In this week’s episode, you will hear from three amazing mothers, all with unique life experiences, who are going to help us feel excited and encouraged to have fun with our children this summer:
Molly Callister is a stay-at-home mom, travel enthusiast and writer of a family travel blog called Exploring Through Life. Molly and her family manage to travel at least once a month, and they have taken their two young children to 20 states and soon-to-be 10 countries, including Cuba. This is all on one income and without any special time off! Today she is sharing how to have more meaningful travel with your family this summer:
- A family trip with kids will never look like a trip without kids, and that’s okay. Be careful to balance their moods, interests and abilities when you schedule your days.
- It’s okay if your kids don’t remember their trip. The experiences your kids have while traveling shape their worldview and enrich the way they are learning and growing.
- Incorporate things that your children love to do into your vacation planning. Do they love riding bikes? Hiking? Trains?
- Identify your values, strengths, and passions. Make a list: what do you value? What do you consider to be most important in this life? What are you passionate about?
- Task craft: tailor your job as a mother to incorporate more of your strengths. (Doing more of what you enjoy and less of what you don’t.)
- Cognitive craft: if you can’t change the task, then perhaps you can change the way you think about it.
Job Crafting Workbook: https://
Julie Tobi is the creator of The Birth Journal, a guided journal for moms to write their birth story. She is also a life coach focusing on career pivots. She has a Masters degree in counseling and deep appreciation for growth and development. Today she is sharing three subtle shifts and tips to help increase mindfulness in our kids.
- Shift how we talk about time. Presenting time as if it’s something we don’t have enough of or that it’s “running out” can lead to a scarcity mentality and feels stressful to kids.
- Talk about the beauty in scenarios that aren’t typically perceived as favorable (ex: rainy day). This will help prevent our kids from thinking things have to be perfect for there to be beauty and enjoyment.
- Model enjoying the ride, not just the destination. Our kids feed off of our energy, and often we set the pulse in the family.
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Last week, Katherine Reynolds Lewis, the author of The Good News About Bad Behavior: Why Kids Are Less Disciplined Than Ever– And What to Do About It, taught us that children today are fundamentally different than past generations. Not because they’re born different, but because the world they are growing up in is so different. In previous generations, typical kids developed self-regulation skills through their day-to-day life of playing with friends, being outside, and working alongside their families. But modern cultural factors including less unstructured play and time outdoors, more exposure to media and technology, and more pressure from academic and extra curricular expectations are undermining the natural development of impulse control, self confidence and patience within our kids.
Katherine Reynolds Lewis spent over five years researching parenting and discipline techniques, and she found that there are many effective discipline methods in practice today that teach children how to take ownership of their choices and their emotions and gain the emotional skills they need to self regulate. These transformative discipline methods all share some common elements (that all happen to start with “C”):
- Connection: Relationship is the foundation. If we try to discipline our kids before we have that connection, it’s not going to go well.
- Communication: Asking questions, posing “what ifs” and getting more information helps children to process and build their problem-solving and critical-thinking skills
- Capability-building: We must focus on helping children build both life skills around the house and social and emotional skills.
If you missed last week’s episode, part one of this discussion, you are going to want to go back and listen to that!
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Our little kids come with big emotions—too big, it sometimes seems, for their little bodies. And sometimes (often?) those feelings just come bursting out in bizarre and irrational behaviors.
As parents, this can bring out the bizarre and irrational in us as well, despite our best intentions to stay calm and level-headed.
Georgia Anderson of knowhowmom.com is a wife, mother, stepmother, mother-in-law, and grandmother. She has taught parenting classes for three decades and is a Certified Active Parenting Instructor and a Gottman Trained Educator.
Georgia has become my dear friend and mentor, and I’m so happy to be re-airing our interview today. As part of my break this month (or my “pause”–see last week’s episode), I want to recommit to staying calm and coaching my two amazing kids through their big emotions. This is the type of parent that I truly want to be!
