Posts Tagged ‘technology’
089: When Should I Give My Teen a Cell Phone? // Andrea Davis of Better Screen Time
When I was a senior in high school, my parents got me my first cell phone so I could touch base with them if I was at after school activities or out with friends. This was not a big decision for them. My simple phone was harmless– it did not have the internet or even texting.
Oh how times have changed. Today, parents have to consider so many more factors before handing over a phone to their children, because with smartphones, teens can be exposed to cyber bullying, sexting, pornography, increased comparison with others, etc.
Today’s guest, Andrea Davis, is a mother of five and the founder of Better Screen Time. She is passionate about helping parents navigate technology. She does not want us to feel afraid but rather empowered with tools and know-how to make smart, safe decisions regarding technology within our families. Here are three takeaways to help us decide when to give our teens a smart phone:
- Find five parents who are just a few years ahead of you in parenting and ask them how they have handled technology and cell phones with their children.
- Work with your family to create healthy tech boundaries. It’s important to give our kids some ownership in our family technology plan and the opportunity to share their opinions and thoughts.
- Listen to your gut, but also listen to your teen. This will help them learn the “why” behind the decisions you make.
Show Notes
Andrea’s website: betterscreentime.com
Andrea’s Instagram: @betterscreentime
Here are the great resources Andrea mentioned in the interview:
- Grab Your Free Quick Guide to Creating a Family Technology Plan
- Am I Ready for a Personal Device? {A Self-Evaluation for Teens}
- Feature Phone to Smart Phone: A Four-Phase Process
More helpful links:
- Is My Teen Ready for a Cell Phone?
- How to Help Your Teen Transition to a Smartphone
- Screen Time Check-In
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041: How to Really See your Children and Help them See You // Part 2 with Dr. Katie Penry, LCP
She’s back!! In April, Dr. Katie Penry taught us “how to stop looking at our phones so much–and why it matters.” Now she is back on the show to teach us the next step in this process.
Listen in as this licensed clinical psychologist, who is also a mother of two children, teaches us very doable steps to build the kind of relationships with our kids where we truly see and respect them for who they are–and they do the same for us in return.
Dr. Penry is a treasure-trove of practical knowledge for families. You don’t want to miss this episode!
Show Notes
-Part 1 with Dr. Katie Penry, “How to Stop Looking at Your Phone So Much–And Why It Matters”: https://3in30podcast.com/phones/
-Look Up Challenge: https://afriendlyaffair.lpages.co/look-up-challenge/
-Dr. Penry’s eCourse: Your Child’s Fundamental Needs: afriendlyaffair.com/needs
-Meditations from a Toolshed, C.S. Lewis: http://www.pacificaoc.org/wp-content/uploads/Meditation-in-a-Toolshed.pdf
I want to meet you!
-Rediscover YOU! Workshop in Utah (September 28-29): https://www.eventbrite.com/e/rediscover-you-workshop-tickets-47833978718
-The Pearl Conference In Las Vegas, NV (November 17): https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-pearl-conference-a-conference-for-mothers-tickets-48097368524
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023: How to Stop Looking at your Phone So Much–And Why It Matters // Dr. Katie Penry, Licensed Clinical Psychologist
“Parents act as mirrors for their children. Children learn who they are in the reflection of another person’s watchful gaze.”
Dr. Katie Penry, a licensed clinical psychologist and mother of two young children, is on the podcast today teaching us the brain research behind why we need to look up from our phones and engage more with our little children.
And she doesn’t just tell us WHY to do this…she also tells us HOW! Listen in as she explains each of the following takeaways:
1) Decide on some sacred spaces and places where you will not use your phone. (This matters more than arbitrary time limits for yourself.)
2) Tell your kids what you are doing when you are looking at your phone.
3) Use your phone’s non-notification settings to help you be present at important times of day.
Listen to the podcast as an introduction to Dr. Penry’s work, and then head to her website to sign up for her email course called the “Look Up Challenge”: afriendlyaffair.com/lookupchallenge
Fascinating Facts from the Interview:
-Almost 80% of your child’s brain development happens from age 0-3 years, through consistent verbal and non-verbal interaction with their parents
-Look at your baby and attune to who they are and what they love–react to each other–Harvard Psychologists call this “Serve and Return”
-Daniel Stern, a renowned American psychologist, found that 70%-80% of the time that your baby is alert, he/she is looking at you.
-Babies are born able to see the exact distance from their biological mother’s eye to nipple. (!!!)
Show Notes:
-Dr. Katie Penry’s FREE email course, the #LookUpChallenge”: https://afriendlyaffair.lpages.co/look-up-challenge/
-Sign up to receive a monthly PDF of all the podcast takeaways: 3in30podcast.com
-Dr. Katie Penry’s website: https://www.afriendlyaffair.com/
-Dr. Katie Penry’s Instagram account: https://www.instagram.com/afriendlyaffair/
-Children’s book about the life of Nelle Harper Lee, the author of To Kill a Mockingbird: https://www.amazon.com/Alabama-Spitfire-Story-Harper-Mockingbird/dp/0062456709
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