They say love is patient; love is kind. But the truth is, sometimes it’s not EASY for love to be either of those things, especially when you are facing a devastating betrayal.
“Betrayal” can be discovering a spouse’s affair or addiction, learning that he/she has not been honest in their business dealings and has put the family’s well-being in jeopardy, and many other situations. You are faced with shattering grief, and often don’t know where to turn for support because the trial is so personal and involves someone else. It can feel so isolating.
Mika Perry—a mother, blogger, and professional organizer—has been there. In 2012 she discovered that her husband, Russ, was having an affair. Over the years since, she and Russ have worked toward healing and now openly share their story to help those suffering in silence.
Today on the show, Mika shares her experience of what life after betrayal looked like for her and how it ultimately led to a life of truth, abundance, faith, and purpose.
This is an incredibly personal and tender topic, and whether or not you choose to stay married after a betrayal, this episode will bring you hope. Please pass the episode along to someone who might need to know they are not alone.
Mika’s Instagram: @mikaperry
Mika’s website: mikaperry.com
-The blog post where Mika first opened up about the affair:
Mika and Russ’ podcast “Good to be Home.” Episode 2 is where Mika and Russ share their story
Russ Perry’s book, The Sober Entrepreneur: starts with affair and goes through the process of getting sober and building a business.
If you are struggling with betrayal trauma, here are some resources:
Caitlin Olson, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, specializes in addiction recovery and betrayal trauma. You can find her on Instagram: @caitlinolsenmft
Sariah Hoffman, certified yoga therapist, of @backpocketyoga on Instagram
Ashlynn and Coby on Instagram: @ashlynnandcoby and their podcast “The Betrayed, The Addicted, The Expert” features 3 different perspectives on topics dealing with relationships, recovery, betrayal and addiction.
Rachel and Jenae specialize in betrayal trauma (BT)- find them on Instagram: @couchtalktime
Center for Hope and Healing in Lehi, UT
Betrayal Trauma Recovery btr.org
What Can I Do About Me? by Rhyll Ann Croshaw
Treating Trauma from Sexual Betrayal by Kevin Skinner