016: How to Be the Mom You Are–Instead of the Mom You Think You Should Be // Julie Bastedo

How to be a Confident Mom: 3 Tips to Embrace the Mom You Are


“Fill your life with things that make you feel whole, instead of holey.”

In this week’s episode, Julie Bastedo (who has taught high school English for 18 years and has two children of her own) walks mothers through some strategies to help us embrace how to be a confident mom – how to embrace who we truly are, instead of always pining after whom we think we “should” be.

With humor and wisdom (and while quoting classic literature and poety, of course), Julie dives into each of the following takeaways:

1) Sit down and make a list of the unique gifts that YOU bring to your children.

2) Only follow social media accounts that enhance what you are already good at. (Julie calls this “ancillary material.” And don’t worry, she defines that.)

3) Recognize that you will be a source of joy and a source of disappointment for others throughout your life…and that’s okay.

Don’t miss this lively and uplifting discussion between two old friends who want to empower and encourage each other–and all the women who are listening.

Show Notes

-Rachel’s podcast with Power of Moms about her trip to South Africa: https://powerofmoms.com/ordinary-moms-can-make-extraordinary-difference-crystal-paine-rachel-nielson-episode-186/

-“When I Heard the Learn’d Astronomer” by Walt Whitman

“One’s-Self I Sing by Walt Whitman: “Of Life immense in passion, pulse, and power/ Cheerful, for freest action form’d under the laws divine…”

-The Book of Joy: Lasting Happiness in a Changing World by Dalai Lama and Desmond Tutu

-Quote by Mother Teresa:

“People are often unreasonable, irrational, and self-centered. Forgive them anyway.

If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives. Be kind anyway.

If you are successful, you will win some unfaithful friends and some genuine enemies. Succeed anyway.

If you are honest and sincere, people may deceive you. Be honest and sincere anyway.

What you spend years creating, others could destroy overnight. Create anyway.

If you find serenity and happiness, some may be jealous. Be happy anyway.

The good you do today will often be forgotten. Do good anyway.

Give the best you have, and it may never be enough. Give your best anyway.

In the final analysis, it’s between you and God.

It was never between you and them anyway.”

Jody Moore, Bold New Mom: “Other people’s opinion of me is none of my business.”

13 thoughts on “016: How to Be the Mom You Are–Instead of the Mom You Think You Should Be // Julie Bastedo”

  1. This was the first podcast I’ve heard of you’re and I LOVED it! In the middle of listening I already started teaching out to friends! I can’t wait to hear more!!

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  4. Loved this episode, Rachel! Thanks to you and Julie! As English teachers that appreciate documenting sources I thought you would like to know that Mother Teresa is not the source of that quote. It was actually by a college student named Kent M. Keith and published in 1968 in a pamphlet titled “The Silent Revolution: Dynamic Leadership in the Student Council” https://quoteinvestigator.com/tag/mother-teresa/

    Thanks for the work you put into this podcast!

    1. Rachel Nielson

      Oh thank you so much fort letting me know! Why are so many awesome quotes mis-attributed? I recently read a quote that was supposedly by Corrie Ten Boom, but it was a quote that rhymed in English. And I thought, “I just highly doubt that a woman who spoke Dutch said this.” Ha! Thanks for pointing us to the right place for that great quote by Kent Keith!

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