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Please include at least one personal example or story under each takeaway to develop your point.  Below are a few  sample episode outlines, so you can see how to clearly defining the steps or concepts in your takeaways:

 

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SAMPLE FROM EPISODE 255: HOW TO GET FAMILY DINNER ON THE TABLE (AND WHY IT MATTERS) // KELSEY NIXON:

Topic: How to make meal planning feel manageable and combat dinnertime decision fatigue

Background: I personally found healing at our family dinner table after losing my son Leo in 2015. As I was processing my grief I stopped doing some of the things that had brought me happiness in the past...like cooking. A simple commitment to cook ONE meal a week for the sake of enjoyment that ended with my family gathering around the table taught me the power of the ritual of family dinner. This doesn't mean I started cooking every single night, but I couldn't believe how much I started to value time around our table together. So how do we make this doable for busy families? 

 

Takeaways:

  1. Embrace meal planning, but remember that it can be simple!

 

 I cringe at the phrase "meal planning" as much as anyone does, but the fact is that it's one of those tasks that really does lighten your load throughout the week if you can figure out a system to make it happen. The secret is to start that process in your very own kitchen by "shopping your kitchen" before you begin your meal plan. Use what you ALREADY have on hand to guide the decisions you'll make for meals that week. Assign your partner/spouse/older kid a weeknight to be in charge of dinner. You deserve at least one night off!

 

  1. Have 3 simple recipe ideas for when you don't feel like cooking. (and ALWAYS have the ingredients on hand). 

 

These are the things I turn to often when there's a gap in my meal plan and I feel that feeling of dinner dread at 5pm. Breakfast for dinner, Spaghetti and Meatballs, Grilled Cheese with Apples + Bacon. These are all meals that my kids are guaranteed to eat so I know that I won't have any battles at the table and I could basically make these with my eyes closed.

3. Create a recipe binder.

 

 It may sound old school, but most people prefer cooking from a hard copy vs. a screen. Include your family’s “greatest hits” recipes in your binder and make this binder your first stop when you sit down to do your grocery order for the week to help with decision fatigue. Consider putting the printed recipes in page protectors or laminate them to keep them in tip top shape for a long time.

 

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SAMPLE FROM EPISODE 89: WHEN SHOULD I GIVE MY TEEN A CELL PHONE? // ANDREA DAVIS:

 

  1. Find five parents who are a few years ahead of you in parenthood and ask them how they have handled technology and cell phones with their children.

     Let them know that you would like to learn how they have handled screen time and technology with their children. Make sure they know you are not asking so you can scrutinize or judge, simply to learn what worked and what didn't, so you can be prepared to help your children in the best possible way.  Take notes on what you learn. You think you will remember it all, but you won't. Bonus points if you can get your spouse to join in on the conversation!

Personal Example: I asked about 20 parents this question! So insightful.  We moved across the country when our oldest was in middle school. It was crazy and stressful. We gave her an abandoned smartphone so we could get a hold of her as we didn't know anyone. We realized later it was too much too soon and went back to a brick phone!

 

  1. Work with your family to create healthy tech boundaries.

     We've held a series of discussions on a variety of tech-related topics; but one that I get asked about the most is on the topic of, "When should I give my child or teen a cell phone?"

Personal Example: I felt there must be a tool to use so that parents and kids could make an educated decision together. In an effort to make this happen, we gathered our kids and asked them two questions: 1. What kinds of things does a responsible person do? (Make a list together!) 2. What does it mean to be emotionally mature? What does that look like? (Add to the list.) Our kids came up with all kinds of great answers! We then told them that when a person is responsible and mature (and it's actually a real need!), then they are ready to have their own cell phone.

This conversation led us to create our Self-Evaluation for Teens. Teens can evaluate themselves and see if they are ready for a personal device/cell phone or not. We then use a fourphase process to gradually introduce a cell phone.

 

  1. Listen to your gut, but also listen to your teen.

     When I was calling parents, one of my friends told me, "Listen to your gut." After we've talked to other parents ahead of us and done some research, then we can listen to our gut and talk with our spouse and make a plan with our family; knowing that perfection isn't the goal. The goal is to make screen time better and our goal at Better Screen Time is to help parents spend less time worrying and more time connecting with their kids. It can be really easy to just want to say no to everything, but our goal is to teach our children and teens while they are still with us. We want to teach them how to use technology as a tool when the time is right.

