As a follow up to our wonderful series with Katherine Reynolds Lewis (click to listen to Part 1 and Part 2), I knew I wanted to re-air Episode 19 with Chrissy Austin, a speech language pathologist with 18 years of experience teaching children the skills they need to self-regulate.
All of our kids get stuck in behaviors that are difficult for us and others to deal with–perhaps it’s whining, interrupting, fighting with siblings, or defiance. According to Chrissty, these neurological “loops” can be rewired. She does it every day in her private practice, and, in this week’s episode, she teaches us how to do it in our homes! We can follow this simple three-step process with our kids:
1) Identify the specific troublesome behavior, and then ask yourself, “What SKILL does my child need to learn in order to change this behavior?”
2) Sit down with the child and make a GOAL to learn the new skill. Have him or her make it visual by writing it down and/or drawing a picture. Consider adding a hand cue.
3) Offer positive reinforcement through verbal praise whenever the child is working on their goal, and consider adding additional reinforcement through earning privileges, if needed.
Chrissy offers so many fantastic tips and interesting bits of research throughout the interview. You won’t want to miss it, especially if you sometimes struggle with knowing how to help your children change.
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We’ve all heard the old saying, “Moms shouldn’t be allowed to get sick!” And it’s true–we shouldn’t! We need to take care of our families, and family life doesn’t just pause when Mom isn’t feeling well. It’s hard enough for the household to continue functioning for a week when Mom gets a bad cold or the flu, but when a mother faces chronic illness or pain, that can be a truly devastating trial.
I’ve personally had a taste of this because I was diagnosed with a chronic health condition several years ago, and the medication I take for it causes kidney stones. For me, the most difficult part is how discouraged I sometimes feel when I can’t care for my family in the way that I would like to.
Several months ago, in the midst of kidney stone pain, I reached out to Becky Farley and Candace Little, the founders of Mindful Art Company, and asked for their best tips on using mindfulness to cope with illness. They sent back the three takeaways that are the basis of our conversation today:
- Separate your pain from your suffering. Pain x Resistance = Suffering
- Allow pain to fix you. What is the pain telling you about what you or your body needs? Listen!
- Meditate. Tuning into your body instead of resisting it doesn’t necessarily take away the pain, but it makes it easier to deal with.
These three strategies have been so helpful to me as I’ve battled my own health problems the past year, and I hope they will help many mothers who are listening, as well.
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Journaling has always been extremely important to me, but in the past year, as I’ve gotten super busy with the podcast, I have neglected this hobby that gives me joy and peace. I purposely chose this episode to air as an “encore” because I need the reminder of how important it is to reflect on and record the experiences we are having as mothers. I am recommitting to journaling, even in my busiest seasons!
The guest is my little sister, Laura Webb–a mother of two young children (with another due any day!) and a Chemistry and Math teacher. She does not consider herself a writer, but she is a diligent journal keeper, and in this episode, she shares her ideas for easy ways that we can fit record-keeping into our busy lives as moms.
Listen in as Laura details ideas for how to…
- Use technology to help us capture memories
- Find routine times or triggers to remind us to journal
- Remember that something is better than nothing when it comes to documenting our lives
What are your best ideas for keeping records of your motherhood experience? Please share them in the comments or on Instagram @3in30podcast. We want to learn from you!
How to Journal as a Busy Mom (Rachel’s article for Power of Moms)
A month or so ago, I woke up early, before the rest of the house, and lay in the darkness with my heart pounding uncomfortably. It was a physical reminder of something that I don’t like to think about very often: I have chronic health problems that aren’t just magically going to disappear if I ignore them. It is up to ME to change my life and my habits to regain my health. No one else is going to do that for me.
In this episode, I share a bit more of my story, as well as the three steps I am taking in order to give myself a month-long pause:
1) Choose a finite length of time for your break.
2) Look at your calendar and ruthlessly eliminate or postpone any stressful commitments during that time. Don’t be afraid to tell the people in your life WHY you need a break and how they can support you.
3) Decide how you will use your time off to “get ahead” of your life and make changes that will help you reenter your life in a much better place.
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Sometimes when I hear the phrase “self care,” I like to dream about a massage, a pedicure, or a trip to the store by myself. Those are all great things, but often out of reach for daily life. In reality, having a simple, daily routine to get ready for the day is the easiest form of self care.
Alison Lumbatis, founder of Get Your Pretty On, is on the show today with a message advocating for every woman to feel pretty regardless of resources or time, and that is through simply getting ready for the day. Alison gives us encouragement and ideas to set every woman up for success through having a routine in place, taking inventory of what you already own, and having go-to formulas to make getting dressed simple and fun.
Alison’s website: https://getyourprettyon.com/
Alison’s Instagram: @_getyourprettyon
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