Posts Tagged ‘self care’

081: How to Be a Loving Mother Even if You Weren’t Raised by One // Sarah Badat-Richardson

The more I share my heart on this podcast, the more often people reach out to me and share their hearts and stories. And over the past year, many listeners have told me about their heartache over *not* being raised by a loving mother.

I’ve had listeners relay stories to me about mothers who were emotionally absent or even emotionally or physically abusive. These listeners confide in me what a sometimes overwhelming task it is to be a loving mother when you never really saw that modeled.

But these warrior mothers are doing all that they can to change the trajectory of that family pattern of parenting. To raise their own children with the love that they themselves were not given.

Today on the podcast, I have one of those warrior moms who’s going to share her insights on how to be a loving mother even if you weren’t raised by one. Sarah Badat-Richardson was born and raised in Reunion Island off the coast of South Africa, and she now lives in Hawaii. She’s a blogger and has also published articles on the website Power of Moms. She runs an international self-defense school with her husband, and she is a black belt in Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu. One of her greatest accomplishments is that she is the mother to a beautiful 9-year-old girl, and she works every day to overcome the difficult relationship she had with her own mother so she can become the mother she wants to be for her daughter.

Sarah shares some of her journey with us today, and her three insightful takeaways are:

  1. Accept your plight. Accept who your mother was or is, and accept that the way you were brought up is not your fault.
  2. Bring your healthiest self. Take care of your body through food, sleep, and nutrition, and take care of your soul by paying attention to your thoughts and words.
  3. Embrace who you are. Share your talents and passions with your children, and give yourself a pat on the back for every good thing you do.

 

Show Notes

Sarah’s blog: sarahbadatrichardson.com

Sarah’s essay she wrote in preparation for our interview: sarahbadatrichardson.com/how-to-be-a-good-mom-even-if-you-didnt-have-one

Will I Ever Be Good Enough? Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers by Dr. Karl McBride

Jody Moore’s podcast Better Than Happy

Sarah’s three favorite mothers in literature: 1. Ma from Little House on the Prarie, 2. Marmie from Little Women, 3. Jo from Little Men

Dr. Laura quote:
“You have two chances at a healthy parent-child relationship. The first time, you’re a child and you have no power. The second time, you’re the parent and you have all the power.”

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076: You Have Permission to Pause

You Have Permission to Pause

A month or so ago, I woke up early, before the rest of the house, and lay in the darkness with my heart pounding uncomfortably. It was a physical reminder of something that I don’t like to think about very often: I have chronic health problems that aren’t just magically going to disappear if I ignore them. It is up to ME to change my life and my habits to regain my health. No one else is going to do that for me.

In this episode, I share a bit more of my story, as well as the three steps I am taking in order to give myself a month-long pause:

1) Choose a finite length of time for your break.

2) Look at your calendar and ruthlessly eliminate or postpone any stressful commitments during that time.   Don’t be afraid to tell the people in your life WHY you need a break and how they can support you.

3) Decide how you will use your time off to “get ahead” of your life and make changes that will help you reenter your life  in a much better place.

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066: The Easiest Form of Self Care: Getting Ready for the Day // Alison Lumbatis of Get Your Pretty On

Sometimes when I hear the phrase “self care,” I like to dream about a massage, a pedicure, or a trip to the store by myself. Those are all great things, but often out of reach for daily life. In reality, having a simple, daily routine to get ready for the day is the easiest form of self care.

Alison Lumbatis, founder of Get Your Pretty On, is on the show today with a message advocating for every woman to feel pretty regardless of resources or time, and that is through simply getting ready for the day. Alison gives us encouragement and ideas to set every woman up for success through having a routine in place, taking inventory of what you already own, and having go-to formulas to make getting dressed simple and fun.

Show Notes:

Alison’s website: https://getyourprettyon.com/

Alison’s Instagram: @_getyourprettyon

Freebie for 3 in 30 listeners! Stay-At-Home Mom Casual Wardrobe Builder: getyourprettyon.com/3in30podcast

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061: Avoiding Bedtime Battles // Marietta Paxson, LMFT

SLEEP WEEK continues! In this bonus episode with Marietta Paxson, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, we talk about real scenarios she faces as a therapist, sleep consultant, and mom.

Marietta has seen in both her clients and her own children how sleep impacts behavior and health. She shares tips for creating boundaries around bedtime routines, how to curb endless bedtime requests, and more.

Marietta runs Little Dreamers, a priceless resource where she works with families to make an individualized plan to help their infants and toddlers get the sleep they need. If you have ever wondered if a sleep consultant might be able to help your child, don’t hesitate to visit Marietta’s website and book a free 15-minute call! 

And in case you missed it, don’t forget to check out Monday’s episode with Dr. Katie Penry where she and I discuss newborn sleep and how it can impact the mental health of a mom.

Show Notes:

Marietta’s website: littledreamers.us

Marietta’s Instagram: @littledreamers.us

Check out her FREE Q+A on Facebook and Instagram every week where you can submit a question:

https://www.facebook.com/littledreamers.us/

Newborn sleep workshop in Pleasant Grove, Utah: “Exhausted Mama, No More.” Listeners can use code “3in30” to get 25% off!

https://www.littledreamers.us/newborn-sleep

 

Other Related Resources:

033: Getting Your Kids to Do Quiet Time: https://3in30podcast.com/quiet-time/

060: 3 Facts You MUST Know about Infant Sleep: https://3in30podcast.com/infant-sleep/

 

**There are just a handful of tickets left to Rachel’s “Declutter your Motherhood” workshops in Idaho! Check out the info here: https://3in30podcast.com/workshops/

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060: Three Facts about Infant Sleep You MUST Know // Dr. Katie Penry

3 Facts You MUST Know about Infant Sleep

It’s SLEEP WEEK here at 3 in 30!  This week I will be bringing you TWO episodes from two different sleep experts, each focusing on a different aspect of how to get your little ones to sleep well. (Because I don’t know about you, but when I’m exhausted because my littles won’t sleep, everyone in the family suffers!)

Today on the show we have a guest who is a fan favorite, Dr. Katie Penry, a specialist in maternal and infant mental health. She and I discuss newborn sleep and how it can impact the mental health of a mom.  Dr. Penry is such an encourager and even protector of mothers–and this episode will give you permission to make decisions about your family’s sleep that will benefit both your baby AND you.

Come back on Thursday for a follow-up episode from a sleep consultant who will teach us how to avoid bedtime battles with our toddlers and preschoolers (and even elementary schoolers!).

This is going to be a fun and different week at 3 in 30.  Don’t miss it!

Show Notes

25 Infant Sleep Tips: afriendlyaffair.com/25sleeptips

Newborn 101 Course: https://afriendlyaffair.teachable.com/p/introduction-to-parenting/

“Happiest Baby on the Block” DVD: https://amzn.to/2S4VvE7

Happiest Baby on the Block by Dr. Harvey Karp: https://amzn.to/2USjKXR

Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child by Dr. Marc Weissbluth: https://amzn.to/2LnF6s6

Bringing Up Bebe by Pamela Druckerman: https://amzn.to/2UR7hE1

Episode 23 “How to Stop Looking at Your Phone So Much–and Why It Matters”: https://3in30podcast.com/phones/

Episode 41″How to Really See Your Child and Help Them See You”: https://3in30podcast.com/look-with/

Dr. Katie Penry’s website: afriendlyaffair.com

Dr. Katie Penry’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/afriendlyaffair/?hl=en

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