Posts Tagged ‘mental health’

099: How to Talk to Your Kids About Sex // Kristin B. Hodson

Do you consider yourself the sex expert of your home? I know it seems like a big role — but it’s possible. Ninety-nine percent of what our kids need when they ask questions about their bodies is to know that we won’t shut them down. 

Today is the first in a series of episodes that I’m calling “You Are Your Child’s Most Important Teacher.” 

I am so grateful to have Kristin Hodson, certified sex therapist and mother of three, as our first guest in this series. Kristin is a true expert in the field of sexual health as she frequently teaches workshops to parents on this topic, writes for publications, teaches at the university-level, and counsels individuals about their sexuality in her private practice. 

Kristin’s three takeaways for becoming the sex expert of your home include…

  1. Expand your definition from sex to sexual health, and have a thousand one-minute conversations with your children about sexual health over the course of their lifetimes. 
  2. Become comfortable with your own sexual history and development so you’re comfortable talking about these topics with your kids. (For Kristin’s guide to figuring this out, make sure you’re subscribed to our emails here.)
  3. View talking to your kids about sex as a skill you will get better at with practice. 

Kristin is a wealth of knowledge and resources around sexual health, so make sure you check out her website or find her on Instagram! 

Show Notes:

Kristin’s website: kristinbhodson.com

Kristin’s Instagram: @kristinbhodson

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083: Are Kids Today Harder Than They Were In The Past? // Katherine Reynolds Lewis

There’s no question that parenting has been difficult for every generation– but has it always been this difficult? I’ll admit, my dreams of parenthood were idealized in many ways, but I often wonder if the day will ever come that my children actually stay in their seats at dinner long enough for good conversation and connection. I wonder if their big emotions and high energy will continue to affect our everyday lives, or if we will be able to have memorable outings that don’t require quite so much emotional energy with managing expectations and refereeing.

Katherine Reynolds Lewis,  an award-winning journalist and certified parent educator, had the same questions as she raised her own strong-willed children. The more she looked around at other parents and children, the more she realized that she wasn’t alone–kids today just seemed to be harder, even though parents devote more time and energy to their children than in any other generation.

This seeming epidemic of strong-willed kids with difficult behavior is the reason that she embarked on writing her book, The Good News About Bad Behavior– Why Kids Are Less Disciplined Than Ever and What to Do About It.

After years of incredibly detailed research, Katherine found there are three overarching reasons why  kids today have less ability to regulate their emotions, thoughts, and behaviors:

  1. The decline in unstructured play and outdoor time.
  2. The growth of media and technology .
  3. The increased focus on achievement and performance, instead of character and contribution.

In this episode, Katherine unpacks each of these areas and gives suggestions for what we as modern parents can do about it.

And don’t forget to come back next week for part two of this super interesting discussion!

Show Notes

Katherine’s website: katherinerlewis.com
Katherine’s Instagram: @katherinereynoldslewis
Katherine’s book: The Good News About Bad Behavior: Why Kids Are Less Disciplined Than Ever– and What To Do About It 

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082: How to Use Mindfulness to Cope with Pain or Illness as a Mom // Candace and Becky of Mindful Art Company

We’ve all heard the old saying, “Moms shouldn’t be allowed to get sick!” And it’s true–we shouldn’t! We need to take care of our families, and family life doesn’t just pause when Mom isn’t feeling well. It’s hard enough for the household to continue functioning for a week when Mom gets a bad cold or the flu, but when a mother faces chronic illness or pain, that can be a truly devastating trial.

I’ve personally had a taste of this because I was diagnosed with a chronic health condition several years ago, and the medication I take for it causes kidney stones. For me, the most difficult part is how discouraged I sometimes feel when I can’t care for my family in the way that I would like to.

Several months ago, in the midst of kidney stone pain, I reached out to Becky Farley and Candace Little, the founders of Mindful Art Company, and asked for their best tips on using mindfulness to cope with illness. They sent back the three takeaways that are the basis of our conversation today:

  1. Separate your pain from your suffering. Pain x Resistance = Suffering
  2. Allow pain to fix you. What is the pain telling you about what you or your body needs? Listen!
  3. Meditate. Tuning into your body instead of resisting it doesn’t necessarily take away the pain, but it makes it easier to deal with.

These three strategies have been so helpful to me as I’ve battled my own health problems the past year, and I hope they will help many mothers who are listening, as well.

Show Notes
-Instagram: @mindfulartco
-Website: mindfulartco.com 
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081: How to Be a Loving Mother Even if You Weren’t Raised by One // Sarah Badat-Richardson

The more I share my heart on this podcast, the more often people reach out to me and share their hearts and stories. And over the past year, many listeners have told me about their heartache over *not* being raised by a loving mother.

I’ve had listeners relay stories to me about mothers who were emotionally absent or even emotionally or physically abusive. These listeners confide in me what a sometimes overwhelming task it is to be a loving mother when you never really saw that modeled.

But these warrior mothers are doing all that they can to change the trajectory of that family pattern of parenting. To raise their own children with the love that they themselves were not given.

Today on the podcast, I have one of those warrior moms who’s going to share her insights on how to be a loving mother even if you weren’t raised by one. Sarah Badat-Richardson was born and raised in Reunion Island off the coast of South Africa, and she now lives in Hawaii. She’s a blogger and has also published articles on the website Power of Moms. She runs an international self-defense school with her husband, and she is a black belt in Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu. One of her greatest accomplishments is that she is the mother to a beautiful 9-year-old girl, and she works every day to overcome the difficult relationship she had with her own mother so she can become the mother she wants to be for her daughter.

Sarah shares some of her journey with us today, and her three insightful takeaways are:

  1. Accept your plight. Accept who your mother was or is, and accept that the way you were brought up is not your fault.
  2. Bring your healthiest self. Take care of your body through food, sleep, and nutrition, and take care of your soul by paying attention to your thoughts and words.
  3. Embrace who you are. Share your talents and passions with your children, and give yourself a pat on the back for every good thing you do.

 

Show Notes

Sarah’s blog: sarahbadatrichardson.com

Sarah’s essay she wrote in preparation for our interview: sarahbadatrichardson.com/how-to-be-a-good-mom-even-if-you-didnt-have-one

Will I Ever Be Good Enough? Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers by Dr. Karl McBride

Jody Moore’s podcast Better Than Happy

Sarah’s three favorite mothers in literature: 1. Ma from Little House on the Prarie, 2. Marmie from Little Women, 3. Jo from Little Men

Dr. Laura quote:
“You have two chances at a healthy parent-child relationship. The first time, you’re a child and you have no power. The second time, you’re the parent and you have all the power.”

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076: You Have Permission to Pause

You Have Permission to Pause

A month or so ago, I woke up early, before the rest of the house, and lay in the darkness with my heart pounding uncomfortably. It was a physical reminder of something that I don’t like to think about very often: I have chronic health problems that aren’t just magically going to disappear if I ignore them. It is up to ME to change my life and my habits to regain my health. No one else is going to do that for me.

In this episode, I share a bit more of my story, as well as the three steps I am taking in order to give myself a month-long pause:

1) Choose a finite length of time for your break.

2) Look at your calendar and ruthlessly eliminate or postpone any stressful commitments during that time.   Don’t be afraid to tell the people in your life WHY you need a break and how they can support you.

3) Decide how you will use your time off to “get ahead” of your life and make changes that will help you reenter your life  in a much better place.

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