sibling rivalry whose book helped me to see the control that I have in the development of my kids’ relationships with each other. 

Dr. Laura Markham earned her PhD in clinical psychology from Columbia University and is the author of several outstanding books on parenting, including the book that we are going to discuss in-depth today, Peaceful Parent, Happy Siblings: How to Stop the Fighting and Raise Friends for Life.

Dr. Laura is also a mother of two thriving young adults, so she has lived what she studies and teaches, and I’m just so honored that she is joining us for not one but TWO episodes on sibling rivalry this month–because this topic is so big and important that it really deserves a series.

Come back next week for part two!

Three Takeaways:

  1. You can control your own behavior and the way you model self-regulation to your children by not flipping out and yelling.
  2. You can control how much you invest in connecting with each of your children individually, so they don’t feel as much need to rival for your attention and love.
  3. You can control how you intervene in your children’s conflicts, as a coach, not a judge or referee.

Show Notes:

Announcement!

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Related Episodes:

077: How to Coach Your Children Through Their Big Emotions

050: How to Actually Listen to Your Children

038: How to Get your Teens to Talk to You (And It Starts When They’re Young!)

084: The 3 Cs of Transformative Discipline

About the Podcast Host, Rachel Nielson

Rachel taught high school English for five years before deciding to be a stay-at-home mom to her two miracle babies, Noah Atticus, who was adopted, and Sally Grace, who was conceived through IVF.

In her life, Rachel has experienced great sorrow but also great joy--and she loves diving deep into the topics that matter most. Thank you for listening to the podcast and giving her a chance to share her heart.

2 Comments

  1. Brooke on 04/29/2020 at 9:00 AM

    This is so good! I absolutely needed this and appreciate it so much. It all rings true to me.

    • Rachel Nielson on 05/10/2020 at 2:18 PM

      Oh thank you so much!

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