Posts Tagged ‘marriage’

095: 3 Simple Rituals of Connection for your Marriage // Nate Bagley

3 Simple Rituals of Connection for your Marriage with Nate Bagley by popular podcast 3 in 30: image of Nate Bagley and his wife sitting next to each other outside.

I’m so excited to have Nate Bagley on today’s podcast.  But before we dive right in, did you know that Drs. John and Julie Gottman are going to be in Utah in September to speak about “essential conversations for a lifetime of love?”

This. Is. Huge.

Whether you’re able to come to the event or not, I have Nate Bagley, founder of Utah Date Night and the Loveumentary podcast, here to talk about strengthening our marriages. We could talk about kids and parenting all day long, but we’ve all been told how vital it is to keep our marriage at the forefront of our priorities.  I don’t know about you, but mine gets neglected all too often in the midst of the busyness of raising children.

Nate Bagley teaches us about 3 simple “Rituals of Connection” for our marriages:

  1. The 6-second passionate kiss
  2. The weekly “State of Affairs” or “Marriage Meeting” 
  3. Connecting questions or power questions you can ask your partner every day that will make them feel loved and appreciated

And don’t forget to go to 3in30podcast.com/utahdatenight to get a ticket to see Drs. John and Julie Gottman speak AND meet me! I can’t wait to give you a hug!

 

Show Notes

See the Gottmans speak in Utah! 3in30podacst.com/utahdatenight for tickets and more information!

Nate’s website: Loveumentary.com 

UtahDateNight.com

What insight(s) from Nate Bagley did you like most?  Share in a comment below!

068: Healing After Betrayal in Your Marriage // Mika Perry of ‘Good to Be Home’ Podcast

They say love is patient; love is kind. But the truth is, sometimes it’s not EASY for love to be either of those things, especially when you are facing a devastating betrayal.

“Betrayal” can be discovering a spouse’s affair or addiction, learning that he/she has not been honest in their business dealings and has put the family’s well-being in jeopardy, and many other situations. You are faced with shattering grief, and often don’t know where to turn for support because the trial is so personal and involves someone else. It can feel so isolating.

Mika Perry—a mother, blogger, and professional organizer—has been there. In 2012 she discovered that her husband, Russ, was having an affair. Over the years since, she and Russ have worked toward healing and now openly share their story to help those suffering in silence.

Today on the show, Mika shares her experience of what life after betrayal looked like for her and how it ultimately led to a life of truth, abundance, faith, and purpose.

This is an incredibly personal and tender topic, and whether or not you choose to stay married after a betrayal, this episode will bring you hope. Please pass the episode along to someone who might need to know they are not alone.

Show Notes:

Mika’s Instagram: @mikaperry

Mika’s website: mikaperry.com

-The blog post where Mika first opened up about the affair:

Mika and Russ’ podcast “Good to be Home.” Episode 2 is where Mika and Russ share their story

Russ Perry’s book, The Sober Entrepreneur: starts with affair and goes through the process of getting sober and building a business.

If you are struggling with betrayal trauma, here are some resources:

Bloom for Women, an online community. Dr. Skinner’s course, “Rebuilding Trust After Sexual Betrayal” or find them on Instagram @bloomforwomen

Addorecovery.com -Utah based support; visit their website for locations and more information or find them on Instagram: @addo.recovery

Caitlin Olson, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, specializes in addiction recovery and betrayal trauma. You can find her on Instagram: @caitlinolsenmft

Sariah Hoffman, certified yoga therapist, of @backpocketyoga on Instagram

Ashlynn and Coby on Instagram: @ashlynnandcoby and their podcast “The Betrayed, The Addicted, The Expert” features 3 different perspectives on topics dealing with relationships, recovery, betrayal and addiction.

Rachel and Jenae specialize in betrayal trauma (BT)- find them on Instagram: @couchtalktime

Dorothy Maryon of Life Star in Salt Lake. They also have a St. George clinic.

Center for Hope and Healing in Lehi, UT

Betrayal Trauma Recovery btr.org

Books:

What Can I Do About Me? by Rhyll Ann Croshaw

Treating Trauma from Sexual Betrayal by Kevin Skinner

067: How to Accept when your Spouse Doesn’t Speak your Love Language

3 Strategies for Accepting & Respecting How Your Spouse Shows Love

Do you and your spouse speak the same love languages? My husband, Ryan, and I do *not.*

I am a words girl. I love them, I need them. My husband is a man of few words. He craves quality time.

