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How to Stop Being Mean to Yourself (Encore!)

3 Tools I Learned in Counseling to Manage Negative Self-Talk and Unhealthy Behaviorsd

The past few weeks at our house have been so busy that I’ve slipped into some negative self-talk and coping behaviors. Whenever this happens, I feel so frustrated with myself, thinking, “Rachel, you know better than this! You’ve learned great strategies in counseling over the past six years to help you stay in the positive!” That’s…

012: How to Stop Being Mean to Yourself: 3 of the Best Tools I Learned in Counseling

Three strategies to stop negative self-talk

Five years ago, I realized that I needed to go to counseling. I had been coping with stress and heartache through both undereating and overeating for almost ten years, and my negative thoughts about myself had become debilitating and all-consuming. I sought treatment from an outpatient eating disorder clinic, and I fully expected my counselor to…

000: Learning How to Love: The “Why” Behind 3 in 30 Podcast

Meet Rachel Nielson and Learn the Why of the Podcast

In the middle of a rainy summer night, just over six years ago, I became a mother.

My experience was a little different than most mothers—I wasn’t the one in the hospital bed that night. I was standing beside my son’s brave birthmother as Noah came into the world.

After years of failed infertility treatments and adoption possibilities that didn’t go through, I was finally a mother.

I often tell our son, who we named Noah Atticus, that he was our first miracle.Rachel Nielson, Host of 3in30 Podcast for Moms

Three years later, this time on a hot summer morning, we were blessed a second time. After going through Invitro Fertilization and an incredibly difficult pregnancy, my second little miracle was placed in my arms.

Sally Grace was bruised and battered from a posterior delivery, but she was here and she was ours.

And the focus of life just zooms in for a moment—for a day or two—and everything feels clear. There’s peace and perspective and happiness when a new baby joins your family.

But then the focus zooms back out, because it has to—because there are meals to make and families to support, and very complicated, very real adult challenges that come to us in life—

And even though you know that those babies in your arms are what you most treasure and what you want more than anything, there are moments when you wonder if you can really do this. There are times when you hardly recognize yourself in the midst of your discouragement or your yelling at your kids, and you mourn a little bit for the happy mother that you wanted to be—that still you want to be.

Motherhood is beautiful, magical, and good—but it is also very hard at times. We all have our own unique situations and struggles and heartaches.

The hard stuff will never go away completely, but what if we could minimize it? Manage it a little better? And what if there were simple things we could do as mothers to maximize the joy?

That is the premise and the goal of this podcast: to give moms like you and me practical, doable takeaways to try with our families each week—strategies that will help us create more meaning in motherhood.

Please listen to the entire introductory episode to learn more about being a part of the 3 in 30 Podcast community of moms!