058: What Happened to my Sex Drive & What Can I Do to Get It Back? // Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife

How to Get your Sex Drive Back, a podcast episode featuring Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, on top US mom podcast, 3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms

Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife is a licensed psychotherapist specializing in relationship and sexuality counseling. On today’s podcast, she discusses three common ways that women’s mindsets around sex can decrease our desire.

You’re going to want a pen and paper as you listen to this one. This woman is a genius, and she dives DEEP into our psyches! Get ready to take notes.

If you are interested in more of Dr. Finalyson-Fife’s work, go to http://www.finlayson-fife.com/ and check out her courses, which are 20% off through Christmas. I highly recommend!

Show Notes

Art of Desire Course: http://www.finlayson-fife.com/art-post-lms/

“How to Embrace Your Inner Hotness” by Leta Greene: https://www.amazon.com/How-Embrace-Your-Inner-Hotness-ebook/dp/B00N7VTACS




  1. Jennifer on 12/04/2018 at 9:09 AM

    Hi Rachel, I’m one of your biggest fans! I sincerely appreciate your podcast. Just wanted to let you know that this episode with Jennifer Finlayson-Fife was incredibly informative, and so needed! I’ve listened to several other excellent podcast interviews that she’s given; so I was looking forward to more of the same. But this was especially outstanding. I was surprised to hear so much that opened my eyes. I will definitely be listening again. Thank you!!

    • Rachel Nielson on 12/05/2018 at 9:18 PM

      Wow! Thank you so much for the kind comment. I’m so glad to know that the episode was helpful to you in new ways! It was a joy to record this interview. Thank you so much for listening!!

  2. Cosette on 12/06/2018 at 11:30 AM

    Oh my goodness! All these mind frames you are talking about are all things in a chapter of a book (from a therapist) my dad sent to me when I got married. I can totally attest to the damage the “duty sex” mindset has. My husband hates that document and we’ve been looking for answers that don’t cause resentment. Thank you so much for his episode!

    • Rachel Nielson on 12/06/2018 at 4:18 PM

      Cosette–Do you mean that the damaging meaning frames were taught as correct in the book?? Or they were warned against?? I am so glad you found the episode helpful!

  3. Rindi on 12/06/2018 at 3:25 PM

    Rachel, I just listened to this. I was with you at the fabulous course this fall. Today, I wanted a little refresher, so I got online, and BOOM! I found this! This was the perfect reminder of all the good things we learned. Thanks for the great work and for sharing this. Much love this Christmas season!

    • Rachel Nielson on 12/06/2018 at 4:19 PM

      Hi!! Good to see you here! That course was life changing, and I’m so glad you found a good refresher here! xoxox

  4. JDS on 12/09/2018 at 12:19 PM

    I wish my wife would change the way she sees her/our/my sexuality. I didn’t get married to live the life of a monk that took votes of chastity…ugh!

    • Rachel Nielson on 12/14/2018 at 11:33 AM

      I recommend Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife’s courses to everyone in this situation! She has two courses that you and your wife could take together!

    • Hannah on 01/08/2019 at 11:45 AM

      If this is the case then please communicate with your wife. Perhaps you can suggest listening to this podcast. Dr Finlayson-Fife also has a course for women only about female sexuality that might be worth considering. Perhaps she needs to feel comfortable with her own sexuality, or perhaps this is something she has never fully explored. Many women are taught a version of female sexuality which is defined in relation to and in the service of male sexuality. We can see this not only in faith communities but across the wider culture where women are taught that they need to dress sexy or whatever to please men. To be quite frank, a lot of men hold outdated attitudes that their wives should be serving their sexual needs rather than seeing their sexual relationship as a shared and mutually pleasurable experience. If a woman feels under pressure to have “duty sex” she’s not going to be very enthusiastic in the long run. Dr Finlayson-Fife is so good at addressing these issues and she really understands women.

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