Personal Example: I've found that I am much better with my own boundaries now that I have a teen and I want to model the tech behavior I want to see.  It's important that we listen to our teens as well. Even if we don't agree with their technology wishlist, we can just listen.  I have gotten so much better at just listening without planning my next comment. It is hard feeling like you're the only middle schooler with a flip-phone! It truly is!

 

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SAMPLE FROM ALLI ROPER

  1. Change the way you talk about learning.

     I honestly think the #1 thing we can do to keep learning is to start saying, “I love to learn.” I think that when you can change your words, you often can change your mindset about something.  Start saying, “I love to learn” all the time, and you’ll be surprised by how much you start learning! When you’re out with your friends or family or kids and they ask you a question, instead of responding, “I don’t know. I’ve forgotten everything”, instead respond, “I don’t know, but I’d love to learn about it!” Just this mindset change from fixed to growth mindset can make a huge difference in helping you. Plus, you have the added benefit of helping your children want to learn too. *

Personal Example: When I was a young adult, I think I had fixed mindset about a lot of things. I’d say, “I don’t know how to figure out taxes” or “I don’t know how to put that Ikea chair together” and I would always defer to my husband. But then I realized that my husband didn’t know how to do it either. He just started using Google. Finally I think he got so bugged with me asking him everything that he started telling me, “I can google that for you” and I got the hint. Now I love the challenge of figuring something out or learning it. Once you start considering yourself a person who is “always getting educated”— a learner—you start acting like one.

 

  1. Stop waiting for big chunks of time to learn and start in a creative and realistic way.

      As I have talked with lots of women about learning, and continuing their education, the #1 thing that comes up is time. Believe me, I get that time can be really tricky. But I think the first thing we have to get over is this idea that we have to wait to learn about something until we have big chunks of time—an hour, two hours, even a half hour. We have to start with what we have, otherwise we’ll never get in the habit, and we won’t be as educated as we want to be. If you want to learn about personal finance, you might not have the time for hours-long courses, but you might have time for a weekly podcast on finance you can listen to while you do the dishes. Pick something you are genuinely interested in learning about, and do something SMALL to learn about it.

Personal Example: One hack I have for learning is to multi-task it as much as you can. For me, this means I use audio—I listen to books and podcasts while I do menial tasks, when my kids are sleeping or playing quietly. I always start an audiobook on a time that works for me, usually that’s 1.5x. Then, as I get used to the voice, I’m able to crank up the speed little by little and I can listen at a faster clip and it doesn’t overwhelm me. It has taken a few years for me to train my brain, but I have learned how to listen at a faster pace from consistently doing it! I also keep a book on my kindle app on my phone so that when I’m tempted to scroll instagram, I instead open that app and read.

 

  1. Join or build a learning community.

     I have learned that I learn more deeply when I’m learning with people I personally know.  Here are some things that I have either done myself or other women have done that have helped us to keep learning without doing something too overwhelming:

  1. If you want to read more, get on Goodreads. Start following a few friends who also like to read. Every time you see them sharing books they have read, and rating them, you’ll be more motivate to want to keep reading. Plus you get great book ideas.
  2. Start a GroupMe text thread or just a normal text thread or a Marco Polo chat between friends who genuinely seem interested in learning about something. You don’t have to be on it every day talking, but when you learn something new, you can share it with each other.

Personal Example:  I have a group of friends and we all read “Atomic Habits” by James Clear. We talked about it every time we hit the park and we started getting more and more ideas from each other until finally someone just started a text thread. Every so often someone will pop up on the thread with an idea about something and every starts chiming in.

  1. If you really want to go big, join a club or start a club. Book clubs, where people really read the book and want to discuss it, are a great example, but there are also other ideas.

Personal Example: My husband recently was invited to a Think Club. It was all men, and they all just had to show up. One of the guys had read a book on a particular subject, and was prepared to talk about the book and the main ideas behind it—kind of like the reader’s digest version. Then he taught the other guys, and then had this great discussion. My husband didn’t even have to read the book, but he learned a lot that night and came home totally into learning more about that topic!