It’s TEEN MONTH at 3 in 30, and I’m so excited to kick it off with two of my motherhood mentors, Tiffany Sowby and Allyson Reynolds, who I met about seven years ago when I worked for the organization Power of Moms.
The transition into motherhood and the different stages of it often comes with unexpected loneliness. As our children get older, their needs change, and they need us in different ways than they did when they were young.
Tiffany and Allison have 9 children between them, ranging in age from 21 down to 10 years old, and according to them, “What is hard when kids are little is easy when they’re older, and what is easy when they’re little can be challenging as they get older.”
Today, Tiffany and Allyson are sharing three takeaways for combating “the unexpected loneliness of parenting teens”:
- Find friends in real life you can trust. Unlike so much of the parenting advice that comes through social media, sharing the heavier things requires privacy and connection.
- Seek out resources that are available, including professional help. Book, blogs, and podcasts are easier to find for moms of young children, but they are still out there for moms of teens! And everyone needs a therapist!
- Enjoy the good. Even though your teens aren’t with you as often, it is truly FUN when they are: in these years, you get to develop your friendship with them and see their unique personalities emerge.
There’s no question that parenting has been difficult for every generation– but has it always been this difficult? I’ll admit, my dreams of parenthood were idealized in many ways, but I often wonder if the day will ever come that my children actually stay in their seats at dinner long enough for good conversation and connection. I wonder if their big emotions and high energy will continue to affect our everyday lives, or if we will be able to have memorable outings that don’t require quite so much emotional energy with managing expectations and refereeing.
Katherine Reynolds Lewis, an award-winning journalist and certified parent educator, had the same questions as she raised her own strong-willed children. The more she looked around at other parents and children, the more she realized that she wasn’t alone–kids today just seemed to be harder, even though parents devote more time and energy to their children than in any other generation.
This seeming epidemic of strong-willed kids with difficult behavior is the reason that she embarked on writing her book, The Good News About Bad Behavior– Why Kids Are Less Disciplined Than Ever and What to Do About It.
After years of incredibly detailed research, Katherine found there are three overarching reasons why kids today have less ability to regulate their emotions, thoughts, and behaviors:
- The decline in unstructured play and outdoor time.
- The growth of media and technology .
- The increased focus on achievement and performance, instead of character and contribution.
In this episode, Katherine unpacks each of these areas and gives suggestions for what we as modern parents can do about it.
And don’t forget to come back next week for part two of this super interesting discussion!
Katherine’s website: katherinerlewis.com
Katherine’s Instagram: @katherinereynoldslewis
Katherine’s book: The Good News About Bad Behavior: Why Kids Are Less Disciplined Than Ever– and What To Do About It
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To celebrate the 1st birthday of the podcast, I asked listeners to share their *own* three takeaways on social media (#my3in30) and with their friends and family. I have been overwhelmed by the response and the creativity and wisdom of this community of mothers! Your takeaways have been incredible!!
Today on the podcast, you will hear 12 mothers from our podcast community share their 3 takeaways…so that’s 36 takeaways in all! Get ready!
Don’t forget, you can get a copy of all 36 takeaways PLUS the takeaways from this entire month of episodes by signing up at 3in30podcast.com/takeaways.
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And thanks to the women who contributed to this episode!
Jody, ShaeLynn (@happyhealthyfrugalmom), Mary, Sarah (sarahbadatrichardson.com), Georgia (knowhowmom.com), Kalisha (@whyimother), Joy (regularcoolmom.com), Kristin (@heworksweplay), Lindsey (@momminutesaregold), Shawnee, Taffy (thejoyfulsoulproject.com), Chamaine (wanderingfamilies.com)
Have you ever been a little bit jealous, even of a good friend? I’m guessing the answer is YES because most of us face jealousy to varying degrees and in various forms throughout our lives.
In this episode, I talk openly with my dear friend and podcasting colleague, Monica Packer of About Progress, about how we have been jealous of each other at times–and what we’ve decided to *do* with that emotion.
Monica shares three “dive deep” questions to ask yourself if you recognize that you’re feeling jealous and if you want to use that feeling to become a better person and friend. (Yes, it’s possible!)
Don’t miss this honest, heartfelt episode, and let us know what it makes you think about in your own life!
Monica’s Website: https://aboutprogress.com/
Monica’s Podcast: https://aboutprogress.com/podcast/
Monica’s Progress Program: https://aboutprogress.com/progress-program/
Monica’s article on Power of Moms that started our friendship: https://powerofmoms.com/mothering-doesnt-come-naturally/
Episode 42 “How to Love Someone When It’s Complicated or Hard: Lessons from Open Adoption”: https://3in30podcast.com/open-adoption/
**Many thanks to our 3 in 30 birthday sponsor, Brightbox, the easy, affordable way to brighten someone’s day through happy mail! I love this company. Check them out!! https://brightboxes.shop
This episode couldn’t come at a better time. Lacey Parr, mother of three and devoted community-builder, reminds us that politics doesn’t have to be contentious–it can be about advocating with love for the issues that are the most important to us.
In this interview, Lacey teaches mothers…
*how to get involved in local government and policy in small but significant ways
*how to become a more balanced consumer of news
*where to start if we are passionate about a subject
*why busy mothers should even care–and how to bring our children along with us
…and much more!
Don’t miss this important episode. And don’t forget to register to vote! Mid-term elections are coming up.
Find out more about how to vote in your area: https://www.vote.org/