In this episode, Georigia walks us through three of the steps to “emotion coach” our children through their big emotions:
1) Notice and validate emotions when they are small.
2) Put words to emotions–phrased tentatively, so a child can feel ownership to correct you. Ex: “It seems like you are frustrated that your sister isn’t sharing with you. Is that right?”
3) Set limits and problem solve. (All feelings are acceptable, but not all behaviors are acceptable.)
There are so many gems and insights in this episode, as Georgia walks me through a specific scenario when my six-year-old son got extremely angry. I think it will be helpful for you to hear me coached on how I can coach him. I have applied these steps in the year since this interview was originally recorded, and it has honestly changed my relationship with my son. Please listen!
Georgia has recently announced “Know How Coach,” an online course focused on creating more joy and connection in your parenting journey. It’s a combination of recorded workshop sessions and live online group facilitation. (So you can be individually coached by her, like I was in this interview!) Visit her website for more information or to register.
Both myself and my assistant, Molly, have personally attended her classes and can attest to the powerful tools, storytelling, wisdom, and direction Georgia has to offer.
Georgia’s website: knowhowmom.com
Georgia’s Instagram: @knowhowmomtips
Parenting is not all Georgia is passionate about– check out her upcoming “Us Elevated” Workshop on May 3-4 in SLC, Utah to strengthen your marriage through this Gottman 7 Principles workshop.
Book Recommendation: Feelings Buried Alive Never Die by Karol K. Truman
There are so many things to consider when it comes to anticipating raising a child: will I ever sleep again? Will they be a picky eater? Will they be well behaved? Those are a few of the questions that went through my mind when I became a new mom. But when it comes to taking kids to the doctor, I didn’t think there was much to it. I thought it was something parents just did. I didn’t know my eyes would well with tears right alongside my toddler when the nurse administered him a shot, or what to say the next time when he asks if he has to get a shot again or even when he gets anxious just walking into the doctor’s office remembering his experience from last time.
Today’s guest, Shannon Tripp, is a mother of four and passionate about educating parents in all things first aid and safety for children. Shannon has been a pediatric nurse for more than 10 years, and today she shares a few simple tips to set our children up for success to have a positive experience at the doctor’s office. She urges parents to:
-pay attention to our own feelings and the words we use describing the doctor
-validate our kids’ feelings when they are scared
-and tell them what to expect at a doctor’s visit and what they have to look forward to after
I love how Shannon says that she sees the doctor’s office as “a place that gives parents opportunities to teach their children skills.” I know this episode will help both you and your children be more at ease when anticipating a visit to the doctor.
Parenting with Love and Logic by Foster Cline and Jim Fay
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In this stage of my life, I start most days to the sound of my children calling for me or running into my room. Before that, I started the day with the sound of my alarm clock signaling I needed to hurry as fast as I possibly could to get ready for work. This often sets the pace to go from one thing to the next in a frazzled state when I am constantly craving slow.
Crystal Paine, entrepreneur, mom, and founder of Money Saving Mom, is often asked how she does what she does, and it all comes down to starting her day with intention.
Crystal has years of experience encouraging women to be intentional when it comes to finance, family, and business. In this episode, she encourages us to develop the habit of serving our tomorrow self by first asking the question: What can you do the night before to set yourself up for success the next day?
Whether you have an intentional morning routine or hopes for developing one, we can’t wait to hear how you like this episode.
Make Over Your Mornings: 14-day online course to help you start your day with success: https://gr161.isrefer.com/go/MYM/rachelnielson/
Crystal’s website: https://moneysavingmom.com/
Crystal’s Instagram: @themoneysavingmom
Crystal and Rachel’s Power of Moms’ podcast: https://powerofmoms.com/ordinary-moms-can-make-extraordinary-difference-crystal-paine-rachel-nielson-episode-186/
Gretchen Rubin’s book, The Four Tendencies: https://amzn.to/2FUF8XD
Laura Vanderkamp’s book, What the Most Successful People Do Before Breakfast: https://amzn.to/2TbQc6x
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