It’s the week before Mother’s Day, so it only seemed appropriate that I air an encore episode about the woman who has impacted me the most: my own amazing mother. I originally aired this episode last July to honor my mom on the 15th anniversary of her passing away from breast cancer.
I do want to acknowledge before this episode starts that I know Mother’s Day can be a complicated holiday for many women. Some of us love the opportunity to have a little bit of extra pampering and spoiling; but for others, Mother’s Day brings feelings of guilt about the ways we feel like we’re falling short as mothers—or it brings feelings of sadness or even anger if our relationship with our own mothers is different than what we would like. Maybe we weren’t raised in loving homes, and the sting can be felt even more deeply on Mother’s Day.
I know that not every woman listening was lucky enough to be raised by a mother like mine. And next week on the show— my first week back from my “pause”— I’m interviewing an incredible woman about how to be a loving mother even if you weren’t raised by one.
I hope that you’ll come back next week to hear that inspiring episode, and that hearing about my mother today can encourage you and give you some ideas of small and simple ways that you can make a profound difference to your children—not by being a perfect mother, but just by being a mother who celebrates your children’s gifts and loves them without conditions. That’s who my mother was, and I’m so honored to share her with you today.
A month or so ago, I woke up early, before the rest of the house, and lay in the darkness with my heart pounding uncomfortably. It was a physical reminder of something that I don’t like to think about very often: I have chronic health problems that aren’t just magically going to disappear if I ignore them. It is up to ME to change my life and my habits to regain my health. No one else is going to do that for me.
In this episode, I share a bit more of my story, as well as the three steps I am taking in order to give myself a month-long pause:
1) Choose a finite length of time for your break.
2) Look at your calendar and ruthlessly eliminate or postpone any stressful commitments during that time. Don’t be afraid to tell the people in your life WHY you need a break and how they can support you.
3) Decide how you will use your time off to “get ahead” of your life and make changes that will help you reenter your life in a much better place.
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On Monday, I released an episode about intuitive eating with one of my best friends, Taryn Palmer, who is a registered dietician and nutritionist. I knew that episode was really just going to be an introduction to that big and important topic, and I wanted to dig a little deeper and share more of my story.
So for today’s bonus episode, I am going to share three essays I wrote while I was in therapy for an eating disorder. I think through these three different pieces of writing, you’ll be able to see the progression that my recovery took, how much intuitive eating truly helped to free me, and where I’m at today:
2. The Surprising Way I Confronted my Eating Disorder (narrative therapy)
There are so many incredible therapists, registered dietitians, and resources to help you become more familiar with intuitive eating. Here are are some to get you started:
Intuitive Eating by Evelyn Tribole and Elyse Resch
THIS POST on my Instagram where I shared about this week’s episode is filled with great resources in the comments!
“The truth is, I don’t like motherhood–and I desperately want to.”
In August of 2016, I wrote these words in an email to a woman I’d never met before but had admired from afar, asking for her advice. At the heart of my message was this question: “How can I learn to love motherhood more?”
My kids were 5 and 2 at the time, and long days at home with them were brutal for me, despite my best efforts to be a patient and fun mom. I felt lost and unfulfilled–but too embarrassed to admit just how desperate I felt to anyone in my real life. It was safer to reach out to someone distant, and that’s why I emailed one of my mom-heroes from Instagram, Kelly Jensen.
I never would’ve believed that just over two years later, I would be talking to Kelly on my very own podcast, reading her that heartfelt plea for help I sent I sent via email and sharing her response with moms all over the world.
It was thrilling for me to interview Kelly for this week’s episode. She’s a mother of five who is known for her contagious love of family life, with her seasonal “Live Lists” and love letters to her children (#wordsformybabies). In this episode, she cheers every mother on with the reminder to value who we are as individuals–and know that it’s enough.
-Kelly’s Instagram: @kellyejensen
-I am so excited to announce “Declutter your Motherhood Extended,” which starts with a kickoff workshop on Saturday, April 13 at Eleve Event Center in Pleasant Grove, UT, and continues for 30 days with mentoring and support. Go to 3in30podcast.com/workshops for more information and tickets!
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Sometimes when I hear the phrase “self care,” I like to dream about a massage, a pedicure, or a trip to the store by myself. Those are all great things, but often out of reach for daily life. In reality, having a simple, daily routine to get ready for the day is the easiest form of self care.
Alison Lumbatis, founder of Get Your Pretty On, is on the show today with a message advocating for every woman to feel pretty regardless of resources or time, and that is through simply getting ready for the day. Alison gives us encouragement and ideas to set every woman up for success through having a routine in place, taking inventory of what you already own, and having go-to formulas to make getting dressed simple and fun.
Alison’s website: https://getyourprettyon.com/
Alison’s Instagram: @_getyourprettyon
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