As a follow up to our wonderful series with Katherine Reynolds Lewis (click to listen to Part 1 and Part 2), I knew I wanted to re-air Episode 19 with Chrissy Austin, a speech language pathologist with 18 years of experience teaching children the skills they need to self-regulate.
All of our kids get stuck in behaviors that are difficult for us and others to deal with–perhaps it’s whining, interrupting, fighting with siblings, or defiance. According to Chrissty, these neurological “loops” can be rewired. She does it every day in her private practice, and, in this week’s episode, she teaches us how to do it in our homes! We can follow this simple three-step process with our kids:
1) Identify the specific troublesome behavior, and then ask yourself, “What SKILL does my child need to learn in order to change this behavior?”
2) Sit down with the child and make a GOAL to learn the new skill. Have him or her make it visual by writing it down and/or drawing a picture. Consider adding a hand cue.
3) Offer positive reinforcement through verbal praise whenever the child is working on their goal, and consider adding additional reinforcement through earning privileges, if needed.
Chrissy offers so many fantastic tips and interesting bits of research throughout the interview. You won’t want to miss it, especially if you sometimes struggle with knowing how to help your children change.
Are you interested in starting or growing your podcast?? I am so excited to announce a project I’ve been working on for months with my dear friend and podcasting colleague, Monica Packer. (Drum roll please!) Announcing… Podcast University!
Our mission with Podcast U is to help heart-fueled women build podcasts that make a difference. We would love to help YOU build a podcast you will love. Please go to 3in30podcast.com/podcastu for more information.
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Journaling has always been extremely important to me, but in the past year, as I’ve gotten super busy with the podcast, I have neglected this hobby that gives me joy and peace. I purposely chose this episode to air as an “encore” because I need the reminder of how important it is to reflect on and record the experiences we are having as mothers. I am recommitting to journaling, even in my busiest seasons!
The guest is my little sister, Laura Webb–a mother of two young children (with another due any day!) and a Chemistry and Math teacher. She does not consider herself a writer, but she is a diligent journal keeper, and in this episode, she shares her ideas for easy ways that we can fit record-keeping into our busy lives as moms.
Listen in as Laura details ideas for how to…
- Use technology to help us capture memories
- Find routine times or triggers to remind us to journal
- Remember that something is better than nothing when it comes to documenting our lives
What are your best ideas for keeping records of your motherhood experience? Please share them in the comments or on Instagram @3in30podcast. We want to learn from you!
How to Journal as a Busy Mom (Rachel’s article for Power of Moms)
There are so many things to consider when it comes to anticipating raising a child: will I ever sleep again? Will they be a picky eater? Will they be well behaved? Those are a few of the questions that went through my mind when I became a new mom. But when it comes to taking kids to the doctor, I didn’t think there was much to it. I thought it was something parents just did. I didn’t know my eyes would well with tears right alongside my toddler when the nurse administered him a shot, or what to say the next time when he asks if he has to get a shot again or even when he gets anxious just walking into the doctor’s office remembering his experience from last time.
Today’s guest, Shannon Tripp, is a mother of four and passionate about educating parents in all things first aid and safety for children. Shannon has been a pediatric nurse for more than 10 years, and today she shares a few simple tips to set our children up for success to have a positive experience at the doctor’s office. She urges parents to:
-pay attention to our own feelings and the words we use describing the doctor
-validate our kids’ feelings when they are scared
-and tell them what to expect at a doctor’s visit and what they have to look forward to after
I love how Shannon says that she sees the doctor’s office as “a place that gives parents opportunities to teach their children skills.” I know this episode will help both you and your children be more at ease when anticipating a visit to the doctor.
Parenting with Love and Logic by Foster Cline and Jim Fay
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They say love is patient; love is kind. But the truth is, sometimes it’s not EASY for love to be either of those things, especially when you are facing a devastating betrayal.
“Betrayal” can be discovering a spouse’s affair or addiction, learning that he/she has not been honest in their business dealings and has put the family’s well-being in jeopardy, and many other situations. You are faced with shattering grief, and often don’t know where to turn for support because the trial is so personal and involves someone else. It can feel so isolating.
Mika Perry—a mother, blogger, and professional organizer—has been there. In 2012 she discovered that her husband, Russ, was having an affair. Over the years since, she and Russ have worked toward healing and now openly share their story to help those suffering in silence.
Today on the show, Mika shares her experience of what life after betrayal looked like for her and how it ultimately led to a life of truth, abundance, faith, and purpose.
This is an incredibly personal and tender topic, and whether or not you choose to stay married after a betrayal, this episode will bring you hope. Please pass the episode along to someone who might need to know they are not alone.
Mika’s Instagram: @mikaperry
Mika’s website: mikaperry.com
-The blog post where Mika first opened up about the affair:
Mika and Russ’ podcast “Good to be Home.” Episode 2 is where Mika and Russ share their story
Russ Perry’s book, The Sober Entrepreneur: starts with affair and goes through the process of getting sober and building a business.
If you are struggling with betrayal trauma, here are some resources:
Caitlin Olson, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, specializes in addiction recovery and betrayal trauma. You can find her on Instagram: @caitlinolsenmft
Sariah Hoffman, certified yoga therapist, of @backpocketyoga on Instagram
Ashlynn and Coby on Instagram: @ashlynnandcoby and their podcast “The Betrayed, The Addicted, The Expert” features 3 different perspectives on topics dealing with relationships, recovery, betrayal and addiction.
Rachel and Jenae specialize in betrayal trauma (BT)- find them on Instagram: @couchtalktime
Center for Hope and Healing in Lehi, UT
Betrayal Trauma Recovery btr.org
What Can I Do About Me? by Rhyll Ann Croshaw
Treating Trauma from Sexual Betrayal by Kevin Skinner
Do you and your spouse speak the same love languages? My husband, Ryan, and I do *not.*
I am a words girl. I love them, I need them. My husband is a man of few words. He craves quality time.
There have been times in my marriage when I have resented that he doesn’t show me love in the “right” way, but in the past few years, I’ve found contentment and respect for how he shows love.
Listen to today’s episode for three strategies to love your spouse (and feel loved by your spouse), just as they are.
“The 5 Love Languages” by Gary Chapman
Online quiz to discover your love language: https://www.5lovelanguages.com/profile/
“What Happened to my Sex Drive, and How Do I Get It Back?” with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife
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