Posts Tagged ‘anger’

068: Healing After Betrayal in Your Marriage // Mika Perry of ‘Good to Be Home’ Podcast

They say love is patient; love is kind. But the truth is, sometimes it’s not EASY for love to be either of those things, especially when you are facing a devastating betrayal.

“Betrayal” can be discovering a spouse’s affair or addiction, learning that he/she has not been honest in their business dealings and has put the family’s well-being in jeopardy, and many other situations. You are faced with shattering grief, and often don’t know where to turn for support because the trial is so personal and involves someone else. It can feel so isolating.

Mika Perry—a mother, blogger, and professional organizer—has been there. In 2012 she discovered that her husband, Russ, was having an affair. Over the years since, she and Russ have worked toward healing and now openly share their story to help those suffering in silence.

Today on the show, Mika shares her experience of what life after betrayal looked like for her and how it ultimately led to a life of truth, abundance, faith, and purpose.

This is an incredibly personal and tender topic, and whether or not you choose to stay married after a betrayal, this episode will bring you hope. Please pass the episode along to someone who might need to know they are not alone.

Show Notes:

Mika’s Instagram: @mikaperry

Mika’s website: mikaperry.com

-The blog post where Mika first opened up about the affair:

Mika and Russ’ podcast “Good to be Home.” Episode 2 is where Mika and Russ share their story

Russ Perry’s book, The Sober Entrepreneur: starts with affair and goes through the process of getting sober and building a business.

If you are struggling with betrayal trauma, here are some resources:

Bloom for Women, an online community. Dr. Skinner’s course, “Rebuilding Trust After Sexual Betrayal” or find them on Instagram @bloomforwomen

Addorecovery.com -Utah based support; visit their website for locations and more information or find them on Instagram: @addo.recovery

Caitlin Olson, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, specializes in addiction recovery and betrayal trauma. You can find her on Instagram: @caitlinolsenmft

Sariah Hoffman, certified yoga therapist, of @backpocketyoga on Instagram

Ashlynn and Coby on Instagram: @ashlynnandcoby and their podcast “The Betrayed, The Addicted, The Expert” features 3 different perspectives on topics dealing with relationships, recovery, betrayal and addiction.

Rachel and Jenae specialize in betrayal trauma (BT)- find them on Instagram: @couchtalktime

Dorothy Maryon of Life Star in Salt Lake. They also have a St. George clinic.

Center for Hope and Healing in Lehi, UT

Betrayal Trauma Recovery btr.org

Books:

What Can I Do About Me? by Rhyll Ann Croshaw

Treating Trauma from Sexual Betrayal by Kevin Skinner

054: What If I’m Jealous? // Monica Packer of About Progress

Have you ever been a little bit jealous, even of a good friend? I’m guessing the answer is YES because most of us face jealousy to varying degrees and in various forms throughout our lives.

In this episode, I talk openly with my dear friend and podcasting colleague, Monica Packer of About Progress, about how we have been jealous of each other at times–and what we’ve decided to *do* with that emotion.

Monica shares three “dive deep” questions to ask yourself if you recognize that you’re feeling jealous and if you want to use that feeling to become a better person and friend.  (Yes, it’s possible!)

Don’t miss this honest, heartfelt episode, and let us know what it makes you think about in your own life!

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Show Notes

Monica’s Website: https://aboutprogress.com/

Monica’s Podcast: https://aboutprogress.com/podcast/

Monica’s Progress Program: https://aboutprogress.com/progress-program/

Monica’s article on Power of Moms that started our friendship: https://powerofmoms.com/mothering-doesnt-come-naturally/

Episode 42 “How to Love Someone When It’s Complicated or Hard: Lessons from Open Adoption”: https://3in30podcast.com/open-adoption/

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034: How to Meditate in the Midst of Mayhem // Dr. Leah Weiss

Do you laugh aloud at the thought of having a few minutes to meditate during busy days with your children?  What if I told you that you could be meditating THE ENTIRE DAY, even in the midst of chaotic, everyday moments with your little minions?

