April marks the half birthday of 3 in 30, so I wanted to kick off the month with a special episode featuring YOU, the mothers of this community.
Do you remember, back in October, when we celebrated the first birthday of the podcast and I asked all of you to think of your own 3 takeaways about motherhood? That was such an inspiring month for me, as I saw your social media posts, read your emails, and listened to your voicemails of your own #my3in30 takeaways.
At that time, I compiled a bunch of your voicemails to air as a birthday episode (here!), but there were too many to fit into one 30-minute segment, so I always planned to use the rest in a half birthday episode. And that’s what you’re going to hear today! You will hear from 12 mothers who have incredibly varied life experiences and wisdom to share.
To all of you listening, YOU are what make 3 in 30 magical. I am so incredibly grateful for your support and dedication to motherhood.
A special THANK YOU to the women who contributed to this episode!
Jill (@jcoterie), Ashley (@joyful_homes), Emily, Kristie (@ourkerrazyadventure), Erin, Alisha, Melissa (@melissa.plainandsimple), Amanda, Jaraka, Jessica, and Molly.
**Each month, we create a printable of all the takeaways from the episodes that aired that month. It is a true labor of love, and we have heard feedback from many women who utilize and look forward to receiving these takeaways sheets each month. If you want all the takeaways directly to your inbox each month, sign up at 3in30podcast.com/takeaways.
The holiday season is a beautiful and magical time for most of us–but it can also be a time of loneliness and heartache for those who have lost loved ones.
This episode is a reminder of the little things we can do to reach out to those who are grieving during this time of year.
Rachel Gainer, a mother of five including an angel baby, shares her experience of losing her 2-month-old daughter, Daphne. She talks about the meaningful ways that family and friends supported her during that enormous loss and in the years since.
Though this topic may seem a bit heavy, the episode is full of hope, love, and goodness, and it is sure to give you great ideas if you’ve ever wondered just what to do for someone who is hurting.
Don’t forget the invitation at the end of this episode: Please reach out this week to someone in your own life who could use some extra support and love as the holidays approach.
Rachel’s website: RachelRebuilt.com
Rachel’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rachel_rebuilt/
**There are a few tickets left to my workshops in Idaho happening in January and February. I’d love to meet you! 3in30podcast.com/workshops
This is the first time I’ve ever cried while recording a podcast episode. It’s also the first time I’ve ever recorded while whispering in a bathroom during a family reunion. So basically, prepare yourself–this is going to be vulnerable and possibly bizarre for 3 in 30! Ultimately, I hope it’s helpful as you navigate your own relationships and consider how to show more love in situations that can be complicated.
The beginning of this episode is an excerpt from my interview with Tony Overbay for *his* podcast, The Virtual Couch. Tony is such a warm and caring podcast host, I felt comfortable sharing one of the most sacred experiences of my life with him–and now I share it with you. I can truly say that this experience with prayer changed the course of my life.
In the second half of the episode, I add three takeaways and further explain my thoughts on how to love someone when it’s hard.
This episode is truly a piece of my heart and soul. I hope you enjoy it.
-Full episode on Tony Overbay’s podcast, The Virtual Couch: http://www.tonyoverbay.com/2018/05/07/episode-54-in-vitro-fertilization-and-open-adoption-w-rachel-nielson-host-of-3-in-30-takeaways-for-moms/
-Mother on Instagram who I love to follow: https://www.instagram.com/kellyejensen/
One year ago, I saw my son’s birthmom for the last time. She had come to spend the weekend with us for Noah’s 6th birthday, and it is a weekend I will never forget. We explored the mountains near our new home, roasted marshmallows over a summer bonfire, and poured love on the amazing little boy who had brought us all so much joy.
Before she left, we took photos on our front porch at sunset, and I marveled at the miracle of open adoption. I snapped a photo of her kissing Noah’s cheek, never imagining that it would be the last photo I would take of them together.
Three months later, November 2017, Katie took her own life after a long battle with mental illness. I recorded this episode a few days after I received the news of her death. As I grappled with how I could possibly face this loss, I decided to share “Three Messages of Hope for the Darkest Times.” Within this episode, I talk about my journey with infertility, which ultimately lead me the miracle of Noah and his beautiful birthmom, Katie.
I re-air the episode today in honor of Noah’s birthday, which I always shared with Katie.
Infertility and Adoption Grants: bundledblessingsfertility.com
I want to meet you!
-Rediscover YOU! Workshop in Utah (September 28-29): https://www.eventbrite.com/e/rediscover-you-workshop-tickets-47833978718
-The Pearl Conference In Las Vegas, NV (November 17): https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-pearl-conference-a-conference-for-mothers-tickets-48097368524
Many of us know friends and family members who have lost precious loved ones. During those heartbreaking times, it’s so hard to know what to say and do to show our love and support.
On today’s podcast, we hear from a mother who has been there and has so much wisdom to share. Several years ago, Rachel Gainer lost her two-month-old daughter, Daphne, and was engulfed in sorrow. She talks about her journey to “rebuilding” her sense of self after Daphne’s death, and she shares invaluable insight into what it’s like to grieve and what we can do to serve those around us who are hurting.
Listen in as she teaches us how to…
1) Reach out to the grieving family, no matter how long it has been.
2) Offer a specific service or gift based on your talents and interests.
3) Speak with sensitivity.
This is an episode that everyone should listen to–because, at some point, we will all inevitably need to support someone whom we love who is grieving. You won’t want to miss Rachel’s ideas for specific, heartfelt gifts we can send and meaningful words we can say. You’ll also want to hear all about her angel baby, Daphne.
Rachel Gainer’s website: RachelRebuilt.com
Rachel Gainer’s Instagram: @rachel_rebuilt
Ink Puddles by Karin (custom artwork for families): https://www.etsy.com/shop/InkPuddlesbyKarin?ref=l2-shopheader-name
**This portrait was done for a family who lost their baby: