Most of us had some experiences or people in our childhoods that left a heavy mark. Making today’s topic on how to let go of hard stuff so important.
Sometimes we minimize these difficult moments because “it could have been worse.” But no matter what you faced growing up, we all need to process our experiences from childhood and examine how they’ve shaped us.
I was raised in a loving home with amazing parents, but a lot of my early years were spent worrying about my mom as she battled breast cancer for thirteen years; and then passed away when I was nineteen. This experience impacted me more than I ever realized until I went to counseling years later.
In this interview with Monica Packer of About Progress, I share the breakthroughs I had in counseling and three tools that taught me how to “let go” of hard stuff and move forward into healing:
How to Let Go
- Write letters (that you never have to send!) to process experiences or feelings that are burdening you.
- Think back to those activities and passions you loved as a child, and do them again.
- Envision yourself as a child and give yourself the grace, comfort and protection that you would a child in your life.
I hope this episode prompts some deep-thinking and deep-healing in your own life.
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He’s baaccck! Our favorite male guest is back on the podcast today teaching us how to communicate with our children in a way that builds trust.
Tony Overbay is a Licensed Family and Marriage Therapist and a father of four young adults, so he has professional and personal experience with this topic. Whether you are currently parenting teenagers, or you will be parenting teenagers in a few years, there is something for you in this episode!
Listen in to learn how to truly…
1) Invite open and honest communication, and practice not reacting to unexpected news/situations
2) Listen with empathy and recognize emotional bids (EFT)
3) Follow up with your children after serious conversations, to let them know that you heard them and care about them
-Tony’s first episode on 3 in 30, “How to Praise Your Child, Even When It Feels Like There is Nothing to Praise”: https://3in30podcast.com/praise/
-Tony’s website: tonyoverbay.com
-Tony’s podcast, The Virtual Couch: http://www.tonyoverbay.com/category/podcast/
–Tony’s top parenting book recommendation: Transforming the Difficult Child: The Nurtured-Heart Approach, https://amzn.to/2ucXf3C
-Emotionally-Focused Therapy, Sue Johnson: http://drsuejohnson.com/emotionally-focused-therapy-2/what-is-eft/
-Listeners in ARIZONA! I’m teaching a Declutter your Motherhood workshop on Saturday, September 21 with the amazing Mika Perry. Early bird pricing ends 7/29–so get your ticket now! All the details here: 3in30podcast.com/arizona
It’s TEEN MONTH at 3 in 30, and I’m so excited to kick it off with two of my motherhood mentors, Tiffany Sowby and Allyson Reynolds, who I met about seven years ago when I worked for the organization Power of Moms.
The transition into motherhood and the different stages of it often comes with unexpected loneliness. As our children get older, their needs change, and they need us in different ways than they did when they were young.
Tiffany and Allison have 9 children between them, ranging in age from 21 down to 10 years old, and according to them, “What is hard when kids are little is easy when they’re older, and what is easy when they’re little can be challenging as they get older.”
Today, Tiffany and Allyson are sharing three takeaways for combating “the unexpected loneliness of parenting teens”:
- Find friends in real life you can trust. Unlike so much of the parenting advice that comes through social media, sharing the heavier things requires privacy and connection.
- Seek out resources that are available, including professional help. Book, blogs, and podcasts are easier to find for moms of young children, but they are still out there for moms of teens! And everyone needs a therapist!
- Enjoy the good. Even though your teens aren’t with you as often, it is truly FUN when they are: in these years, you get to develop your friendship with them and see their unique personalities emerge.
It’s the week before Mother’s Day, so it only seemed appropriate that I air an encore episode about the woman who has impacted me the most: my own amazing mother. I originally aired this episode last July to honor my mom on the 15th anniversary of her passing away from breast cancer.
I do want to acknowledge before this episode starts that I know Mother’s Day can be a complicated holiday for many women. Some of us love the opportunity to have a little bit of extra pampering and spoiling; but for others, Mother’s Day brings feelings of guilt about the ways we feel like we’re falling short as mothers—or it brings feelings of sadness or even anger if our relationship with our own mothers is different than what we would like. Maybe we weren’t raised in loving homes, and the sting can be felt even more deeply on Mother’s Day.
I know that not every woman listening was lucky enough to be raised by a mother like mine. And next week on the show— my first week back from my “pause”— I’m interviewing an incredible woman about how to be a loving mother even if you weren’t raised by one.
I hope that you’ll come back next week to hear that inspiring episode, and that hearing about my mother today can encourage you and give you some ideas of small and simple ways that you can make a profound difference to your children—not by being a perfect mother, but just by being a mother who celebrates your children’s gifts and loves them without conditions. That’s who my mother was, and I’m so honored to share her with you today.
The holiday season is a beautiful and magical time for most of us–but it can also be a time of loneliness and heartache for those who have lost loved ones.
This episode is a reminder of the little things we can do to reach out to those who are grieving during this time of year.
Rachel Gainer, a mother of five including an angel baby, shares her experience of losing her 2-month-old daughter, Daphne. She talks about the meaningful ways that family and friends supported her during that enormous loss and in the years since.
Though this topic may seem a bit heavy, the episode is full of hope, love, and goodness, and it is sure to give you great ideas if you’ve ever wondered just what to do for someone who is hurting.
Don’t forget the invitation at the end of this episode: Please reach out this week to someone in your own life who could use some extra support and love as the holidays approach.
Rachel’s website: RachelRebuilt.com
Rachel’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rachel_rebuilt/
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