Posts Tagged ‘calm’

084: The 3 Cs of Transformative Discipline // Part 2 with Katherine Reynolds Lewis

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Last week, Katherine Reynolds Lewis, the author of The Good News About Bad Behavior: Why Kids Are Less Disciplined Than Ever– And What to Do About It, taught us that children today are fundamentally different than past generations. Not because they’re born different, but because the world they are growing up in is so different. In previous generations, typical kids developed self-regulation skills through their day-to-day life of playing with friends, being outside, and working alongside their families. But modern cultural factors including less unstructured play and time outdoors, more exposure to media and technology, and more pressure from academic and extra curricular expectations are undermining the natural development of impulse control, self confidence and patience within our kids.

Katherine Reynolds Lewis spent over five years researching parenting and discipline techniques, and she found that there are many effective discipline methods in practice today that teach children how to take ownership of their choices and their emotions and gain the emotional skills they need to self regulate. These transformative discipline methods all share some common elements (that all happen to start with “C”):

  1. Connection: Relationship is the foundation. If we try to discipline our kids before we have that connection, it’s not going to go well.
  2. Communication: Asking questions, posing “what ifs” and getting more information helps children to process and build their problem-solving and critical-thinking skills
  3. Capability-building: We must focus on helping children build both life skills around the house and social and emotional skills.

If you missed last week’s episode, part one of this discussion, you are going to want to go back and listen to that! 

Show Notes

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078: 3 Easy Ways to Capture Memories of Motherhood (Encore!) // Laura Webb

Journaling has always been extremely important to me, but in the past year, as I’ve gotten super busy with the podcast, I have neglected this hobby that gives me joy and peace. I purposely chose this episode to air as an “encore” because need the reminder of how important it is to reflect on and record the experiences we are having as mothers. I am recommitting to journaling, even in my busiest seasons!

The guest is my little sister, Laura Webb–a mother of two young children (with another due any day!) and a Chemistry and Math teacher. She does not consider herself a writer, but she is a diligent journal keeper, and in this episode, she shares her ideas for easy ways that we can fit record-keeping into our busy lives as moms.

Listen in as Laura details ideas for how to…

  • Use technology to help us capture memories
  • Find routine times or triggers to remind us to journal
  • Remember that something is better than nothing when it comes to documenting our lives

What are your best ideas for keeping records of your motherhood experience?  Please share them in the comments or on Instagram @3in30podcast.  We want to learn from you!

Show Notes

Chatbooks

Qeepsake: The Text Message Baby Journal

One-Sentence Journals on Amazon

How to Journal as a Busy Mom (Rachel’s article for Power of Moms)

076: You Have Permission to Pause

You Have Permission to Pause

A month or so ago, I woke up early, before the rest of the house, and lay in the darkness with my heart pounding uncomfortably. It was a physical reminder of something that I don’t like to think about very often: I have chronic health problems that aren’t just magically going to disappear if I ignore them. It is up to ME to change my life and my habits to regain my health. No one else is going to do that for me.

In this episode, I share a bit more of my story, as well as the three steps I am taking in order to give myself a month-long pause:

1) Choose a finite length of time for your break.

2) Look at your calendar and ruthlessly eliminate or postpone any stressful commitments during that time.   Don’t be afraid to tell the people in your life WHY you need a break and how they can support you.

3) Decide how you will use your time off to “get ahead” of your life and make changes that will help you reenter your life  in a much better place.

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064: Make Over Your Mornings // Crystal Paine of Money Saving Mom

In this stage of my life, I start most days to the sound of my children calling for me or running into my room. Before that, I started the day with the sound of my alarm clock signaling I needed to hurry as fast as I possibly could to get ready for work. This often sets the pace to go from one thing to the next in a frazzled state when I am constantly craving slow.

Crystal Paine, entrepreneur, mom, and founder of Money Saving Mom, is often asked how she does what she does, and it all comes down to starting her day with intention.

Crystal has years of experience encouraging women to be intentional when it comes to finance, family, and business. In this episode, she encourages us to develop the habit of serving our tomorrow self by first asking the question: What can you do the night before to set yourself up for success the next day?

Whether you have an intentional morning routine or hopes for developing one, we can’t wait to hear how you like this episode.

 

Show Notes: 

Make Over Your Mornings: 14-day online course to help you start your day with success: https://gr161.isrefer.com/go/MYM/rachelnielson/

Crystal’s website: https://moneysavingmom.com/

Crystal’s Instagram: @themoneysavingmom

Crystal and Rachel’s Power of Moms’ podcast: https://powerofmoms.com/ordinary-moms-can-make-extraordinary-difference-crystal-paine-rachel-nielson-episode-186/

Gretchen Rubin’s book, The Four Tendencies: https://amzn.to/2FUF8XD

Laura Vanderkamp’s book, What the Most Successful People Do Before Breakfast: https://amzn.to/2TbQc6x

 

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How to Take Control of your Motherhood Story // Cate Johnson

How to Take Control of your Motherhood

“At any given point, you can say, ‘This is not how the story is going to end.'”

Cate Johnson was a mother of two young children with a big, beautiful home in the country.  From the outside, it looked like she was “living the dream,” but inside, she felt like she was drowning.

She craved peace and connection with her children–but instead she felt only chaos and overwhelm. She spent hours cleaning her big home while her kids watched television. She felt heartbroken that she was not the mother that she had always wanted to be.

After hitting a breaking point, she decided to take control of her motherhood story. She took a few drastic actions–such as deciding with her husband to sell their home in the country and move into a small apartment in the city–but most of her shifts were small. But they altered her motherhood story and the way she felt about motherhood.

Cate has a message of hope for all of us: We can live true to our values as mothers and take control of our motherhood stories.  Listen in to learn how!

Show Notes

Simplicity Parenting by Kim John Payne: https://amzn.to/2LCK2JC

Lullaby Playlist: https://www.amazon.com/Lullaby-Playlist-Dream-Baby/dp/B00HEHXH6G/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1511810328&sr=8-1&keywords=Lullaby+PLaylist

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