Do you laugh aloud at the thought of having a few minutes to meditate during busy days with your children? What if I told you that you could be meditating THE ENTIRE DAY, even in the midst of chaotic, everyday moments with your little minions?
Dr. Leah Weiss–an author, a mindfulness expert who studied with the Dali Lama, a professor at the Stanford Graduate School of Business, and a mother of three little children–teaches that this is possible. It just requires that we redefine (or rather, correctly define) the word “meditation.”
The word “meditation” is a translation from the Tibetan word “gom.” Dr. Weiss points out that a more literal definition of this word is simply “familiarization” or “getting to know your mind and heart.” When explained this way, busy moms can let go of visions of silent meditation rooms and burning incense (though those things are great too!) and instead embrace every moment with their children as an opportunity to “familiarize” themselves with their own hearts and minds. In fact, motherhood itself can become meditation.
Join me for this fascinating conversation with a renowned mindfulness expert who teaches us the Tibetan process of “dampa sum,” meaning “good in the beginning, good in the middle, and good in the end.”
“How We Work: Live Your Purpose, Reclaim Your Sanity, and Embrace the Daily Grind” by Dr. Leah Weiss https://amzn.to/2sz6Wby
“Motherhood Matters: Are You Willing to Suffer?” by Laura Fanucci: https://www.deseretnews.com/article/865638913/Motherhood-Matters-Are-you-willing-to-suffer.html
Ready or not, here it comes.
Yes, summer is here, my friends. Are you a mom who is giddy with excitement at the prospect of long summer days with your children? Or, like me, are you shivering in fear a little bit, thinking about all of that unstructured time that often leads to a lot of fighting, a lot of mess, and very little alone time for Mom?
Jamie Cook, a mother of four who is passionate about bringing magic and adventure to everyday moments with our kids, is on the podcast today to give us three tips to make this summer our best ever.
Her ideas are realistic and adaptable to every stage of life and style of mothering. She gives so many specific examples and stories, under each takeaway, so you are going to want a pen and paper ready!
**And don’t forget to give Rachel her birthday present. 😉 Leave a Review for 3 in 30 podcast this week!
Jamie’s Instagram Account: https://www.instagram.com/wander_and_scout/?hl=en
“How to Create a More Peaceful Home” podcast with information about family rhythms: https://3in30podcast.com/peaceful-home/
April Perry’s article about “Quiet Time”: https://powerofmoms.com/mommys-naptime-101-2/
Clock that turns green: https://amzn.to/2LtZkjq
Lisa Anderson who does theme weeks with her kids: https://www.instagram.com/thrivingmotherhood/
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Taryn Palmer’s POINTS System for her kids (see my Instagram for a full explanation):
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Our little kids come with big emotions—too big, it sometimes seems, for their little bodies. And sometimes (often?) those feelings just come bursting out in bizarre and irrational behaviors.
As parents, this can bring out the bizarre and irrational in us as well, despite our best intentions to stay calm and level-headed.
Today on the podcast, we have a parenting expert who is going to teach us how to coach our children through their emotions, so we can keep ahold of our own.
Georgia Anderson of knowhowmom.com is a wife, mother, stepmother, mother-in-law, and grandmother to 28 people she adores. She has taught parenting classes for three decades and is a Certified Active Parenting Instructor and a Gottman Trained Educator.
In this episode, she walks us through three of the steps to “emotion coach” our children through their big emotions:
1) Notice emotions when they are small.
2) Put words to emotions.
3) Set limits and problem solve.
There are so many gems and insights in this episode, as she walks me through a specific scenario when my six-year-old son got extremely angry. I think it will be helpful for you to hear me coached on how I can coach him. I have applied these steps in the weeks since this interview was recorded, and it has honestly changed my relationship with my son. Please listen!
