Getting Through Hard Times

3 Messages of Hope for the Darkest Times: Lessons from Infertility, Adoption, and Loss (Encore!)

One year ago, I saw my son’s birthmom for the last time. She had come to spend the weekend with us for Noah’s 6th birthday, and it is a weekend I will never forget.  We explored the mountains near our new home, roasted marshmallows over a summer bonfire, and poured love on the amazing little boy who had brought us all so much joy.

Before she left, we took photos on our front porch at sunset, and I marveled at the miracle of open adoption.  I snapped a photo of her kissing Noah’s cheek, never imagining that it would be the last photo I would take of them together.

Three months later, November 2017, Katie took her own life after a long battle with mental illness.  I recorded this episode a few days after I received the news of her death. As I grappled with how I could possibly face this loss, I decided to share “Three Messages of Hope for the Darkest Times.” Within this episode, I talk about my journey with infertility, which ultimately lead me the miracle of Noah and his beautiful birthmom, Katie.

I re-air the episode today in honor of Noah’s birthday, which I always shared with Katie.

Noah's Birth

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Show Notes

Infertility and Adoption Grants: bundledblessingsfertility.com

I want to meet you!

-Rediscover YOU! Workshop in Utah (September 28-29): https://www.eventbrite.com/e/rediscover-you-workshop-tickets-47833978718

-The Pearl Conference In Las Vegas, NV (November 17): https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-pearl-conference-a-conference-for-mothers-tickets-48097368524

039: Leaving a Legacy of Love for Our Children: A Musical Tribute to My Mama

A daughter's recollections of her mother's last few years of life, and the songs that brought them together

July 14th marked 15 years since my mother passed away from breast cancer.  I’ve been thinking about this milestone for months, and it occurred to me that I could use music to honor her.

Most people don’t know that I am a singer, and within this episode, you will hear me sing five different songs that remind me of my mother.  I will tell the story behind each song, and you will see how they all weave together to create a picture of the legacy that my mother left for me.

This episode is truly a piece of my heart.  My hope is that it will bring you hope and perspective in your own motherhood journey.

Adelaide and her adoring parents

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038: How to Get your Teenagers to Talk to You (and it Starts When They are Young) // Tony Overbay, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

A therapist explains three concrete strategies we can use to help our teenagers know that they can trust us and talk to us

He’s baaccck!  Our favorite male guest is back on the podcast today teaching us how to talk to our children in a way that fosters trust and communication–so they know they can talk to us into their teenage years and beyond.

Tony Overbay is a Licensed Family and Marriage Therapist and a father of four young adults, so he has professional and personal experience with this topic.  Whether you are currently parenting teenagers, or you will be parenting teenagers in a few years, there is something for you in this episode!

Listen in to learn how to truly…

1) Invite open and honest communication, no matter what

2) Listen with empathy and recognize emotional bids (EFT)

3) Follow up to let your children know that their thoughts matter to you

Show Notes

-Tony’s first episode on 3 in 30, “How to Praise Your Child, Even When It Feels Like There is Nothing to Praise”: https://3in30podcast.com/praise/

-Tony’s website: tonyoverbay.com

-Tony’s podcast, The Virtual Couch: http://www.tonyoverbay.com/category/podcast/

Tony’s top parenting book recommendation: Transforming the Difficult Child: The Nurtured-Heart Approach, https://amzn.to/2ucXf3C

-Emotionally-Focused Therapy, Sue Johnson: http://drsuejohnson.com/emotionally-focused-therapy-2/what-is-eft/

 

035: Modeling for our Children How to Endure with Hope // Ralphie Jacobs of Simply on Purpose and her father, Bob Peters

How do we stay positive when we face incomprehensible trials?  How do we endure well and allow our struggles to soften and strengthen us?  And perhaps most importantly, how do we model this kind of resilience for our children?

Today on the podcast, Ralphie Jacobs, the respected parenting expert from Simply on Purpose, talks about her heroic father who, as a father of nine children, was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis when Ralphie was five years old.  He lost the ability to walk by the time Ralphie was ten, and he has endured MS for over 30 years.

This interview is especially meaningful because Ralphie’s father joins us on the call.  Ralphie wanted him to hear her tribute to him and to add his own thoughts to the discussion–and it is a truly tender and touching conversation between a beloved father and “his girl.”

I felt honored to be apart of this sacred conversation, and I know you will feel the same after you listen.  You will come away braver, more determined to stay positive, and completely inspired to invest in your children when they are young–so you can have rich relationships with them that last a lifetime.

Show Notes

-Ralphie’s Instagram account and teaching platform, Simply on Purpose: https://www.instagram.com/simplyonpurpose/?hl=en

-Ralphie’s interview on the Extraordinary Moms Podcast: https://extraordinarymomspodcast.com/ralphie/

-Ralphie’s first interview on 3 in 30, “How to Step Yelling at Your Kids”: https://3in30podcast.com/yelling/

How to Stop Being Mean to Yourself (Encore!)

3 Tools I Learned in Counseling to Manage Negative Self-Talk and Unhealthy Behaviorsd

The past few weeks at our house have been so busy that I’ve slipped into some negative self-talk and coping behaviors. Whenever this happens, I feel so frustrated with myself, thinking, “Rachel, you know better than this!  You’ve learned great strategies in counseling over the past six years to help you stay in the positive!”

That’s when I remind myself that recovery isn’t linear.  We can have little setbacks along the way, without being all the way back at the beginning.  Yes, I’ve come a long way since the beginning of my therapy journey, but I’m still learning and practicing–and that’s okay.

This Encore episode is as much as reminder for ME as it is for you.  I’ve recorded a new intro to tell you what’s going on in my life right now, and then I re-air what I consider to be one of the most important episodes I’ve ever published.

Whether or not you’ve listened to this episode before, I hope you will listen!

 

Show Notes

The Surprising Way I Confronted my Eating Disorder” (narrative therapy): https://powerofmoms.com/eating-disorder/

Unhealthy Stress or Habits? Break the Cycle!” (podcast on Power of Moms): https://powerofmoms.com/unhealthy-stress/

“Listening to and Loving your Body through Intuitive Eating” (podcast on Power of Moms): https://powerofmoms.com/intuitive-eating/

 

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