004: How to Stop Yelling at your Kids // Ralphie Jacobs of Simply on Purpose

How to Stop Yelling at your Kids with Ralphie Jacobs featured on top US mom podcast, 3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms Podcast

“The prerequisite to all other parenting principles is to be in control of yourself as the parent. And this is the major struggle for parents. They feel like they are standing on the sidelines helpless, and their children are running rompus around them and all over them…But this can easily be changed. We should not feel like victims in our own households. We can find joy and delight in working in our own homes.”

Ralphie Jacobs is a mother to four girls, ages 3-14, and the founder of the popular Instagram account @simplyonpurpose. Her account has experienced incredible growth from when it started just a year ago because so many mothers are thirsting for her wise, compassionate, and positive parenting advice.

It was an honor to have her on the show, and in this episode she will teach us how to stop yelling at our kids by being in control of ourselves. But how do we do that, especially in the moment when anger is building? Ralphie explains how we must:

  1. Listen to the right story
  2. Use time to our advantage
  3. Model being happy

Listen in as Ralphie and I dive into these principles a little more deeply and give practical advice of how to apply them in your home.

As always, I would love to hear from you! Let me know in the comments which strategies stay with you the most and what works with your children.

Quote from Ralphie

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  1. Christy on 11/08/2017 at 4:16 PM

    Love this. Such great tools!!

    • Rachel Nielson on 11/12/2017 at 11:16 PM

      Isn’t she amazing?? This gave me so much to think about!

  2. Sarah Badat Richardson on 05/30/2018 at 12:53 AM

    She NEVER yells!??? I’m in awe. That’s pretty much the only superpower I wish I had. Controlling my temper has been an ongoing process. I’m better but still not where I want to be. 🙁

    • Rachel Nielson on 05/30/2018 at 8:22 AM

      I’ve heard her admit that she used to yell sometimes. Yes, I definitely want to control my temper as well, and I am getting better at it! But I also think it’s okay for a mom to lose it on occasion…it’s good for our kids to see that we aren’t perfect. And it’s good for us to have to apologize to them and for them to see what that looks like. Have you listened to the recent episode about coaching our kids through their big emotions? She talks about how important it is to NOT be perfect as a parent. It’s freeing!

  3. Sarah Badat Richardson on 05/31/2018 at 12:27 AM

    I’m working my way backwards catching up on listening to episodes I missed while traveling.
    I’ll listen to that one next. I’m definitely good at apologizing and better at putting myself in time out before it gets out of hand. Still, I don’t like the idea that I am not in control of myself.
    My husband is super even tempered so the contrast doesn’t work in my favor either ☹️

  4. Elyse on 02/14/2019 at 8:36 PM

    Loved this podcast! When emotions get caught up, I have a hard time figuring out the best way to help my son figure out his emotions, books have always helped him. He is only 2.5 but I am wondering if there is a book that helps with show and describe emotions?

    • Rachel Nielson on 08/26/2019 at 11:03 PM

      SO sorry I am just now seeing this! I highly recommend episode 77 of my podcast and also reading/listening to Dr Laura Markham’s books!

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