Dr. Leah Weiss–an author, a mindfulness expert who studied with the Dali Lama, a professor at the Stanford Graduate School of Business, and a mother of three little children–teaches that this is possible.  It just requires that we redefine (or rather, correctly define) the word “meditation.”

The word “meditation” is a translation from the Tibetan word “gom.”  Dr. Weiss points out that a more literal definition of this word is simply “familiarization” or “getting to know your mind and heart.”  When explained this way, busy moms can let go of visions of silent meditation rooms and burning incense (though those things are great too!) and instead embrace every moment with their children as an opportunity to “familiarize” themselves with their own hearts and minds.  In fact, motherhood itself can become meditation.

Join me for this fascinating conversation with a renowned mindfulness expert who teaches us the Tibetan process of “dampa sum,” meaning “good in the beginning, good in the middle, and good in the end.”

Show Notes

LeahWeissPhd.com

“How We Work: Live Your Purpose, Reclaim Your Sanity, and Embrace the Daily Grind” by Dr. Leah Weiss https://amzn.to/2sz6Wby

“Motherhood Matters: Are You Willing to Suffer?” by Laura Fanucci: https://www.deseretnews.com/article/865638913/Motherhood-Matters-Are-you-willing-to-suffer.html

030: How to Coach your Children through their Big Emotions // Georgia Anderson of KnowHowMom.com

3 Steps for coaching your children through their big emotions

Our little kids come with big emotions—too big, it sometimes seems, for their little bodies. And sometimes (often?) those feelings just come bursting out in bizarre and irrational behaviors.

As parents, this can bring out the bizarre and irrational in us as well, despite our best intentions to stay calm and level-headed.

Today on the podcast, we have a parenting expert who is going to teach us how to coach our children through their emotions, so we can keep ahold of our own.

Georgia Anderson of knowhowmom.com is a wife, mother, stepmother, mother-in-law, and grandmother to 28 people she adores. She has taught parenting classes for three decades and is a Certified Active Parenting Instructor and a Gottman Trained Educator.

In this episode, she walks us through three of the steps to “emotion coach” our children through their big emotions:

 

1) Notice emotions when they are small.

2) Put words to emotions.

3) Set limits and problem solve.

 

There are so many gems and insights in this episode, as she walks me through a specific scenario when my six-year-old son got extremely angry.  I think it will be helpful for you to hear me coached on how I can coach him.  I have applied these steps in the weeks since this interview was recorded, and it has honestly changed my relationship with my son.  Please listen!

Notes

Georgia’s website: knowhowmom.com

Georgia’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/knowhowmomtips/

Upcoming Emotion Coaching Workshop with Georgia: http://www.knowhowmom.com/class/emotion-coaching-for-parents-2/

Book Recommendation: Feelings Buried Alive Never Die by Karol K. Truman

027: 3 Battles You Can Let Your Child Win // Lisa Andersen of Thriving Motherhood

What three battles would you let your child win?

If you feel like you face battle after battle with your child, this episode is for you!  Lisa Andersen, a mother of four who is passionate about helping moms thrive, teaches us 3 power struggles we can opt out of.

I’m not going to tell you ahead of time what the three battles are…so you’ll have to listen! 😉

Chime in and tell us your opinions and ideas in the comments on this post or on my Instagram account, @ https://www.instagram.com/3in30podcast/

 

Show Notes

-Lisa Andersen’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thrivingmotherhood/

-Thriving Motherhood Conference: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/thriving-mothers-conference-express-session-tickets-44616612489

-Ep. 017 with Jody Moore: https://3in30podcast.com/ep-017-3-keys-happier-marriage-jody-moore-bold-new-mom/

-Ep. 004 with Ralphie Jacobs: https://3in30podcast.com/yelling/

-Ellen Satyr, Expert on Positive and Joyful Eating and Feeding: https://www.ellynsatterinstitute.org/

-Division of Responsibility with Eating: https://www.ellynsatterinstitute.org/how-to-feed/the-division-of-responsibility-in-feeding/

-Amy McCready, Positive Parenting Solutions (When-Then tactic): https://www.positiveparentingsolutions.com/