Most of us had some experiences or people in our childhoods that left a heavy mark. Making today’s topic on how to let go of hard stuff so important.
Sometimes we minimize these difficult moments because “it could have been worse.” But no matter what you faced growing up, we all need to process our experiences from childhood and examine how they’ve shaped us.
I was raised in a loving home with amazing parents, but a lot of my early years were spent worrying about my mom as she battled breast cancer for thirteen years; and then passed away when I was nineteen. This experience impacted me more than I ever realized until I went to counseling years later.
In this interview with Monica Packer of About Progress, I share the breakthroughs I had in counseling and three tools that taught me how to “let go” of hard stuff and move forward into healing:
How to Let Go
- Write letters (that you never have to send!) to process experiences or feelings that are burdening you.
- Think back to those activities and passions you loved as a child, and do them again.
- Envision yourself as a child and give yourself the grace, comfort and protection that you would a child in your life.
I hope this episode prompts some deep-thinking and deep-healing in your own life.
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People are often amazed by just how close my sisters and I are to my dad. Our mom passed away when we were teenagers, so Dad planned our weddings, comes to help us after we have babies, and talks to us frequently about our lives.
I truly believe that the small but meaningful ways my dad bonded with us when we were young made all the difference when we lost our mom; we already had a solid relationship with him that has since blossomed into something truly beautiful and unique.
If you want a rock solid, life-long bond with your children, here are three easy ways that I learned from my dad:
- Play with them. Rely on small but consistent & memorable traditions.
- Talk with them. Show them you welcome and can handle their questions, and schedule regular times to check-in.
- Feel with them. Sit with them in their disappointments and their fears without trying to fix it.
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It’s the week before Mother’s Day, so it only seemed appropriate that I air an encore episode about the woman who has impacted me the most: my own amazing mother. I originally aired this episode last July to honor my mom on the 15th anniversary of her passing away from breast cancer.
I do want to acknowledge before this episode starts that I know Mother’s Day can be a complicated holiday for many women. Some of us love the opportunity to have a little bit of extra pampering and spoiling; but for others, Mother’s Day brings feelings of guilt about the ways we feel like we’re falling short as mothers—or it brings feelings of sadness or even anger if our relationship with our own mothers is different than what we would like. Maybe we weren’t raised in loving homes, and the sting can be felt even more deeply on Mother’s Day.
I know that not every woman listening was lucky enough to be raised by a mother like mine. And next week on the show— my first week back from my “pause”— I’m interviewing an incredible woman about how to be a loving mother even if you weren’t raised by one.
I hope that you’ll come back next week to hear that inspiring episode, and that hearing about my mother today can encourage you and give you some ideas of small and simple ways that you can make a profound difference to your children—not by being a perfect mother, but just by being a mother who celebrates your children’s gifts and loves them without conditions. That’s who my mother was, and I’m so honored to share her with you today.
A month or so ago, I woke up early, before the rest of the house, and lay in the darkness with my heart pounding uncomfortably. It was a physical reminder of something that I don’t like to think about very often: I have chronic health problems that aren’t just magically going to disappear if I ignore them. It is up to ME to change my life and my habits to regain my health. No one else is going to do that for me.
In this episode, I share a bit more of my story, as well as the three steps I am taking in order to give myself a month-long pause:
1) Choose a finite length of time for your break.
2) Look at your calendar and ruthlessly eliminate or postpone any stressful commitments during that time. Don’t be afraid to tell the people in your life WHY you need a break and how they can support you.
3) Decide how you will use your time off to “get ahead” of your life and make changes that will help you reenter your life in a much better place.
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On Monday, I released an episode about intuitive eating with one of my best friends, Taryn Palmer, who is a registered dietician and nutritionist. I knew that episode was really just going to be an introduction to that big and important topic, and I wanted to dig a little deeper and share more of my story.
So for today’s bonus episode, I am going to share three essays I wrote while I was in therapy for an eating disorder. I think through these three different pieces of writing, you’ll be able to see the progression that my recovery took, how much intuitive eating truly helped to free me, and where I’m at today:
2. The Surprising Way I Confronted my Eating Disorder (narrative therapy)
There are so many incredible therapists, registered dietitians, and resources to help you become more familiar with intuitive eating. Here are are some to get you started:
Intuitive Eating by Evelyn Tribole and Elyse Resch
THIS POST on my Instagram where I shared about this week’s episode is filled with great resources in the comments!