Georgia’s website: knowhowmom.com
Georgia’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/knowhowmomtips/
Upcoming Emotion Coaching Workshop with Georgia: http://www.knowhowmom.com/class/emotion-coaching-for-parents-2/
Book Recommendation: Feelings Buried Alive Never Die by Karol K. Truman
“I got this crazy idea in my head 3.5 years ago to start a marriage blog, but I had so many doubts, like ‘Why would I do that? I’m not that great of a wife…’ But the idea just coming back and back… And eventually I kind of thought, ‘I can just try things and tell people how it went. I can experiment. I can conduct marriage experiments.”
This is the premise behind “Marriage Laboratory,” a marriage blog run by Celeste Davis and her husband Rich (who happens to be a real-life scientist studying immunology). This past year, she conducted experiments on the five love languages by simply focusing on one per month.
Today on the podcast, Celeste will share some of her experiments and outcomes in the following areas:
1) Words of Affirmation: Send your husband a loving note, text, or email every day for a month
2) Quality Time: Dedicate ten minutes every single night to just sitting and talking with your spouse, with no phones anywhere in sight!
3) Physical Touch: Have sex every other day for a month (don’t worry–she doesn’t get too steamy on this one, but her story is pretty fascinating)
Don’t miss this conversation with a wife and mother who is dedicating her life to loving her family better, in simple but profound ways.
-Celeste’s marriage blog, Marriage Laboratory: http://www.marriagelaboratory.com/
1) Words of Affirmation
-“42 Love Letter Prompts”: http://www.marriagelaboratory.com/blog/42-love-letter-prompts/
-“40 Loving Texts to Send RIGHT NOW to Make Your Partner’s Day”: http://www.marriagelaboratory.com/blog/40-loving-texts/
2) Quality Time
-“10-Minute Daily Connect Challenge”: http://www.marriagelaboratory.com/blog/10-minute-daily-connect-busy-couples/
-“The Ultimate Guide to Speaking the Love Language of Quality Time”: http://www.marriagelaboratory.com/blog/quality-time-love-language-guide/
-Article Rachel read about “bids for attention”: https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2014/06/happily-ever-after/372573/
3) Physical Touch
-“6 Resources for Spicing Up Your Marriage in the Bedroom”: http://www.marriagelaboratory.com/blog/spice-up-your-marriage/
-“What Would Happen If You Had Sex Every Other Day for a Month?”: http://www.marriagelaboratory.com/blog/sex-every-other-day/
-“46 Just Because Gift Ideas to Make Your Spouse’s Day”: http://www.marriagelaboratory.com/blog/just-because-gift-ideas/
-“DIY Anniversary Gifts (that we’ve actually made)”: http://www.marriagelaboratory.com/blog/diy-anniversary-gifts/
5) Acts of Service
-“The Best Way to Get Your Marriage Out of a Rut”: http://www.marriagelaboratory.com/blog/marriage-out-of-a-rut/
The first Valentines Day that my husband and I were dating, he showed up on my doorstep with flowers and a clue that started me on a scavenger hunt to romantic places all around our college town.
Seven years later, on our first Valentines Day as parents, he showed up on our doorstep with…a toilet plunger. (You’ll have to listen to the episode to get the full story!)
Yes, becoming parents can definitely affect the romance of Valentines Day a bit–but there’s no reason why this “holiday of love” has to be limited to just you and your spouse. February 14th can be a day to celebrate family love as well!
In this episode, my amazing sister Sarah McKenna, from the craft blog Bombshell Bling, shares three totally doable and super fun Valentines traditions for the entire family.
2) Heart Attacks: https://www.bombshellbling.com/heart-attack/
3) Love Letters to your Kids: https://www.bombshellbling.com/mushy-love-letters-a-february-tradition/
All three of these traditions can be adapted for little kids up to teenagers, and all of them will bring your family closer together. I hope you will give at least one of them a try, and let me know at my instagram account: @3in30podcast.
-Sarah’s craft blog: BombshellBling.com
-“32 Ways to Surprise Your Sweetie” by Rachel Nielson: https://www.bombshellbling.com/things-for-hubby-valentines-day/