Posts Tagged ‘hard stuff’

091: How to Earn (And Keep) Your Teen’s Trust (Encore!) // Tony Overbay, LMFT

He’s baaccck!  Our favorite male guest is back on the podcast today teaching us how to communicate with our children in a way that builds trust.

Tony Overbay is a Licensed Family and Marriage Therapist and a father of four young adults, so he has professional and personal experience with this topic.  Whether you are currently parenting teenagers, or you will be parenting teenagers in a few years, there is something for you in this episode!

Listen in to learn how to truly…

1) Invite open and honest communication, and practice not reacting to unexpected news/situations

2) Listen with empathy and recognize emotional bids (EFT)

3) Follow up with your children after serious conversations, to let them know that you heard them and care about them

Show Notes

-Tony’s first episode on 3 in 30, “How to Praise Your Child, Even When It Feels Like There is Nothing to Praise”: https://3in30podcast.com/praise/

-Tony’s website: tonyoverbay.com

-Tony’s podcast, The Virtual Couch: http://www.tonyoverbay.com/category/podcast/

Tony’s top parenting book recommendation: Transforming the Difficult Child: The Nurtured-Heart Approach, https://amzn.to/2ucXf3C

-Emotionally-Focused Therapy, Sue Johnson: http://drsuejohnson.com/emotionally-focused-therapy-2/what-is-eft/

Important Announcement!

-Listeners in ARIZONA! I’m teaching a Declutter your Motherhood workshop on Saturday, September 21 with the amazing Mika Perry. Early bird pricing ends 7/29–so get your ticket now! All the details here: 3in30podcast.com/arizona

088: The Unexpected Loneliness of Parenting Teens // Tiffany and Allyson from The Sisterhood Podcast

It’s TEEN MONTH at 3 in 30, and I’m so excited to kick it off with two of my motherhood mentors, Tiffany Sowby and Allyson Reynolds, who I met about seven years ago when I worked for the organization Power of Moms.

The transition into motherhood and the different stages of it often comes with unexpected loneliness. As our children get older, their needs change, and they need us in different ways than they did when they were young.

Tiffany and Allison have 9 children between them, ranging in age from 21 down to 10 years old, and according to them, “What is hard when kids are little is easy when they’re older, and what is easy when they’re little can be challenging as they get older.”

Today, Tiffany and Allyson are sharing three takeaways for combating “the unexpected loneliness of parenting teens”:

  1. Find friends in real life you can trust. Unlike so much of the parenting advice that comes through social media, sharing the heavier things requires privacy and connection.
  2. Seek out resources that are available, including professional help. Book, blogs, and podcasts are easier to find for moms of young children, but they are still out there for moms of teens! And everyone needs a therapist!
  3. Enjoy the good. Even though your teens aren’t with you as often, it is truly FUN when they are: in these years, you get to develop your friendship with them and see their unique personalities emerge.

Show Notes

Tiffany and Allyson’s podcast: The Sisterhood Podcast
Instagram: @thesisterhoodpodcast

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080: Blessing our Children by Seeing their Gifts: A Musical Tribute to my Mama (Encore!)

It’s the week before Mother’s Day, so it only seemed appropriate that I air an encore episode about the woman who has impacted me the most: my own amazing mother. I originally aired this episode last July to honor my mom on the 15th anniversary of her passing away from breast cancer.

I do want to acknowledge before this episode starts that I know Mother’s Day can be a complicated holiday for many women. Some of us love the opportunity to have a little bit of extra pampering and spoiling; but for others, Mother’s Day brings feelings of guilt about the ways we feel like we’re falling short as mothers—or it brings feelings of sadness or even anger if our relationship with our own mothers is different than what we would like. Maybe we weren’t raised in loving homes, and the sting can be felt even more deeply on Mother’s Day.

I know that not every woman listening was lucky enough to be raised by a mother like mine. And next week on the show— my first week back from my “pause”— I’m interviewing an incredible woman about how to be a loving mother even if you weren’t raised by one.

I hope that you’ll come back next week to hear that inspiring episode, and that hearing about my mother today can encourage you and give you some ideas of small and simple ways that you can make a profound difference to your children—not by being a perfect mother, but just by being a mother who celebrates your children’s gifts and loves them without conditions. That’s who my mother was, and I’m so honored to share her with you today.

 

How to Support a Friend during the Holidays who has Lost a Loved One // Rachel Gainer

How to Support a Friend who has Lost a Child

The holiday season is a beautiful and magical time for most of us–but it can also be a time of loneliness and heartache for those who have lost loved ones.

This episode is a reminder of the little things we can do to reach out to those who are grieving during this time of year.

Rachel Gainer, a mother of five including an angel baby, shares her experience of losing her 2-month-old daughter, Daphne. She talks about the meaningful ways that family and friends supported her during that enormous loss and in the years since.

Though this topic may seem a bit heavy, the episode is full of hope, love, and goodness, and it is sure to give you great ideas if you’ve ever wondered just what to do for someone who is hurting.

Don’t forget the invitation at the end of this episode: Please reach out this week to someone in your own life who could use some extra support and love as the holidays approach.

Show Notes

Rachel’s website: RachelRebuilt.com

Rachel’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rachel_rebuilt/

**There are a few tickets left to my workshops in Idaho happening in January and February.  I’d love to meet you!  3in30podcast.com/workshops

 

 

 

 

054: What If I’m Jealous? // Monica Packer of About Progress

Have you ever been a little bit jealous, even of a good friend? I’m guessing the answer is YES because most of us face jealousy to varying degrees and in various forms throughout our lives.

In this episode, I talk openly with my dear friend and podcasting colleague, Monica Packer of About Progress, about how we have been jealous of each other at times–and what we’ve decided to *do* with that emotion.

Monica shares three “dive deep” questions to ask yourself if you recognize that you’re feeling jealous and if you want to use that feeling to become a better person and friend.  (Yes, it’s possible!)

Don’t miss this honest, heartfelt episode, and let us know what it makes you think about in your own life!

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Show Notes

Monica’s Website: https://aboutprogress.com/

Monica’s Podcast: https://aboutprogress.com/podcast/

Monica’s Progress Program: https://aboutprogress.com/progress-program/

Monica’s article on Power of Moms that started our friendship: https://powerofmoms.com/mothering-doesnt-come-naturally/

Episode 42 “How to Love Someone When It’s Complicated or Hard: Lessons from Open Adoption”: https://3in30podcast.com/open-adoption/

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