There have been times in my marriage when I have resented that he doesn’t show me love in the “right” way, but in the past few years, I’ve found contentment and respect for how he shows love.

Listen to today’s episode for three strategies to love your spouse (and feel loved by your spouse), just as they are.

Show Notes

The 5 Love Languages” by Gary Chapman

Online quiz to discover your love language: https://www.5lovelanguages.com/profile/

Simple Ways to Speak your Partner’s Love Language” with Celeste Davis of Marriage Laboratory blog and Marriage Theraoke podcast

What Happened to my Sex Drive, and How Do I Get It Back?” with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife

 

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058: What Happened to my Sex Drive & What Can I Do to Get It Back? // Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife

What Happened to My Sex Drive & What Can I Do to Get It Back?

Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife is a licensed psychotherapist specializing in relationship and sexuality counseling. On today’s podcast, she discusses three common ways that women’s mindsets around sex can decrease our desire.

You’re going to want a pen and paper as you listen to this one. This woman is a genius, and she dives DEEP into our psyches! Get ready to take notes.

If you are interested in more of Dr. Finalyson-Fife’s work, go to http://www.finlayson-fife.com/ and check out her courses, which are 20% off through Christmas. I highly recommend!

Show Notes

Art of Desire Course: http://www.finlayson-fife.com/art-post-lms/

“How to Embrace Your Inner Hotness” by Leta Greene: https://www.amazon.com/How-Embrace-Your-Inner-Hotness-ebook/dp/B00N7VTACS

 

 

018: Speak Your Partner’s Love Language // Celeste Davis of Marriage Laboratory

Celeste Davis of the website Marriage Laboratory shares the "experiments" that she did with the five love languages

“I got this crazy idea in my head 3.5 years ago to start a marriage blog, but I had so many doubts, like ‘Why would I do that?  I’m not that great of a wife…’ But the idea just coming back and back… And eventually I kind of thought, ‘I can just try things and tell people how it went. I can experiment. I can conduct marriage experiments.”

This is the premise behind “Marriage Laboratory,” a marriage blog run by Celeste Davis and her husband Rich (who happens to be a real-life scientist studying immunology).  This past year, she conducted experiments on the five love languages by simply focusing on one per month.

Today on the podcast, Celeste will share some of her experiments and outcomes in the following areas:

 

1) Words of Affirmation: Send your husband a loving note, text, or email every day for a month

2) Quality Time: Dedicate ten minutes every single night to just sitting and talking with your spouse, with no phones anywhere in sight!

3) Physical Touch: Have sex every other day for a month (don’t worry–she doesn’t get too steamy on this one, but her story is pretty fascinating)

 

Don’t miss this conversation with a wife and mother who is dedicating her life to loving her family better, in simple but profound ways.

 

Show Notes

-Celeste’s marriage blog, Marriage Laboratory: http://www.marriagelaboratory.com/

The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman:

1) Words of Affirmation

-“42 Love Letter Prompts”: http://www.marriagelaboratory.com/blog/42-love-letter-prompts/

-“40 Loving Texts to Send RIGHT NOW to Make Your Partner’s Day”: http://www.marriagelaboratory.com/blog/40-loving-texts/

2) Quality Time

-“10-Minute Daily Connect Challenge”: http://www.marriagelaboratory.com/blog/10-minute-daily-connect-busy-couples/

-“The Ultimate Guide to Speaking the Love Language of Quality Time”: http://www.marriagelaboratory.com/blog/quality-time-love-language-guide/

-Article Rachel read about “bids for attention”: https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2014/06/happily-ever-after/372573/

3) Physical Touch

-“6 Resources for Spicing Up Your Marriage in the Bedroom”: http://www.marriagelaboratory.com/blog/spice-up-your-marriage/

-“What Would Happen If You Had Sex Every Other Day for a Month?”: http://www.marriagelaboratory.com/blog/sex-every-other-day/

4) Gifts

-“46 Just Because Gift Ideas to Make Your Spouse’s Day”: http://www.marriagelaboratory.com/blog/just-because-gift-ideas/

-“DIY Anniversary Gifts (that we’ve actually made)”: http://www.marriagelaboratory.com/blog/diy-anniversary-gifts/

5) Acts of Service

-“The Best Way to Get Your Marriage Out of a Rut”: http://www.marriagelaboratory.com/blog/marriage-out-of-a-rut/